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To ask her to change it?

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Leprechaunsundays · 08/04/2021 16:38

I’m 7 months pregnant and DH and I finally have a girls name we love. It’s pretty unusual and we don’t know a single person with it. It’s something like 900th in popularity. We haven’t told anyone this name.

My friend just got a new puppy last week and posted a picture on Facebook of it announcing this same name! I immediately messaged her and said I was really sorry but that was the name we had chosen for our DD and can she choose something else. She just did the laughing emoji react to my message and then sent back “Haha that’s hilarious we chose the same one! It is a cool name though!”. She didn’t agree to change it, that’s all she said. But I assumed she understood and would do the decent thing.

Anyway today she posted again on Facebook that she had made an Instagram account for this puppy... and the name was still the same!!! What should I message her next? I thought she understood last time and now it’s just awkward to have to say it again

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CrankyFrankie · 09/04/2021 23:10

You sound super cute if a little batshit - I’m guessing you’ll have a boy after all this anyway!

Can’t believe you were going to name your daughter Fido though, that’s just cruel.

Nearly47 · 09/04/2021 23:15

This can't be real.
My sister stole the name I always dreamed of calling my firstborn. But she had her baby 2 years before me. I was annoyed for 5 seconds and now I can brag my nephews name was chosen by me.
It really isn't a big deal. Once the baby is born you might even think of a different name. Please keep in my mind that is a name that he/she will have to live with for their entire life. So do consider how the name will look on a CV, if she will be teased at school, etc. That's far more important imo

Elliepme · 09/04/2021 23:16

I was calling my daughter daisy all through my pregnancy to the point people were calling her daisy when she was born. A few weeks before the birth my mother in law’s neighbor called their new puppy daisy. Never would I have said you have to choose another name. I still love the name but went with something else and really love her name and fits her much better. Can u not use it as a middle name? The dog will be dead by time she’s a teenager! Or at least really old

beingsunny · 09/04/2021 23:32

I wouldn't worry, I had a horse with the same name as my sister and my cousin had a horse with the same name as my niece, my cousin had the horse before my niece was born and still after. And yes we were all extremely close growing up so not distant never seen relatives.

I don't remember anyone making a big thing of it...

huuskymam · 09/04/2021 23:41

@Leprechaunsundays

If we have a boy this time we’ll still keep the girls name for next time. I really thought nobody else would pick it as it was so unusual. I feel like now she’s picked it for her dog and even made an Instagram account for the dog, it might become more popular now because other people will have heard of it. So not only has she ruined it for this baby, but also for our next baby in case we don’t have a girl this time,

I actually think she maybe found out somehow even though we never told anyone.

She hasn't ruined anything. She picked a name for her pet which happens to be the same you picked for your child. Plus you're not Sure if you're having a girl, but you expect her to change her pets name. She's not psychic, how could she know the name when you didn't tell anyone. You're being very unreasonable and a bit precious.
Missingthebridegene · 09/04/2021 23:48

I totally understand your disappointment OP but she's not done anything wrong so she's nothing to 'come to her senses' about. She didn't knowingly take the name, just pure coincidence. If it's the 900th most popular name then chances are it's not going to suddenly become very popular so I wouldn't worry there! X

Nillynally · 09/04/2021 23:51

Oh behave

Wateruniform · 09/04/2021 23:52

My youngest niece was named after the hamster the family had at the time.

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 10/04/2021 00:04

I say I say I say, did you ever hear the one about the telepathic dog whistler? 🤣🤣🤣

Gooseysgirl · 10/04/2021 00:08

Oh ffs OP, you need to get a grip. Seriously.

StillMedusa · 10/04/2021 00:08

I called my new puppy Orla... at the same time as my boss had her baby..Orla. We both found it funny..and neither have suffered Grin

LizB62A · 10/04/2021 00:18

I actually think she maybe found out somehow even though we never told anyone.

Is your friend a psychic ?
How do you think she found out if you never told anyone?!

PourMeAVino · 10/04/2021 00:44

My friend called her puppy the same name as my husband (not an unusual name but not that common). I was kind of 🙄🙄 at first but hey, it's just a name ... never sweat the small stuff x

Mamanyt · 10/04/2021 01:13

I hope that this is some sort of trolling question, or you're having a bit of a go with us...

That said, I also get that pregnancy hormones can make the best of us a little crazy, and I'll give you a pass on those grounds. How is it a problem that your friend gave her puppy, whom she loves, the same name that you have picked? People give pets "human" names all the time. It is only a big deal in your own mind. Let it go, use the name you love, and, for GOODNESS SAKE, if you meet the puppy, don't hold it against her!

snugglepuff · 10/04/2021 03:49

@Leprechaunsundays Phyllis... is this you? Are you finally back?

JuliaHulia · 10/04/2021 04:21

I'm pretty sure my Dd shares her name with a bunch of dogs and cats 🤷‍♂️ it really doesnt matter.

Lille4 · 10/04/2021 05:57

@Leprechaunsundays

I’m just really upset because it took us so long to find a name like that and now if we do have a DD (we’re not finding out the gender until birth) she has to share it with a dog!! I just thought being my friend she would respect my wishes
I honestly think this is a wind up. Thanks for the laugh 😂
Ddot · 10/04/2021 06:26

You asked she ignored, tough!
If you had told her your chosen name and she pinched it that would be different. As I can gather you didn't so it was just unfortunate. If you love the name still go with it, dogs only live for around 15years.

bathmatty · 10/04/2021 06:32

So not only has she ruined it for this baby, but also for our next baby in case we don’t have a girl this time,

Is this a joke, you are copying her! what about respecting her choice?

bathmatty · 10/04/2021 06:34

We have been friends for years and I can’t believe she would do this

She chose a name, that's all she did.

PandemicPalava · 10/04/2021 06:56

I regularly meet cats and dogs with my dd's name. I was once in the same situation when my sister was pregnant and I named my cat her chosen name. She got really cross and asked me to change it: I didn't and she got over it. Pregnancy hormones

Billandben444 · 10/04/2021 07:11

Perhaps your friend 'knows' your husband and he leaked the name?

(a joke)

LittleMG · 10/04/2021 07:51

Massive round of applause for this lady who has genuinely taken on board what people have said. Choosing a baby name is incredibly difficult x

Maves · 10/04/2021 07:59

If this is real..yes you can be upset BUT what she didn't know. And tbh it can't be that unusual if she chose it for a dog! I'd honestly pick a diff name as you'll be sick of hearing it by the time you pop. You don't even know you are Having a girl which makes it more daft!

Like a pp said is there any chance your oh told someone the name? As it seems a big coincidence,,,, also what is the name @Leprechaunsundays

MaMaD1990 · 10/04/2021 08:01

I'm on awe of OP - the thread is still going 🤣