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To ask her to change it?

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Leprechaunsundays · 08/04/2021 16:38

I’m 7 months pregnant and DH and I finally have a girls name we love. It’s pretty unusual and we don’t know a single person with it. It’s something like 900th in popularity. We haven’t told anyone this name.

My friend just got a new puppy last week and posted a picture on Facebook of it announcing this same name! I immediately messaged her and said I was really sorry but that was the name we had chosen for our DD and can she choose something else. She just did the laughing emoji react to my message and then sent back “Haha that’s hilarious we chose the same one! It is a cool name though!”. She didn’t agree to change it, that’s all she said. But I assumed she understood and would do the decent thing.

Anyway today she posted again on Facebook that she had made an Instagram account for this puppy... and the name was still the same!!! What should I message her next? I thought she understood last time and now it’s just awkward to have to say it again

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Dayofpeace · 08/04/2021 18:19

I’m sure you’ve put lots of work into identifying this fabulously unusual name OP, but did you know you will likely be spoiling your DC’s life-chances by using it? (Lower self-esteem, higher loneliness, higher rates of depression, worse life chances and careers). But hey! If it makes you think you’re cool and with a “unique” child, then great! 🙄

But I suspect your friend’s dog will be doing your child a massive favour if you decide not to use the name after all.

OwlinaTree · 08/04/2021 18:19

Seems OK to me.
I've had pets called Simon, Jessica, Sophie, etc, and known people with those names. So what?

Simon! What type of animal was Simon?

I lolled at this too for some reason! Simon the snake?

Saltyslug · 08/04/2021 18:20

Over reaction on your part. Both your child and the dog can have the name. It’s not a big deal. I think you’re being precious and demanding

Blankspace101 · 08/04/2021 18:21

This has to be a joke!

lockdownalli · 08/04/2021 18:22

Whatever you name your child, there will be a dog/cat/other child named the same.

Either your hormones are doing you no favours or you have major entitlement issues.

HUGE over reaction OP.

Hyppogriff · 08/04/2021 18:22

Yabu! She doesn’t have to change it ! You can still use it. You don’t even know whether you’re having a girl - sorry you can’t lay dibs on a name especially if you had not told your friend that you had your heart set on that name. You’d be a bit mental to try to insist that she change it .

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 08/04/2021 18:25

@Leprechaunsundays

I understand what you are all saying now. Sorry I was just taken aback but I do get it now you have all given me another point of view to think about.

I don’t want to lose my friend. Do you think I should just pretend I was joking? What should I say? I’m worried now she will think I’m mad

@Leprechaunsundays - I’m sure that a good friend will understand that pregnancy hormones and their effect on your emotions, made you act out of character. Please don’t worry.
lifeinlimbo2020 · 08/04/2021 18:26

@cherrytreecottage tbf. I ended up having a boy so it was a moot point and it was literally coincidence as I hadn't discussed names at all so there was not even a discussion. If it had been someone calling a dog that name though and I had my heart set on it I would still go ahead.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 08/04/2021 18:26

@Hellzbellz25

YABU re the name and your friend is BU making an insta account for her puppy Hmm

Happy to help

Ds1 and his fiancée have an Instagram account for their dogs - I love it because they live a long way away, and it’s lovely to see them all so happy together.
MrsCrosbyNRTB · 08/04/2021 18:27

I don’t blame you for being upset / disappointed but she’s completely free to name her puppy what she wants.

We named our oldest son a name that we’d never ever heard anyone name their child. Even the near to retirement midwife said she’d never met a baby with that name. 2 years later and it’s bloody everywhere. Nothing I can do about it. Still love it though!

A friend of mine gave her daughter a really unusual first name AND middle name. Fast forward to reception and there’s another little girl with the exact same combo.

Annoying but nothing you can do.

BeaLola · 08/04/2021 18:28

Call her Younique

Twizbe · 08/04/2021 18:33

@OwlinaTree

Seems OK to me. I've had pets called Simon, Jessica, Sophie, etc, and known people with those names. So what?

Simon! What type of animal was Simon?

I lolled at this too for some reason! Simon the snake?

I used to have a pet fish called Simon. We inherited 4 koi carp with our house.

Big boss - the biggest
Blondie - had a white head
Knasher - came to the surface for food

And one more we couldn't think of a name for ... went with simon

Livpool · 08/04/2021 18:34

Sorry OP but you are being ridiculous. No one will care

sweeneytoddsrazor · 08/04/2021 18:36

Come on people Simon is obviously a chipmunk.

DeusEx · 08/04/2021 18:37

Simon the fish!! Simon the koi carp! Love how much that name doesn’t suit a fish. Grin

An acquaintance had a dog called Stephen. Something really tickled me about Stephen the border collie.

butterpuffed · 08/04/2021 18:38

I would change your baby's name, because her first word could be 'Woof'

Hhusky · 08/04/2021 18:39

Wise yourself up woman.

MotherPiglet · 08/04/2021 18:39

No wonder she laughed at you! How entitled can you get. If she called her baby the name before you would you expect her to change it?

crosspelican · 08/04/2021 18:39

I am charmed by your faith in your friend's Instagram growth skills to the extent that you think she could singlehandedly trigger a national uptick in your chosen name. :) I'm not being bitchy here - I'd be delighted if my friends assumed I would be that successful at a new project!

It sounds like your husband has sheepishly admitted that the name was a bit too "out there" and while there's a lot to be said for not being one of 8 kids in your class with the same name (I have the number 1 most popular name in my country for the year of my birth so I know this pain!) to have a SUPER out there name can be a pain too.

MirandaMarple · 08/04/2021 18:40

I have a Ralph (dog) and he's 12 years old. Twelve years ago the only Ralph's I knew were pronounced Rafe. Now it's so common, all the kids are named after my dog.

KirstenBlest · 08/04/2021 18:41

@Maireas, with so many OT names popular, why isn't Job much used?

BottleFlipper · 08/04/2021 18:42

If she gets a male dog too make sure she doesn't call him Balonz.

vodkaredbullgirl · 08/04/2021 18:42

1 of my next door neighbours had a teen son called Ben. We called our collie Ben, when ever the dog was doing something he shouldn't we told him off. Neighbour kept think it was her son was in trouble.

00100001 · 08/04/2021 18:42

I have to know the name now...

Stevearnottsbeard · 08/04/2021 18:42

Do now your thinking of changing the name, surely you can tell us what it is!!!