What would you say if partner made you this offer

[Thenanny23]

Put yourself in this scenario-

Childless married couple, your OH has invited a (single sex) group of friends to stay at your house to celebrate a friends birthday.

They suggest that you might want to not be in the house over the weekend as it may change the dynamic of the gathering and may be noisy/irritating for you.

They offer to book and pay for you to stay in an Air B&B in the nearest city centre for 2 nights.

Would you be offended by the suggestion?

Good grief. The OP has only made 2 posts and it seems most posters haven't read the second one.

@SleepingStandingUp

If the only thing stoping your DP hiring prostitute's, having his mates around for a porn wank fest, taking drugs etc is your physical presence, you really need to reconsider your relationship

Exactly!

I'm HIGHLY suspicious - what on earth is it that would make you uncomfortable or unhappy ? Swingers' party ? People doing crack ?

I seriously wouldn’t have a problem with this. Put yourself in their shoes, would you want same dynamic? Shouldn’t be a problem at all, unless trust issues in the relationship xx

@Plunger

Probably want to put porn on the TV!

Yep Op and her girlfriends are gearing up for a group masturbation session.

I would think I was in a relationship with a reeeaaaly immature individual

I think i'd like this, but I'd want to come back and find the house spotless! I would not be doing any bloody cleaning up after them!

It would be fine. I know my DH, he knows me. We would be having fun, the kind not involving sex workers or orgies or anything else more worrying. We'd simply be nattering and drinking and in our jammies and doing the things that are fun with friends.

If one of us was not to be trusted then it would be a different story.

Nothing offensive in the least, but I would not restrict him to the nearest city.

I see why having your partner around would change the dynamic to a (single sex)group of friends having a celebration-I wouldn't particularly want DH hanging around if I was getting together with friends!
however its odd a friends birthday party is being held at your house, did your DP discuss it with you before hand?
That would affect how I felt about it and they would have to pay for a friend to accompany me too so I could have have a girls weekend, a night or two in a hotel wouldnt be a hardship, as long as you dont come home to a mess

I'd be pushing for a paid for spa break 😂 and telling them to make sure they clean up.

How sex workers came into it, I don't know 🙄

Fine as it is a lack of alternative venues but I would assume that this would be a discussion rather than presented as a done deal. I would also want to stay somewhere that made it worth my while, not the cheapest airbnb. So maybe a hotel which is a bit luxurious (assuming everyone invited is chipping in), somewhere I want to go, breakfast included and money to eat out.

Read the update people ! OP is female and wants her OH to stay in the Air B&B

Curious why birthday girl isn't hosting but I'd love a weekend away

I really get this. If i was the op I’d want a partner free weekend in these circs.

@AnneLovesGilbert

Was the mass invitation discussed with you before it was made?

If it was done behind my back and I was then told I’d be shipping out to accommodate it I’d be saying no fucking way, party elsewhere chump.

This is exactly what I think. If we discussed and were both happy I would probably arrange a weekend away with my friend/s myself. However, if my DH had arranged this without my input then told me to go else where I would be furious.

No

@RedGoldAndGreene

Read the update people ! OP is female and wants her OH to stay in the Air B&B

It's only been nearly 2 days since the update. Give people time ti catch up😂

I wouldn't be offended at all, I would be thrilled at staying away!

Yes it’s annoying, but you probably should’ve offered to make yourself scarce and save the awkwardness. Surely there’s a million things you’d rather be doing?! I’d use the opportunity to go away with the girl(s) or at least visit my folks rather than be hanging around.

@CrankyFrankie

Yes it’s annoying, but you probably should’ve offered to make yourself scarce and save the awkwardness. Surely there’s a million things you’d rather be doing?! I’d use the opportunity to go away with the girl(s) or at least visit my folks rather than be hanging around.

I think it would be super awkward if OP made herself scarce from her own organised party in her home🙈

I think OP hasn't returned as she's probably knocked herself out banging her head against a brick wall after realising hardly anyone read her update

Air bnb is a bit cheeky. I'd hold out for a 4* hotel with spa, personally.

@butterpuffed

I think OP hasn't returned as she's probably knocked herself out banging her head against a brick wall after realising hardly anyone read her update

It is a bit infuriating, but it's also a little bit funny. The OP only made two posts but that is obviously one too many for most people to bother reading!

If it’s a one-off, I wouldn’t have a problem with it.

@butterpuffed

I think OP hasn't returned as she's probably knocked herself out banging her head against a brick wall after realising hardly anyone read her update

No she’s obviously busy hitting up the local dealers and finding out exactly what happens at the best lesbian sex parties so she can be the hostess with the mostest...