Daughter looks like her Dad :-(

[Dorset555]

Hi I'm really annoyed that I'm so annoyed about this but my first child (7 week old daughter) looks just like my partner. She has done since she was born and everyone says it...his family. My family ..everyone. any photo we put online is followed by a barrage of comments to him 'oh she's your double' etc.
Firstly I don't want my daughter to look like a 40 year old man. Secondly am I being unreasonable, but I feel really jealous and upset that she doesn't look like me. I feel like I have put so much time and effort into making her and now spend 90% of my time looking after her and I just don't see any of myself in her appearance and literally all of him. To make things worse my partner is not really enjoying being a new dad and I'm trying to help him adjust but I don't even feel he really likes her yet. It all seems very unfair.
I keep checking myself though as I'm so grateful she's a happy healthy baby and this is really very unimportant. But I have to say its getting me down a bit. Am I being unreasonable? Thanks for any comments/advice.

[HumphreyCobblers]

All three of mine looked like my dh when they came out. The one girl is my spitting image now and my youngest boy looks like my brother

[KillerFlamingo]

It can be a bit much in some cases, one of my friend's daughters was the image of her dad with his strong features, a bit weird on a little baby. Even her mum was freaked out!
She's growing up into a beautiful girl though and you can see her mum in her now too.

[RachelRavenRoth]

I feel like I have put so much time and effort into making her
This bit is quite funny.

Op, looking like her dad doesn't mean looking like a 40 yr old man.

[AngeloMysterioso]

Wait til her first word is daddy, that’ll really piss you off

[Smartiepants79]

Generally babies just look like babies. And many of them look like 40 year old men but I don’t think that’s what people mean when they say she looks like her father!!
It is also (I believe) a thing that babies tend to look like their fathers to ensure the father sticks around and takes care of it.
She will change.
You will see more of you in her as she grows.

[LemonPeonies]

My DS looked more like his dad when born but now at 18months looks just like me! Babies change so much I really wouldn't worry about it.

[SnoozyBoozy]

Omg, I am so slow at typing, literally everybody else made the same point!

[MargotMoon]

Could be worse. My daughter went through a phase of looking like Wayne Rooney when she was about 6 months old (and no, my name's not Colleen!)

[LittleTiger007]

It’s biology. It’s thought by some that Babies are designed to look more like their fathers at first so that the father hangs around (as the mother already knows the baby is theirs).
www.sciencealert.com/babies-that-look-like-dad-are-healthier

Maybe you’re tired and emotional OP. Your baby is still a newborn and doesn’t look like they will as an adult yet. Plus surely you chose who would be the daddy of your baby knowing that there was a 50/50 chance the baby would look like him?

In time you will see elements of him, elements of you, of your siblings and your parents and maybe a random nose that came down the line from three generations ago. She will be uniquely her.

Give it some time. As stated above, parenthood is hard. Give yourself a break.

[TheOneWithTheBigNose]

Surely this is something that you were aware could happen?

[PrudenceDictates]

@Soubriquet

All babies look like their dad when they are born

I think it’s a survival thing so men of olde would say the baby was theirs because it looked like them

Given that mirrors are a very recent invention - relatively speaking - this seems unlikely.
Men tens of thousands of years ago wouldn't really know what they looked like in any detail, a

[TheJerkStore]

All babies look like their dad. I've read that it's an evolutionary thing ..... not sure how true that is though.

My DS was the absolute spitting image of his dad when he was born but now is my double.

[PiggyPlumPie]

I get it - in our case it didn't help that everything she did ( in most cases, it was something every baby does) was because DH did it according to MIL.

I still remember punching the air when she got her first tooth at five months and DH hadn't had his first until much later.

It's as though we don't have a part in it.

[JeanClaudeVanDammit]

My DC was the absolute double of their dad for the first few months. That changed, and they don’t look the double of either of us now, but somewhere in the middle!

[CorpusCallosum]

DD looked like her dad at that age. It wore off and now she looks like me, has my mannerisms, accent and personality. Bring yourself to your parenting And you'll see yourself in your child - good and bad!!

Enjoy your baby

[PrudenceDictates]

Whoops,

...and they would have been pretty hairy and beardy.

[Christmasfairy2020]

My 11 year old dd looked like husband for years. She is like me now attitude as well

[audweb]

I burst out laughing when my DD’s dad handed her to me, she could not have been more like him when born, it was actually funny how she was a tiny version of him. A few years on, she’s a lovely mixture of both of us, and can look like either of us on a given day - so really just looks like herself.

[GinaJaffacake]

Gosh I thought you were going to say your baby’s father was some evil bastard who’d raped you and were struggling with the fact she looked like him, or that he was a nasty wanker who’d walked out when you were pregnant not that he was your partner!

[Fairyliz]

I do understand where you are coming from. I was bloody annoyed that I had done all of the hard work, pregnancy, childbirth and breast feeding and DD was the spitting image of her dad.
It does wear off though eventually.

[MissBattleaxe]

Neither of our kids look like either of us. We couldn't be more delighted with who they are. You've just had a baby, your brain will be all over the place for a while. All will be well.

[SassenachWitch]

My daughters are 16 & 14 and the only thing they have that they’ve taken from my genes is their eye colour, they look nothing like me. I’m dark, they’re blonde, I’m tall, they’re short, I’m straight up n down, they have curves.
It’s never bothered me, and I enjoy telling them they were swapped at birth

[Dorset555]

Thanks all..yea I think my partner is struggling and it's hard to be there to help him when I'm so knackered and adjusting myself. I think for women the realisation that life is changing and will.never be the same comes the day you get a positive pregnancy test...for my partner it seems to havenonly really hit home recently and I think he's mouring his old life/freedom!
I have limited sympathy at the moment and don't want him getting stressed around the baby tbh.
Thanks for the helpful comments can't believe how many people have replied so quickly- thank you!!!!

[romany4]

My Ds1 was the spitting image of my DH when he was born. And still is aged 27!
Ds2 is my spit. Looks absolutely nothing like DH. Still the image of me at 23
We just had kids that only looked like one of us.
Its no big deal

[aFaintSeashellAroma]

Christ give her a chance to iron out a bit she just been born