Symptomatic husband too 'busy' to get a test?!

[lifejusthappenss]

Dh had symptoms come on yesterday, new continuous cough and a fever. He's kept me up all night so far coughing so badly and woke up the baby

I work in a hospital and am well aware as he has symptoms I should self isolate until he has a test. Issue is dh is ridiculous and insists he hasn't got time to self isolate or miss work, he's travelling for conferences this week and has lots to do surely if you're travelling for work it's more important than ever to get a test and not become a super spreader across the UK!! I know he's worried the results won't come back in time but it's the right thing to do

Anyway we've just had an argument over it at 3am!! He said he was going to sleep downstairs so I can get a good sleep for work and I said I won't be going to work in the hospital with you like this until you've you've been tested and he scoffed that there's no chance. So what do I do if he refuses? Besides me thinking he's massively unreasonable putting other people at risk because he's too 'important' I also feel he's putting me in a difficult position at work? I'm not going into a hospital if someone I live with shows symptoms but will have to be off the full 10 days if he doesn't test?

Some conferences were still going ahead in some areas of Europe and Middle East.

Op you did the right thing well done for standing your ground

If he's working around the U.K. surely it isn't beyond his intelligence to work out that he caught it somewhere other than your village?

But glad - however begrudgingly- he's booked a test.

If one thing covid should have taught us as a society is that it's ok to be ill and employers shouldn't be making employees feel they should turn up whatever their health on the day.

@lifejusthappenss

Thanks all. He started going on about how the more people that get tests the more cases they'll find so it's time for people to just get on with it now we're coming out of lockdown and honestly lost respect for it. How stupid can you be? I agree mass testing of asymptomatic people is a bad idea but of course individuals with symptoms need a test.

So angry I can't get back to sleep!

Not the point of the thread (and I agree your husband is an arse) but surely working in a hospital you understand the importance of mass asymptomatic testing.

Glad he's booked a test. I also had a blocked nose when I had covid & was certain it was just a cold but tested to be safe. Fingers crossed it is just a cold & he can be back to his beloved work in a few days!

Surely anyone who works in a dealing with people capacity has test kits at home?

op - if you work in a hospital, don't you have a whole box of LFtests in the house? You know, for your twice weekly testing?

I work in a hospital (domestic) and I don't have access to twice weekly tests. Thats only for the ones who are nurses etc in our place.

At least he's booked a test now op

Surely anyone who works in a dealing with people capacity has test kits at home?

Nope. But then I live in wales. Dunno if that makes a difference.

Glad he’s decided to get a test

Thank goodness for that. What is it with bloody men! I know a few who would be the same.

@Tinpo good luck with your pregnancy. How scary it must be for you

Glad he’s seen sense and is getting a test.

He has done the right thing now - and to be fair to him as it was overnight he hasnt put anyone else in danger.

He needs to stop blaming you and calling you stupid (especially if it is negative) as it is the only choice he had with those symptoms

Good that he’s booked it.

In a similar (parent not partner) situation I went with a bland ‘Can’t be helped. Nobody wants your cough whether or not it’s COVID, given all the rules about isolating.’

@billy1966

How unbelievably selfish.

How awful to be married to someone who truly doesn't give a damn about others.

It's people like him that have wilfully caused others to die.

Mind yourself OP.

He's showing you exactly who he is.

This👆

How unbelievably selfish

How stressful for you OP. I’m glad he’s booked a test when if it’s not covid it’s better to be safe than sorry.
I wonder if he’s actually scared that it could be covid which is why he’s so adamant he didn’t want to do a test.

Went through this with a parent! I’m glad he’s booked a test

When is the test booked for

Tell him if he doesn't get a test you're going to report him to his employer.
Totally unreasonable especially with your work and a baby in the house.
Results will be back within 48 hours max. He needs to take a good look at himself in the mirror!

@blackheartsgirl

Surely anyone who works in a dealing with people capacity has test kits at home?

Nope. But then I live in wales. Dunno if that makes a difference.

No. I work in an English hospital and don’t have tests either. I don’t know how many hospitals have testing for all staff who are not WFH.

If he sits through conferences coughing all the time there is no way in hell that someone isn't going to complain.

Even if it turns out to be "only" a cold and cough, it's not exactly considerate of him to consider spreading that throughout the company knowing that everyone who starts coughing is also going to have to get tested and to self-isolate.

For me, one of the main symptoms of covid was that I had a runny nose.

Isn’t he breaking the law?

If he sits through conferences coughing all the time there is no way in hell that someone isn't going to complain.

If I was sat in the same conference I would assume he’d taken a test and it was negative which was why he was in work because no one’s stupid enough to have symptoms and still come into work without taking a test

Well done OP for making him get a test.

Do you have LF tests from your work? At least get him to do one of those. It doesn't rule Covid out and he definitely needs to get a proper test but it would be better than nothing. It does show up people who are positive especially in the first few days of symptoms