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Pictures on FB of Easter Presents

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MadgeHarvyy · 04/04/2021 16:23

Woman along the street has posted a picture of the huge piles of eggs and presents she left out for her 5 kids to open this morning (their ages range from about 7-15 I think) it looked amazing and its lovely to spoil your kids I get that, why have any if you dont want to treat them? I just thought it was a little bit insensitive, especially just now when people are losing jobs and struggling more than before. It honestly looked like a Christmas morning pic. I purposely dont post pics like that now at christmas, maybe just one or 2 of ds holding a favourite gift. I honestly dont think anybody will have looked at those pics today and thought anything other than... bit tacky... nobody has commented on it and it has been up for hours..

Btw shes a lovely woman and I always chat to her when I see her it's not a personal issue at all, she loves her kids and shes a brilliant mum whenever I see her, I just wondered if I was being a bit sensitive and this is the norm now...

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Yummymummy2020 · 04/04/2021 22:24

Although I don’t post this type of thing up on social media, we did get my little girl a new book and teddy instead of an egg(both cheap and cheerful) she was already getting a few eggs off family so we decided it would be nice to do that instead. So I get people getting gifts instead of an egg, granted some spend a lot more than others by the sounds of it, but we wouldn’t be staging a big photo shoot or anything. We do send photos though to family like if someone got her an egg we send her eating it.

funinthesun19 · 04/04/2021 22:27

Yes I can see that there is a difference between a living room and a holiday, but I’m commenting on your point about it being “insensitive”. Surely if a picture of a pile of Easter eggs is insensitive, then pictures of a holiday is even worse. There’s always going to be someone feeling sad or worthless no matter what people post.

Cassilis · 04/04/2021 22:58

My sister is like this, but with birthdays. It’s like she has visualised what the pile of presents should look like and then buys almost-random items to create the pile. If the pile is not as visualised, she will go back out shopping straightaway. She’s artistic, maybe this and the visualisation is linked (pile of presents in cellophane, tied with big bows)

Shrivelled · 04/04/2021 23:14

Two words: leave Facebook. Then all this competitive consumerism goes away.

HairyPits · 04/04/2021 23:23

Just unfollow.
I don’t understand people who look on social media, feel shit, look on it some more, feel shitter............
just click it off and open a book, go for a walk, play with your children...........

A couple of years ago I was in the national papers. There were lots of comments online. I was told not to allow the comments to upset me. Guess what - I didn’t even know there were any, as I had no interest in reading them. It’s never upset me as I’ve never seen them.........

MrsDontDoMuch · 04/04/2021 23:24

People who use Facebook to self promote, show off, and generally post shit really need a reality check

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 23:29

People who use Facebook to self promote, show off, and generally post shit really need a reality check

That's about 98% of users then.

Anyone who gets upset/annoyed/whatever at a complete strangers' pile of presents needs the reality check, imo.

Wearywithteens · 04/04/2021 23:30

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GreyhoundG1rl · 04/04/2021 23:30

@MrsDontDoMuch

People who use Facebook to self promote, show off, and generally post shit really need a reality check

What else is it for??

Bouledeneige · 04/04/2021 23:34

It's gone way over the top. My kids only ever got a big egg each and did an Easter egg hunt fir small eggs. That's it. They don't need presents. It's crazy over the top consumerism. Dies a single kid understand what Easter actually means? Not bunny's or chicks.

And it is always bad taste to post pictures of presents - any presents. That is never what any celebration is about. And it's not okay to show off.

BluePheasant · 05/04/2021 00:03

Well if they want to spend on presents at Easter that's completely up to them but I do find those kind of photos pretty tasteless. And a bit sad that for some people, every calendar event just seems to all about spending. Those piles of birthday and Christmas presents type photos. What purpose do they serve other than to say "look how much we spend"? Just don't really understand it. Social media has definitely created a monster.

TSSDNCOP · 05/04/2021 00:31

Number one million, sixty hundred and forty three thousand one hundred and eighty sixth reason to STAY OFF FACEBOOK!

Seriously why get bent out of bloody shape over an app you can just delete. And if it's so you can "keep in touch" count on the fact those people won't give a shit either.

TheKeatingFive · 05/04/2021 07:49

Surely if a picture of a pile of Easter eggs is insensitive, then pictures of a holiday is even worse.

Well of course.

But these arguments are never applied to things that middle class people spend money on and value, like naice holidays.

bridgertonian · 05/04/2021 07:59

This is one of the reasons I left fb, a lot of it will seem fake as the people posting aren’t RL friends. So if a friend told me her dc had a tough year so she treated them to a blow out Easter I’d think how lovely, but photos on fb of someone you barely know can be taken the wrong way. I used to deliberate over whether to post a holiday photo, or one of my child’s achievements in case it made others feel bad, so it really wasn’t the platform for me. Now I have a few WhatsApp groups with close friends and we share photos on there instead.

yeOldeTrout · 05/04/2021 08:05

Ahh... I'm so thick. Of course it's a class thing.

How about these celebrations:

I got a new job!
My son got great GCSE results!
Look at my amazing meal at a beautiful restaurant with amazing views!
Don't I look great tonight with my beautiful boyfriend
Gosh aren't my children gorgeous
Look at my fancy new refridgerator
I'm due a new baby
I'm at Disneyland
My book just sold 10,000 copies
I am at concert of famous singer
Look at this lovely (happens to be expensive) item my partner just gave me
Look at my new horse!

Which of these is "insensitive", "cringeworthy", "showing off", "attention-seeking' -- and which is fine?

thecatsthecats · 05/04/2021 08:25

@thebillyotea

Anyone calling the "attention-seeking" card about the friends they decided to follow is clearly miffed not to have anything to post...

The social media jealousy is brilliant 😂

I know right?

OP is notionally, according to Facebook, a "friend" of this woman. Nobody on MN is.

Surely it's more attention seeking to demand the attention of lots of strangers to discuss the matter in a public forum than posting in a private-ish one?

Anyway, PP had it right - it's no one's duty to censor their existence to meet the needs of other people.

I do judge the fuck out of people who exploit their kids on SM though.

thecatsthecats · 05/04/2021 08:27

@Bouledeneige

And it is always bad taste to post pictures of presents - any presents. That is never what any celebration is about. And it's not okay to show off.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C4%92ostre

Christianity can get back in its box on this one.

Easter has ALWAYS been bunnies and chicks. Fella on the cross had nothing to do with it and is being put back in his rightful place.

SpringTimeDream · 05/04/2021 08:30

Chapbook.... look at me types.

Best to avoid or unfriend those types if you don't like seeing it.

I think some are lonely and that's where they get their interactions and praise etc... up to them really if it makes them feel good

CavernousScream · 05/04/2021 10:01

I have one FB friend who did this. She actually struggles for money and I know not all the gifts came from her. I thought it’s nice that her little one gets spoilt a bit. My kids just get eggs (one big one and mini ones on an egg hunt), but actually if people wanted to they could point out that on the pictures I posted of them doing an egg hunt, the clothes they’re wearing are expensive brands. Is that insensitive? Who knows. I like seeing kids enjoying themselves.

lazylinguist · 05/04/2021 19:06

It's not insensitive to post pictures on your own Facebook page. If people get upset and triggered by a few bloody Easter present pictures they either need to a) get a grip, or b) delete Facebook

This. Sorry you lost you're job and you're hard-up atm OP, but you started your post by saying how great it is to spoil kids, and you know perfectly well that there will be people all over the place doing just that, so why would a picture of one person's pile of eggs and presents be a problem? I don't really see why it's antly more insensitive during the pandemic either. It's not as if there aren't plenty of people who can't afford to spoil their dc in normal times. Do their feelings not matter.

GreyhoundG1rl · 05/04/2021 19:08

@CavernousScream

You really think people will envy your children's clothes?

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