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Pictures on FB of Easter Presents

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MadgeHarvyy · 04/04/2021 16:23

Woman along the street has posted a picture of the huge piles of eggs and presents she left out for her 5 kids to open this morning (their ages range from about 7-15 I think) it looked amazing and its lovely to spoil your kids I get that, why have any if you dont want to treat them? I just thought it was a little bit insensitive, especially just now when people are losing jobs and struggling more than before. It honestly looked like a Christmas morning pic. I purposely dont post pics like that now at christmas, maybe just one or 2 of ds holding a favourite gift. I honestly dont think anybody will have looked at those pics today and thought anything other than... bit tacky... nobody has commented on it and it has been up for hours..

Btw shes a lovely woman and I always chat to her when I see her it's not a personal issue at all, she loves her kids and shes a brilliant mum whenever I see her, I just wondered if I was being a bit sensitive and this is the norm now...

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AccidentallyOnPurpose · 04/04/2021 18:18

This is the kind of stuff I get on my FB... even at Easter.Grin

Pictures on FB of Easter Presents
FredAstairesShoeLaces · 04/04/2021 18:19

I’ve definitely noticed a particular demographic who do this.

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 18:24

I’ve definitely noticed a particular demographic who do this

Really, a demographic? Which demographic is that?

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 18:26

@Chickychickydodah

Most insta z listers I follow have been mainly ok but Sam faiers has made me ask why?
I haven't seen it, but the answer is easy: it's a business, that's how they make money!

Now you can despair about how shallow we are, and how liking/hating celebs posts is enough for them to earn a living, but it still a business.

Pickles89 · 04/04/2021 18:32

The only Easter themed post I've seen on FB this year has really confused me - it's a mum who had her kids scatter mini eggs last night around the garden FOR the Easter bunny?! That was a new one for me. I just hope to God no poor foxes found them.

Doris86 · 04/04/2021 18:33

My sister in law does this. Every Christmas and birthday she posts a photo of the enormous mountain of presents she has bought for her son.

I find it extremely vulgar, she’s basically just saying ‘Look at me and how much money I have spent of presents for my son.’

It just makes me think she is an idiot spending so much money on so many presents that he’ll probably never get around to playing with.

LadyCatStark · 04/04/2021 18:41

There’s no other reason other than showing off. We all know what an Easter egg looks like.

RachelRavenRoth · 04/04/2021 18:42

@yeOldeTrout

It's nice when people have a good day & want to share their pleasant experiences. I'm glad I know people who do that.

I am going to now seek & 'Like' all the positive celebratory Facebook posts I find for Easter. I'm having a sleepy boring day but I can add value to my day by being happy that other people are happy.

What a positive post @yeOldeTrout! Easter Smile

Our dc get one egg from us, one from their grandparents, and gifts no more than £50. We started this because ds as a toddler did not like chocolate. Also, i dont like to see the piles of chocolate some children get. Id rather spend my hard-earned money on a present they can get a lot of use out of, like a game or clothes, than chocolate and sweets.

Easter is the most important Christian festival of the year. Why shouldn't it be as big as Christmas when celebrated?

Thatwentbadly · 04/04/2021 18:43

It’s no different to people showing their car, house, holiday but then I don’t really do Facebook.

MrsMcTats · 04/04/2021 18:44

I think it's very sad that so many are judgemental. A persons social media page is there for them to share what they wish. For some that will be politics, others their hobbies, others their children. It is up to you whether this content interests you and if it doesn't, simply unfollow. There is no need to be 'cringing' or 'FFS'. Also, a big celebration isn't spoiling children. It's celebrating as a family. Pitching in with decorating, cooking, preparing and then enjoying together the food, fun and celebrations. Since when is bringing joy to family life a bad thing to do? It will look different in different families, some more extravagant than others, but there is no 'right way.' We've had a lovely weekend of Easter activities, small gifts and lots of treat food. I haven't shared it on social, but have enjoyed seeing what others are up to. My DC keep popping to the kitchen to see our Easter display, declaring it 'so pretty.' As a pp says there's a lot more to bringing up children then just what you buy them.

baubled · 04/04/2021 18:46

🙄 I couldn't get worked up over what someone else buys their child.

If we're getting in to "other people can't afford it so it's rubbing it in their face" then it can be applied to anything and everything, should people stop posting pictures of their bought houses because others rent and might feel bad, should we stop posting pictures of family members because someone else may have lost theirs etc etc etc.

Social media is for anything and everything, yes there's people who will brag and boast constantly online and and off and will probably annoy people generally but so what I friend them or unfollow if you don't like what they post or feel bad that you haven't done the same for your kids. Wouldn't life (and SM) be boring if we all bought and did the same things 🤷🏻‍♀️

LilQueenie · 04/04/2021 18:56

^I find it extremely vulgar, she’s basically just saying ‘Look at me and how much money I have spent of presents for my son.’

It just makes me think she is an idiot spending so much money on so many presents that he’ll probably never get around to playing with.^

right cause people don't buy in sales, get bargains and save money by doing so. I think maybe you just don't like her. Yet again talking behind her back but not to her face. Easter Hmm

BrumBoo · 04/04/2021 19:07

@GuildfordGal

I’ve definitely noticed a particular demographic who do this

Really, a demographic? Which demographic is that?

Yes, come on now. Let's hear exactly what kind of 'demographic' that we should see as lesser. Again.

Bet it involves judging women, how fun.

somuchlaundrytowash · 04/04/2021 19:09

Presents for Easter? That's a new one for me. Why do parents put so much pressure on themselves? It's ridiculous!

Doris86 · 04/04/2021 19:12

@LilQueenie

^I find it extremely vulgar, she’s basically just saying ‘Look at me and how much money I have spent of presents for my son.’

It just makes me think she is an idiot spending so much money on so many presents that he’ll probably never get around to playing with.^

right cause people don't buy in sales, get bargains and save money by doing so. I think maybe you just don't like her. Yet again talking behind her back but not to her face. Easter Hmm

Yes maybe she buys in sales, but looking at the presents still clearly spending at least £500 a time on each Christmas and birthday.
ChocOrange1 · 04/04/2021 19:17

Not insensitive, even if people have lost their jobs or are struggling financially.
If you go down that road you would never post anything. Bought a new car, can't post because someone else maybe can't afford a new car. Had a baby, can't post because someone might be infertile. Baked some bread, can't post because someone else might be coeliac. I mean, where does it end.

I don't get why anyone would care about someone else's Easter eggs, and clearly they don't as nobody has commented, but its not insensitive.

Soubriquet · 04/04/2021 19:18

^^

Exactly.

Someone always has it worse

Should we not post anything in case a homeless person suddenly gets access to the internet and then has homes rubbed in their faces?

IAmFinished · 04/04/2021 19:21

It's showing off lol. There's no other reason to show your entire friends list what you have given your children Grin

LilQueenie · 04/04/2021 19:26

Yes maybe she buys in sales, but looking at the presents still clearly spending at least £500 a time on each Christmas and birthday.

Which is nothing to do with you or anyone else. Do you get on with your brother or is all this hate for her kept from his too?

QualityRoads · 04/04/2021 19:32

Ah, this is why everywhere had run out of Easter Eggs.....people needed them for FB boasting!

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 04/04/2021 19:33

Yes maybe she buys in sales, but looking at the presents still clearly spending at least £500 a time on each Christmas and birthday.

And? As long as she can afford it... and if she doesn't there's bigger issues there.

lothermand · 04/04/2021 19:34

Why do people post anything? I mean anything? Years ago, you'd show your friends/tell your friends (yes your actual friends) stuff, not the whole 'world'. And wtf with the 'checking in' shitHmm

I do not get why people want to share every aspect of their life on a public platform, where they are probably not friends with a large percentage of those folk.

It's showing off or attention seeking, whatever way you look at it.

Just crassConfused

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 19:35

I find it extremely vulgar, she’s basically just saying ‘Look at me and how much money I have spent of presents for my son'

She's probably not, but whatever, so what? Why on earth should it bother you one jot?

It's arguably fairly 'vulgar' (not a word I press into service often) to publicly discuss other people's perceived wealth and how they choose to spend it in these particular terms.

Or perhaps not vulgar, maybe just unpleasant.

knocke · 04/04/2021 19:35

It's the irony of posting them on social media complaining how crass others are for posting stuff which is funny.

Why is it ironic? Pretty much every thread on here is complaining about someone or something else. Why should you not use SM to complain how other people use theirs, it's a forum, that's how these things work.

Far more ironic to come on a thread where someone is having a whinge about something & tell them to mind their own business & don't like, don't look whereas you could just take your own advice 🤷🏻‍♀️

knocke · 04/04/2021 19:37

Should we not post anything in case a homeless person suddenly gets access to the internet and then has homes rubbed in their faces?

Of course not but equally I wouldn't stand in front of a homeless person & complain about my lack of holidays whilst stuffing myself with food.