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Pictures on FB of Easter Presents

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MadgeHarvyy · 04/04/2021 16:23

Woman along the street has posted a picture of the huge piles of eggs and presents she left out for her 5 kids to open this morning (their ages range from about 7-15 I think) it looked amazing and its lovely to spoil your kids I get that, why have any if you dont want to treat them? I just thought it was a little bit insensitive, especially just now when people are losing jobs and struggling more than before. It honestly looked like a Christmas morning pic. I purposely dont post pics like that now at christmas, maybe just one or 2 of ds holding a favourite gift. I honestly dont think anybody will have looked at those pics today and thought anything other than... bit tacky... nobody has commented on it and it has been up for hours..

Btw shes a lovely woman and I always chat to her when I see her it's not a personal issue at all, she loves her kids and shes a brilliant mum whenever I see her, I just wondered if I was being a bit sensitive and this is the norm now...

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Sirzy · 04/04/2021 16:57

The pictures got to me this morning because I was hit with a pang of resentment because of what we can’t do with DS.

But that’s my problem not theirs so I put down my phone and came away from social media for a few hours.

Scottishskifun · 04/04/2021 16:59

My SIL is like this with Easter, birthdays and Christmas. It's completely OTT when if the washing machine breaks my DB is straight on the phone begging for money!

Its become the latest keeping up with the Jones thing posting pics of how much your giving your child! Reality is that children don't need masses and all it does is spoil them. My nephews and nieces discard toys aside in a matter of seconds.

I don't buy into any of it my son got a egg and was over the moon..... With the box 😂 he's not a big chocolate fan at 2.

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 04/04/2021 17:02

Well it doesn't county unless it's on Facebook these days does it

Never understood Easter presents. Especially excessive ones. I mean who actually wants their kids to be spoilt brats? My sister always did £100 Easter presents when her now-teens were kids and she's genuinely baffled as to why they have expensive taste (17yo niece will only wear Calvin Klein underwear ) and can't understand why they expect everything in exchange for nothing. Feel like saying "so did warn you" 🤷‍♀️ but I don't

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 04/04/2021 17:02

The thing is it's never a good time for it.

There has been austerity for years, people losing jobs, food banks, losing homes etc.

There will always be something like this going on. Job loses,relationships breaking up, children with illnesses etc.

Whether I agree with the posting or not is irrelevant. The truth is there's never a time for it and it can be extended to nearly everything that constitutes as good news or happiness ..new baby, getting engaged, promotion/new job, weddings,birthdays , great results for kids, Christmas,new house/car, holidays etc.

SummaLuvin · 04/04/2021 17:03

In my experience it is people posting who are lower income/in a difficult situation, almost like they want to show the world that despite things not being easy their their kids are well loved, provided for, and not missing out - that they, as parents, are doing well by their children and prioritising them. I don’t particularly like them, as I think it creates a ‘standard’, but each to their own.

Fatladyslim · 04/04/2021 17:03

[quote SmidgenofaPigeon]@Fatladyslim why did I cringe? Because seeing a bewildered looking five month old baby surrounded by Easter gifts and themed outfits for Easter was a bit cringe. For me. I appreciate not everyone is the same.[/quote]
How sad for you that you had to find nastiness in moment of happiness for one of your 'friends'.

She has a 5 month old so had a baby during lockdown, limited support, no proper HV support or anything, thought she would spoil her child a bit on a special day (which Easter is to sone people) and you took that as an opportunity to cringe at her?

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 04/04/2021 17:04

@SummaLuvin

This.

So many people equate love with spending lots of money

LilQueenie · 04/04/2021 17:07

Its not a competition so who cares what people do. I don't find giving gifts tacky. Faking it is tacky and so it talking about people behind their backs but being nice to their face.

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 17:08

Oh please .

It has been such a crap year all around, and it's not finished yet, can't you just butt out instead of moaning that some people try to put a cheer in their life?

I don't bother with Easter gifts and so on, but for my own convenience: to avoid starting a precedent and having to do it every year! I very much hope we can resume our holidays next year instead.

So what if some people made an event and party of Easter. So called influencers need to put some new material all the time and it's an easy way. If others think it's a good idea and make an Easter to remember, good for them.

You can't moan and bitch about others calling them "tacky" because you have financial difficulties.

If you stuck to real friends on social media, you might be happier. Jealousy and bitterness only hurt you, no one else.

thelegohooverer · 04/04/2021 17:08

I’m sorry you’re going through a hard time. I bet your ds had a brilliant birthday all the same.

I’m an old dinosaur and I’ve never got to grips with the idea that you could post one picture that’s suitable for everyone you know. My mil would love to see a picture of my dc with a pile of chocolate. I crop the pile a bit when I send to my dm. I don’t send photos of my dc on special occasions to my df who’s struggling with infertility, etc. I can’t think of an occasion or photo that I would have shared with everyone I know.

Volcanoexplorer · 04/04/2021 17:10

I don’t like stuff like this either OP. It’s just showing off and yes, tacky. Do what you like on your own home, but there’s no need to tell the world. Tbh I don’t post much on social media, maybe the odd the picture of the kids out on walk or something. I’m very boring on Facebook/Instagram. My kids had 1 big egg from us and some small eggs for a hunt. They got more from friends and family so there’s loads of chocolate around. I think big piles of Easter presents are unnecessary so I won’t be doing it.

CirqueDeMorgue · 04/04/2021 17:10

Why does ANYONE think they are interesting enough to 'update' their SM constantly? It's all tacky imo. Didn't realise Easter was a 'gift' occasion though.

SmidgenofaPigeon · 04/04/2021 17:11

Well, you can make a big fuss if your child for Easter WITHOUT putting it on Facebook, y’know? I did say not everyone is the same, @Fatladyslim. That kind of showiness just isn’t for me.

ssd · 04/04/2021 17:12

@MadgeHarvyy, give yourself a break. You sound a great mum to your ds. I hope you manage to find another job soon

jessstan2 · 04/04/2021 17:12

I don't think there is anything wrong in treating your children but don't understand the need to post stuff like that for all to see. Who is going to be interested? The same applies to photographs of what you are having for dinner (my son does that, aaargh!). It all seems so banal. Nothing is private nowadays.

Ilovemaisie · 04/04/2021 17:16

jessstan2 Facebook can be 'private' if you set it that way. The only people who see what I post are people I want to be able to see.
The OP said "the woman down she street". Why is she following this person if she isn't an actual friend or relative?

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 17:16

@CirqueDeMorgue

Why does ANYONE think they are interesting enough to 'update' their SM constantly? It's all tacky imo. Didn't realise Easter was a 'gift' occasion though.

clearly some have followers...

Some of us stick with friends only, but the OP is following some random woman from down the street. People like that use social media for the fun of bitching about other people. I think they are much worst than the original posters.

GreyhoundG1rl · 04/04/2021 17:17

Who do they imagine wants to see their kid's Easter eggs? 😂

Lipz · 04/04/2021 17:17

I really couldn't get worked up about a parent putting up pictures of Easter eggs on HER Facebook page.

If everyone was to think before they posted something, whether it will affect someone looking, nothing would be posted.

I've had years of people making half arsed smarmy comments about what I use to post on Facebook. Having 5 kids myself, 'piles' of stuff generally look way bigger.

If you envy her too much you can snooze her for 30 days, or delete her. There really isn't any point getting so worked up about a parent who has bought and given Easter eggs to their Children and stuck a photo up on Facebook for family and friends to see.

HiveQueen · 04/04/2021 17:18

There’s no right or wrong, it’s such a difficult world we live in now with social media. I know someone who posts these type of pictures. She’s incredibly proud of herself as has come a long way to be in the position to spoil her kids. I’m aware of others who I would assume do it due to competitive parenting, however I don’t know enough about their circumstances to judge this.

A good friend got into a lot of debt at one point due to trying to keep up with her DD’s best friend who’s family were well off. She judged herself as not being as good a parent if she couldn’t afford the same toys the friend had. Luckily she saw the light and is in a better place now.

Most of us (including me) do judge other people. It’s one of the things I’m trying to improve within myself. I wont ever truly understand how a person feels or why they do what they do. By understanding this I don’t get as wound up by things as I would have done previously.

Nandakanda · 04/04/2021 17:20

Easter presents?

FFS.

GreyhoundG1rl · 04/04/2021 17:20

There really isn't any point getting so worked up about a parent who has bought and given Easter eggs to their Children and stuck a photo up on Facebook for family and friends to see.
I suppose the point is that all parents will have done just that. Why stick up a photo if not for bragging purposes?
Thinking it's crass isn't "getting worked up about it" , really.

Ilovemaisie · 04/04/2021 17:21

Greyhound if you go to visit a friend at Easter do you not ask the kids things like "oooh what egg did you get?"
It's called friendship and just sharing each others lives. It's not really that interesting to know if a kid got a Buttons egg or a Rolo one but it's just nice to ask.

IsAnybodyListening · 04/04/2021 17:21

Yes!

There seems to be a trend that all the kids are dressed wearing clothes with easter eggs on, there is a chalkboard announcing 'Happy Easter', display tables full of eggs, each child has their name by each pile, bunny ears, balloons and baskets....

I am aware I sound a right old grouch, but all of the pictures are the same from family, colleagues ect....like, proper photo shoot staged set up?

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 17:22

We don't do Easter presents. I don't give a shit if someone else does. I also don't give a shit if they want to post it somewhere on crapping social media.

I don't judge, I couldn't care less. I have fuck all idea of their story and motivations. So I don't judge.

Some people have more money and material possessions than others. They should not have to hide the fact - it's just life. They are just as entitled to share stuff as someone without money is, within or without Covid.

I just think the amount of people cunting off their supposed 'friends' on here for sharing a few pictures is pretty shit

Yep.

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