Page 4 | Pictures on FB of Easter Presents

MadgeHarvyy · 2021-04-04T15:23:01+00:00

Woman along the street has posted a picture of the huge piles of eggs and presents she left out for her 5 kids to open this morning (their ages range from about 7-15 I think) it looked amazing and its lovely to spoil your kids I get that, why have any if you dont want to treat them? I just thought it was a little bit insensitive, especially just now when people are losing jobs and struggling more than before. It honestly looked like a Christmas morning pic. I purposely dont post pics like that now at christmas, maybe just one or 2 of ds holding a favourite gift. I honestly dont think anybody will have looked at those pics today and thought anything other than... bit tacky... nobody has commented on it and it has been up for hours.. Btw shes a lovely woman and I always chat to her when I see her it's not a personal issue at all, she loves her kids and shes a brilliant mum whenever I see her, I just wondered if I was being a bit sensitive and this is the norm now...

DontBeRidiculous · 04/04/2021 17:38

If people were to avoid posting anything that might offend or hurt or embarrass or annoy someone online, they'd never be able to post anything. (That might not be such a bad thing according to some of the anti-FB crowd, of which I am a member, but that's beside the point!)

Some people will be bothered by it and others won't. It doesn't really matter. Try not to take it personally, and if it's too much of an irritant, mute her or just stay off FB altogether.

Opal93 · 04/04/2021 17:40

We’ve never made a big deal of Easter, certainly not the way we do for Xmas! The kids get presents/Easter eggs from relatives but nothing excessive. I think some people do just like showing off. Nothing wrong with doing this if you want to and can afford it but the barrage on social media is just boasting

GreyhoundG1rl · 04/04/2021 17:41

@Ilovemaisie

Greyhound if you go to visit a friend at Easter do you not ask the kids things like "oooh what egg did you get?" It's called friendship and just sharing each others lives. It's not really that interesting to know if a kid got a Buttons egg or a Rolo one but it's just nice to ask.

That’s just called “interacting with kids”, though. You said yourself you’re not particularly interested. In the absence of being able to chat to the kids in person, you don’t really need photos to show you what you’re missing 😂

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 04/04/2021 17:41

[quote Lorieandrews]@MadgeHarvyy

Oh yes! Get rid of it!

I did about 3 years ago and it’s bliss! No one contacts me. But it’s bliss because the people who do know my number. Are actual friends. Not pretend friends.[/quote]
Mismanaging your social media and then blaming it on the said social media is like playing with knives and then blaming the knife.

It's a tool , you have control over how you use ,it if at all.

Shinyletsbebadguys · 04/04/2021 17:42

I've learnt a good lesson this year. I struggled because we went from being able to give the Dc celebrations (I don't ever post on Facebook or SM about DC anyway but we do generally believe life is short celebrate where you can) to some really dark times financially.

I did get frustrated and cross last year when I could see other people affording everything and the elephant and got a bit bitter and angry at people showing off. In all honesty it was my own guilt and frustration. It wasn't their fault , why shouldn't they enjoy and celebrate. I realised its not going to help me if they don't.

Hopefully we are on our way out of the hole with a new job but bloody hell this year taught me that im not as magnanimous and lovely when I am under pressure.

I honestly don't think people should censor themselves , its no more insensitive than I was when I got angry and resentful for them being able to do it. I do get it though. It was a hard lesson to learn.

Puddington · 04/04/2021 17:42

One of my former colleagues posted "Easter bunny" gifts she got her two kids (one is around 3 and the other just over 1), three brand new outfits each plus a single chocolate egg and then a huge hamper/cellophane wrapped thing STUFFED with more eggs and chocolate. And she had set up an egg hunt with even more small chocolate eggs I have no idea how she'll stop them trying to eat it all in one day, seems like making a rod for your own back tbh.

AuditAngel · 04/04/2021 17:50

We are religious, attended Mass today and for me, it is the third time this week. We bought our DC one egg each, 2 aunties bought then an egg and their great aunts. I gave money to the nieces and nephews as not sure when we would see them

STARmyarse · 04/04/2021 17:52

I do feel that people have taken Easter too far. And it’s not just a lockdown thing because it’s been happening for years.

When I was young I remember it was just eggs we got. Far too many as one from grandparents, aunts and uncles etc but I don’t see the need for actual gifts.

But I don’t suppose it really affects me other than me just thinking why.

WeekendCEO · 04/04/2021 17:52

I don’t use Instagram/Facebook etc so this is definitely not something I would do but I also don’t think people should not put things on in case it upsets others. Some people have/spend more than others, that’s just life. You have to be happy with your own life.

Lorieandrews · 04/04/2021 17:52

@AccidentallyOnPurpose

Best thing I ever did was get rid of Facebook. Not social media. Just Facebook.

Lorieandrews · 04/04/2021 17:55

@WeekendCEO

I don’t use Instagram/Facebook etc so this is definitely not something I would do but I also don’t think people should not put things on in case it upsets others. Some people have/spend more than others, that’s just life. You have to be happy with your own life.

Completely agree. About you’ve got to be happy in your own life.

Dressinggownchic · 04/04/2021 17:55

I dont totally understand giving a massive pile of eggs to a child on one day when you could spread it out over a few weeks

Our children get all their eggs on Easter Sunday, one from us plus the Easter bunny leaves a trail then from family too. However they are eaten over the coming 4-6 weeks. So far today they gave each eaten half a small egg. To me they enjoy the fun and anticipation of Easter.

SatsumaFan · 04/04/2021 17:57

Well it wouldn't be MN without one of these threads at Easter/Christmas/Halloween etc

I completely agree with others on here who have said things along the lines of

Mind your own business
Can't get worked up about how other people celebrate things or how to spend their money
Live and let live
It's her FB and she can put what she wants on there (and yes it's horrible when so-called friends then bitch about it behind your back)
It's been an awful year and who can begrudge someone treating their kids
We're all different

Etc etc

Someone actually unfriended me this am as she put a 'public' post up ranting about some "twat whose posted a pic of loads of eggs and a fucking scooter for her kid!". She was really unkind and one of her main points was that it wasn't right because when kids go back to school "some rich spoilt cunt will be bragging about a scooter when my kid got a 99p egg cos that's all I could afford, but at least they're grateful" or words to that effect. I commented saying some of the above points, and that in 2 weeks time kids won't be talking about it anyway. That kids don't talk about what adults think they talk about at school.,and she deleted me as a friend.

I also think there's a common misconception that lots of material things = spoilt brat kids.

Ime that's absolutely not the case. It's a lot more complicated than that and has more to do with what morals and values and mannners the parents are instilling in them.

knocke · 04/04/2021 17:57

I think people can post what they like but it's ok to have opinions on it & find it crass or whatever. Most people don't like bragging & boasting in RL so I'm not sure why it's a positive trait on SM.

roguetomato · 04/04/2021 17:58

Every time I see these kind of post I just think why it bothers people so much. Obviously OP wants people to agree with her and waiting for negative comments about it.
I think proudly posting something you are happy about is way more positive imo.

purplewolfie · 04/04/2021 18:02

I quite like looking at posts like that. Sometimes I think they're naff - but I still like to look!
I thnk I'm just nosey

SatsumaFan · 04/04/2021 18:02

@Shinyletsbebadguys

I've learnt a good lesson this year. I struggled because we went from being able to give the Dc celebrations (I don't ever post on Facebook or SM about DC anyway but we do generally believe life is short celebrate where you can) to some really dark times financially.

I did get frustrated and cross last year when I could see other people affording everything and the elephant and got a bit bitter and angry at people showing off. In all honesty it was my own guilt and frustration. It wasn't their fault , why shouldn't they enjoy and celebrate. I realised its not going to help me if they don't.

Hopefully we are on our way out of the hole with a new job but bloody hell this year taught me that im not as magnanimous and lovely when I am under pressure.

I honestly don't think people should censor themselves , its no more insensitive than I was when I got angry and resentful for them being able to do it. I do get it though. It was a hard lesson to learn.

I'm sorry you've had some dark times, but agree the people posting that they think it's sad/pathetic/show offy etc at others posting pics of lots of chocolate and toys etc are usually feeling low, jealous and bitter due to their own situation. Ime anyway. It's hard being happy for others when you're miserable (I've been there too).

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 18:04

@knocke

I think people can post what they like but it's ok to have opinions on it & find it crass or whatever. Most people don't like bragging & boasting in RL so I'm not sure why it's a positive trait on SM.

it's ok to have opinion, we all do...

It's the irony of posting them on social media complaining how crass others are for posting stuff which is funny.

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 18:06

omeone actually unfriended me this am as she put a 'public' post up ranting about some "twat whose posted a pic of loads of eggs and a fucking scooter for her kid!"

good grief, some people really have issues!

I know I am childish, but I would be so tempted to photoshop and put ridiculously over-the-top easter presents photos just to wind her up .

CuthbertDibbleandGrubb · 04/04/2021 18:07

Perhaps OP just leave Facebook. Who as with some other social media platforms do not act quickly enough when racism, misogyny or hatred is posted on their platforms.

warmandtoasty2day · 04/04/2021 18:08

why some of the bitchy comments on here ? mum of 5dc her choice to spoil her kids, why should she care what others think ?

SweetToffee · 04/04/2021 18:10

Bought my 2 DCs egg each a few weeks ago, I ate them and the replacements from Sainsbury’s were dark chocolate so I bought them Lego kits from Argos!!!! That’ll teach me for being bloody greedy

SatsumaFan · 04/04/2021 18:12

@thebillyotea

omeone actually unfriended me this am as she put a 'public' post up ranting about some "twat whose posted a pic of loads of eggs and a fucking scooter for her kid!"

good grief, some people really have issues!

I know I am childish, but I would be so tempted to photoshop and put ridiculously over-the-top easter presents photos just to wind her up .

I would but she unfriended me!!

She was honestly saying that someone else's post showing some Easter gifts was making her "mad". I just can't get stressed about what other people, who you're meant to actually like, choose to spend their money on or post on FB.

Chickychickydodah · 04/04/2021 18:14

Most insta z listers I follow have been mainly ok but Sam faiers has made me ask why?

SionnachGlic · 04/04/2021 18:15

Pay no heed or don't follow her...