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Pictures on FB of Easter Presents

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MadgeHarvyy · 04/04/2021 16:23

Woman along the street has posted a picture of the huge piles of eggs and presents she left out for her 5 kids to open this morning (their ages range from about 7-15 I think) it looked amazing and its lovely to spoil your kids I get that, why have any if you dont want to treat them? I just thought it was a little bit insensitive, especially just now when people are losing jobs and struggling more than before. It honestly looked like a Christmas morning pic. I purposely dont post pics like that now at christmas, maybe just one or 2 of ds holding a favourite gift. I honestly dont think anybody will have looked at those pics today and thought anything other than... bit tacky... nobody has commented on it and it has been up for hours..

Btw shes a lovely woman and I always chat to her when I see her it's not a personal issue at all, she loves her kids and shes a brilliant mum whenever I see her, I just wondered if I was being a bit sensitive and this is the norm now...

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 04/04/2021 19:39

@knocke

Should we not post anything in case a homeless person suddenly gets access to the internet and then has homes rubbed in their faces?

Of course not but equally I wouldn't stand in front of a homeless person & complain about my lack of holidays whilst stuffing myself with food.

If people don't like what they see on social media, they can unfollow that person and then they don't need to see it any more. Job done.
jessstan2 · 04/04/2021 19:40

I don't generally look at things like that, they don't interest me and I would never post photographs but one thing that did get my goat some time ago was a woman posting pictures of her daughter who was about to go into sixth form, with the daughter showing what clothes she had to wear in the sixth. It really was odd, she invited people to see her daughter's new wardrobe and the daughter had to pose, holding up various skirts, blouses, jumpers, trousers, jacket etc. The girl looked quite self conscious too.

PennyArcade · 04/04/2021 19:44

I guess anyone can post anything they want to on their own social media page. Nobody needs to comment or “like” if they don’t want to.

My DS driving instructor posted that DS passed his driving test a few months ago and tagged DS, as he does with all his pupils ( mainly to blow his own trumpet I think). Should he not have posted because there may be other 17 year olds who haven’t passed? 🤷🏻‍♀️

knocke · 04/04/2021 19:47

If people don't like what they see on social media, they can unfollow that person and then they don't need to see it any more. Job done.

Same for threads complaining about SM though. Plus I don't follow the Kardashian's or watch Youtube, doesn't mean I can't dislike the content though. SM doesn't exist in a vacuum.

TheKeatingFive · 04/04/2021 19:55

Plus I don't follow the Kardashian's or watch Youtube, doesn't mean I can't dislike the content though.

You can dislike all you like, but you’ve no rights to police what others post (which some on here seem to think you should have).

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 20:08

@IAmFinished

It's showing off lol. There's no other reason to show your entire friends list what you have given your children Grin
I am loving the ridiculously low standards on MN, where a photo of Easter is "showing off".

On another thread, someone had to ask a poster if sharing one Easter Egg for a family of 5 was the new MN chicken. Grin

IAmFinished · 04/04/2021 20:11

I'm talking about the photos of piles of presents, @thebillyotea.

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 20:44

it's MN. Anything can be called "a pile" on here Grin

LilQueenie · 04/04/2021 20:44

Plus I don't follow the Kardashian's or watch Youtube, doesn't mean I can't dislike the content though

How can you dislike content you don't see? That is just hating for the sake of hating. A miserable way to live.

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 20:56

I'm talking about the photos of piles of presents

What if every present was a quid each? Why are piles so offensive? Would a tiny, single but expensive gift pass muster?

The heightened reactions to other people's social media and all the narrow, mean little judgements are just bloody nuts, imo.

IAmFinished · 04/04/2021 21:07

When there are large piles of things that obviously cost more than £1 @GuildfordGal Hmm

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 21:14

When there are large piles of things that obviously cost more than £1 @GuildfordGal**

The OP was about a pile of presents that was still wrapped. How can you tell how much they 'obviously' cost?

Brefugee · 04/04/2021 21:21

I just thought it was a little bit insensitive, especially just now when people are losing jobs and struggling more than before.

People can post what they like on their own social media. If you don't like it scroll past, mute, unfollow, block or unfriend. Life is too short to get excited about the harmless things other people do.

The argument that it's insensitive because people have lost jobs etc is annoying. It is always the case that someone has less money, just lost a relative, can't have children etc etc when these occasions crop up. They either need to develop some resilience, or get off social media (at least for a short while)

LifesLittleDeciders · 04/04/2021 21:29

I have a 15 month old so this is the first Easter she’s old enough to kind of understand something is happening. - so I brought her her first build a bear(Easter themed obviously!) and a lidl chocolate bunny.

I’m glad I never posted any pictures of what I put out for her because it seems in comparison to everyone on my Facebook giving their children 7 eggs and numerous toys each makes my child look rather hard done by. Embarrassed to say I actually felt a little embarrassed like I hadn’t done enough for her?

I don’t find Easter a ‘big holiday’ though, Christmas and birthdays are the big occasions here, everything in between are just fun days to do something a little different I guess.

It make me realise how much I dread DD growing up and seeing her friends get 10 eggs while she gets one from parents when she’s older. I don’t want to seem like an awful parents but also it just looks greedy.. not to mention the health implications eg. Child obesity, diabetes, tooth decay.

SatsumaFan · 04/04/2021 21:31

It's the parents judging other parents that makes me sad. Judged for buying too much stuff sometimes?

Like our jobs aren't hard enough Sad

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 04/04/2021 21:38

@LifesLittleDeciders

I have a 15 month old so this is the first Easter she’s old enough to kind of understand something is happening. - so I brought her her first build a bear(Easter themed obviously!) and a lidl chocolate bunny.

I’m glad I never posted any pictures of what I put out for her because it seems in comparison to everyone on my Facebook giving their children 7 eggs and numerous toys each makes my child look rather hard done by. Embarrassed to say I actually felt a little embarrassed like I hadn’t done enough for her?

I don’t find Easter a ‘big holiday’ though, Christmas and birthdays are the big occasions here, everything in between are just fun days to do something a little different I guess.

It make me realise how much I dread DD growing up and seeing her friends get 10 eggs while she gets one from parents when she’s older. I don’t want to seem like an awful parents but also it just looks greedy.. not to mention the health implications eg. Child obesity, diabetes, tooth decay.

Why aren't you more confident in your parenting though? You made decisions and choices based on your lifestyle, budget, wants and your DD's wants and needs.

What other people do with THEIR kids should not be the bar you judge yourself against.

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 21:38

I’m glad I never posted any pictures of what I put out for her because it seems in comparison to everyone on my Facebook giving their children 7 eggs and numerous toys each makes my child look rather hard done by. Embarrassed to say I actually felt a little embarrassed like I hadn’t done enough for her?

Comparison really is the thief of joy. Give your DC what you feel is right and reasonable and comfortable for you.

funinthesun19 · 04/04/2021 21:44

Well what about those people who can’t afford holidays and exciting trips out? Is it insensitive when people post photos of their amazing holidays and trips?

People complain about pictures of a few little Easter Eggs and Christmas presents but don’t bat an eyelid about what could be seen as braggy holiday posts that could make others feel even more like shit.

GeorgeandHarold66 · 04/04/2021 21:54

The Easter present pictures really make me cringe I must admit.

I don't mind snaps of a younger child doing an Easter egg hunt or something like that. But I've seen several posts today with older children proudly standing in front of a pile of eggs or in one case brandishing a new expensive gadget and pointing at a huge pile of eggs.

Don't get me wrong, ds gets far too much too so no real issues with kids getting stuff but showing off on Facebook is just a bit..... tacky.

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 22:02

Some people are wealthier than others. We all know that. Some people like to share their celebratory moments with the world via the gift of FB.

If people find displays of perceived wealth or whatever upsetting then it does seem sensible to unpeel your gaze from their social media. Then, just like magic, you won't know about it anymore.

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MadgeHarvyy · 04/04/2021 22:02

@funinthesun I think there is a difference between looking at pics of your friends on holiday, the sights and the places they went etc to looking at a pile of presents sat on a living room floor with nothing else in the picture.

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Staffy1 · 04/04/2021 22:07

I don't know why people post things like that on FB, I find it cringeworthy.

LifesLittleDeciders · 04/04/2021 22:14

@AccidentallyOnPurpose I guess because I’ve only been a parent for 15 months, last year she was too small to buy anything so I didn’t; so I guess these occasions we haven’t celebrated yet I’m not really sure if there is an etiquette or what it is if there is one.

I try not to compare but it’s really hard to wing this parenting thing without keeping a beast on on other parents for tips Grin (hence why I spend a majority of post-bedtime on mumsnet!)

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 22:16

It's the parents judging other parents that makes me sad

Yep. Everyone's got their story and motivations for doing this stuff, and the mean little judgements aren't pleasant to read.

I wouldn't touch FB with a bargepole, but if I became someone who sniped about a 'friend' for photographing their kid's Easter gifts or whatever, I firmly hope that someone kind would pull me up for being an arse, frankly.

LagunaBubbles · 04/04/2021 22:24

don't know why people post things like that on FB, I find it cringeworthy

Because they want to Hmm

This thread is Mumsnet bingo. All the condescending "oh its so tacky" comments are hilarious.

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