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Pictures on FB of Easter Presents

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MadgeHarvyy · 04/04/2021 16:23

Woman along the street has posted a picture of the huge piles of eggs and presents she left out for her 5 kids to open this morning (their ages range from about 7-15 I think) it looked amazing and its lovely to spoil your kids I get that, why have any if you dont want to treat them? I just thought it was a little bit insensitive, especially just now when people are losing jobs and struggling more than before. It honestly looked like a Christmas morning pic. I purposely dont post pics like that now at christmas, maybe just one or 2 of ds holding a favourite gift. I honestly dont think anybody will have looked at those pics today and thought anything other than... bit tacky... nobody has commented on it and it has been up for hours..

Btw shes a lovely woman and I always chat to her when I see her it's not a personal issue at all, she loves her kids and shes a brilliant mum whenever I see her, I just wondered if I was being a bit sensitive and this is the norm now...

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Lipz · 04/04/2021 17:23

@GreyhoundG1rl

There really isn't any point getting so worked up about a parent who has bought and given Easter eggs to their Children and stuck a photo up on Facebook for family and friends to see. I suppose the point is that all parents will have done just that. Why stick up a photo if not for bragging purposes? Thinking it's crass isn't "getting worked up about it" , really.
I put pictures up this morning, I wasn't bragging... I haven't seen family and friends for over a year. Sometimes family and friends are just happy to see your kids enjoying the day.
Fatladyslim · 04/04/2021 17:24

@SmidgenofaPigeon

Well, you can make a big fuss if your child for Easter WITHOUT putting it on Facebook, y’know? I did say not everyone is the same, *@Fatladyslim*. That kind of showiness just isn’t for me.
Well I don't have fb as I said before your original message. I just think if you don't like seeing these posts you could just politely unfollow. You are clearly no friend to this person so why do you even have them on fb? I find it tacky talking about friends behind their backs online when they have done nothing to deserve it. Like you say though, we're all different.
BrumBoo · 04/04/2021 17:25

It's Facebook and a public holiday - of course people are going to share pictures of what they're doing.

I always love the comments on MN about this sort of stuff though - oh Social Media is so crass, so gauche, soooo show-offy. Unless you're on Mumsnet of course with Simply Doesn't Count.

Crinkle77 · 04/04/2021 17:25

When I was a kid we got 4/5 eggs but nowadays kids get a huge pile and other gifts. The big thing this year seems to be these fancy gift hamper things complete with smashing hammer. I mean why do you need one of those. I think Easter has become the new Facebook bragging thing. Who can provide the best Easter experience for their kids, you know the biggest pile of eggs, Easter egg hunts, stuffed toys etc....

Toilenstripes · 04/04/2021 17:25

@Tinydinosaur

I don't think people should sensor themselves when they're happy to protect others who aren't happy. There will always be people worse off than you and people better off than you.

I quite like seeing pictures of happy kids with their surprises. If someone's jealous the that's their problem.

I absolutely agree.
FireflyRainbow · 04/04/2021 17:26

Op YABU. Though I don't post stuff like that. It's a bit needy and attention seeking isn't it. No one liked it as no one cares.

GuildfordGal · 04/04/2021 17:26

I just wondered if I was being a bit sensitive and this is the norm now...

Ah right. You thought you'd just test the warm waters of compassionate AIBU with a post about the 'lovely woman' who's a 'brilliant mum' and 'she loves her kids' etc. etc. while inviting posters to judge the fuck out her happy occasion because you took the time to read her social media about it.

Nice.

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 17:27

There are 2 kind of people using social media:

the ones who stick with friends and family and are genuinely happy to share things. Sorry for the grumps on here, but it's actually lovely to see your nieces and nephews easter hunt, see what the cousins got for Easter especially in the middle of a pandemic when we should have been together on holiday....

the ones who use it as an excuse to be nasty and bitch about others, for whom everything is either "attention seeking" or "bragging". They tend to be all superior about social media (but see no irony posting about it on social media like MN 😂).

So post away. Your real friends will like it, jealous haters will be moaning anyway.

It's been a hell of a shit year, you have to be some a special kind of bitter to resent someone taking pics of their "easter table". YOU decided to follow them in the first place....

BrumBoo · 04/04/2021 17:28

@Nandakanda

I had presents at Easter, over 30 years ago. Usually from family that didn't want to give more chocolate. Not Christmas level presents, but certainly money or new books. One Easter my grandparents bought us kids a lovely toy box each, which lasted me years and had far more value than chocolate. It's not a new thing you know.

user1471439310 · 04/04/2021 17:29

I don't understand, you don't celebrate Easter, your son doesn't understand, and you aren't religious. It isn't her fault you lost your job and no overtime. I would stay off Facebook. There is always someone with more money than you. Easter is about Jesus, not gifts.

FireflyRainbow · 04/04/2021 17:29

Just counted my kids, they got 12 eggs each plus little chocolates, will not be posting it on social media though.

thebillyotea · 04/04/2021 17:29

Anyone calling the "attention-seeking" card about the friends they decided to follow is clearly miffed not to have anything to post...

The social media jealousy is brilliant 😂

Waxonwaxoff0 · 04/04/2021 17:31

You're being over sensitive. If someone gets upset over something they see on social media that's on them. People can post what they want.

ilovesooty · 04/04/2021 17:31

It's only this site that has made me aware that this goes on. The only pictures I've seen on Facebook from friends with children over the weekend has been their sheer joy at being able to meet up with grandparents in their gardens.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 04/04/2021 17:31

@Crinkle77

When I was a kid we got 4/5 eggs but nowadays kids get a huge pile and other gifts. The big thing this year seems to be these fancy gift hamper things complete with smashing hammer. I mean why do you need one of those. I think Easter has become the new Facebook bragging thing. Who can provide the best Easter experience for their kids, you know the biggest pile of eggs, Easter egg hunts, stuffed toys etc....
Except any event,celebration ,holiday etc is claimed to be the "new FB thing" at the time they're happening every year.

My kid didn't get any big Easter eggs, how dare you brag about receiving 4 or 5 as a kid? How do you think that makes ME feel?

Oh wait, it's irrelevant and you shouldn't give a shit and if I have a problem with it then it's MY problem.

Autumnspice · 04/04/2021 17:31

I don’t get why there’s a need to post on Facebook.
My children have received a LOT of eggs and we have bought them a box of Lego and a Disney plush with the year 2021 on, as I want to signify new beginnings.
They have also received books and presents from other family members.

My girls have spent the past year thinking I was going to die due to my job (nhs) and I wanted to spoil them this year.

Easter is a big thing in our family and they have missed the usual family gathering.
I admit we have gone a little OTT but even though we’ve done this, all they want is to see and spend quality time with their family members.
I also haven’t felt the need to post all over social media the presents or eggs they have received.

KindnessCrusader · 04/04/2021 17:32

I'd just scroll past.

Lorieandrews · 04/04/2021 17:32

People post things on Facebook for only a few reasons

The ones that speak volumes are the people who either don’t have Facebook. Or don’t post anything. Not many nowadays. It seems the way to outbid others.

TheKeatingFive · 04/04/2021 17:32

99% of these issues would be solved if people restricted their SM ‘friends’ to people they genuinely like.

BrumBoo · 04/04/2021 17:33

@Autumnspice

I don’t get why there’s a need to post on Facebook. My children have received a LOT of eggs and we have bought them a box of Lego and a Disney plush with the year 2021 on, as I want to signify new beginnings. They have also received books and presents from other family members.

My girls have spent the past year thinking I was going to die due to my job (nhs) and I wanted to spoil them this year.

Easter is a big thing in our family and they have missed the usual family gathering.
I admit we have gone a little OTT but even though we’ve done this, all they want is to see and spend quality time with their family members.
I also haven’t felt the need to post all over social media the presents or eggs they have received.

@Autumnspice

You've literally just posted on social media about all the stuff you got your children though....

Waxonwaxoff0 · 04/04/2021 17:33

@thebillyotea

There are 2 kind of people using social media:

the ones who stick with friends and family and are genuinely happy to share things. Sorry for the grumps on here, but it's actually lovely to see your nieces and nephews easter hunt, see what the cousins got for Easter especially in the middle of a pandemic when we should have been together on holiday....

the ones who use it as an excuse to be nasty and bitch about others, for whom everything is either "attention seeking" or "bragging". They tend to be all superior about social media (but see no irony posting about it on social media like MN 😂).

So post away. Your real friends will like it, jealous haters will be moaning anyway.

It's been a hell of a shit year, you have to be some a special kind of bitter to resent someone taking pics of their "easter table". YOU decided to follow them in the first place....

Yep. Fact is, there's always going to be someone out there who has more money than you unless you're Jeff Bezos. No point getting upset about it.
Foxyloxy1plus1 · 04/04/2021 17:33

I think it’s crass and silly when you consider the expense. Boxes and boxes of creme eggs with 50 per box. That was just a small part of the photo I saw. But it’s right. I just need to unfollow.

Fortherosesjoni70 · 04/04/2021 17:36

@MadgeHarvyy

Actually I know I am being over sensitive.. for ds birthday last week I had to get most things from the pound shop. I lost my job at the start of covid (hospitality) and dh no longer gets paid over time so he has lost about 1k a month. Luckily(??) Ds is autistic and is happier with cheap tat most of the time, he only destroys it anyway most of the time. If I could spoil him like that I 100% would.. the pics just stung a bit. I think the fact that we also dont celebrate easter as such.. like we didnt give ds eggs today, he has just been bought a few over the last week or so and been allowed to eat them. Plus they are much cheaper before the actual week of Easter! I dont totally understand giving a massive pile of eggs to a child on one day when you could spread it out over a few weeks. But then again, I am not religious. I guess I just dont look at easter in the same way as christmas, which is a day for gifts etc in my opinion.
You will be a happier person without the bullshit of facebook. Do yourself a favour and get rid of it. Along with instagram.
Lorieandrews · 04/04/2021 17:37

@MadgeHarvyy

Oh yes! Get rid of it!

I did about 3 years ago and it’s bliss! No one contacts me. But it’s bliss because the people who do know my number. Are actual friends. Not pretend friends.

yeOldeTrout · 04/04/2021 17:37

It's nice when people have a good day & want to share their pleasant experiences. I'm glad I know people who do that.

I am going to now seek & 'Like' all the positive celebratory Facebook posts I find for Easter. I'm having a sleepy boring day but I can add value to my day by being happy that other people are happy.