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AIBU?

to take a tour guide of this house

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:05

i went to show my dd and her bf a lovely house, on a public footpath, yesterday, which i had discovered the previous weekend, it is famous, lived in previously by a famous person
it has a moat.
the public footpath goes passed it,
some people, probably staff shouted at us that it was private

a bit later we looked at a lovely cottage and the presumably owners came by smiling happily at us,

aibu to go back to the large house every bloody day

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AWamBamBoom · 04/04/2021 08:09

You purposely want to irritate them? How lovely..... 🙄

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:10

it is on a public footpath

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eatsleepread · 04/04/2021 08:12

Eh. I don't understand. What has the cottage got to do with the famous house you previously saw? Confused

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:14

the difference in attitude, of the people driving into the cottage, they were smiling benignly

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steff13 · 04/04/2021 08:15

Do people live in the house now? Were you just walking past it, or standing around gawking? There's a public sidewalk in front of my house, but I would feel fairly uncomfortable if someone was standing on the sidewalk staring at my house.

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:21

public footpath, famous house, no reason for awkwardness - it was surrounded by a moat

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huuuuunnnndderrricks · 04/04/2021 08:21

Footpaths are for passing , not stopping and gawping/ picnicking ..you can't stop and stare etc ! How weird

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Didiusfalco · 04/04/2021 08:22

That’s not nice, if you live in a historic house you have to accept it will be of interest if a public footpath goes right past it. I wouldn’t go back to annoy them, but I would use the path when it suited me.

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LudoBear · 04/04/2021 08:22

Do what now? What has a tour guide got to do with anything? If it's well known as a famous person's house, maybe the staff are sick of people gawping?

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:23

it wasnt nice was it @Didiusfalco, it was unnecessary.

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Zarinea · 04/04/2021 08:27

You were probably the tenth person to have a nosey that day. So yes, you were irritating. You would be very unreasonable to continue to purposefully annoy them.

I sometimes come across people who do twatty things like that, and the nice thing to think is that they're oblivious. But posts like this reminds me that actually, some people are just nasty.

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Carpedimum · 04/04/2021 08:28

If there is a genuine right of way easement, in a Public Footpath, and you are certain of its route, then you are absolutely not being unreasonable. You have the “right to roam” there without your access fettered in any way, shape or form, including verbal abuse. The landowner is committing an offence and risks a fine if they deny it is a ROW. In fact, you as the so-called ‘dominant owner’ (of the right) can apply to the court for an injunction and compensation from the landowner (the ‘serviant’ owner) if they block the ROW (including telling you that you’re not allowed, you can ignore ‘Private Property Keep Out’ signs). Just be very sure that you’re on the right path.

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cupofdecaf · 04/04/2021 08:33

@Carpedimum

If there is a genuine right of way easement, in a Public Footpath, and you are certain of its route, then you are absolutely not being unreasonable. You have the “right to roam” there without your access fettered in any way, shape or form, including verbal abuse. The landowner is committing an offence and risks a fine if they deny it is a ROW. In fact, you as the so-called ‘dominant owner’ (of the right) can apply to the court for an injunction and compensation from the landowner (the ‘serviant’ owner) if they block the ROW (including telling you that you’re not allowed, you can ignore ‘Private Property Keep Out’ signs). Just be very sure that you’re on the right path.

In England there's no such thing as a right to roam. There are public rights of way that you can use. It's misleading to use the phrase right to roam that applies to some parts of Scotland.

My front room can be seen from the pavement but I wouldn't like people gawking in just for a nosy. Loads of people have windows right in the pavement but it'd be rude to start peering in their windows. Don't see how a public footpath is any different.
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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:33

they made a big deal of us walking by, telling the young girl to move out of the way.

one of the other villagers had told us about the house the previous week.
so bizarre

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:34

you couldnt see into the house, it had a moat!

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HeronLanyon · 04/04/2021 08:36

I sometimes walk by the house John le carre lived in. Remote. Absolute respect by NOT having a nose around. To be perfectly honest whenever I’ve walked by I am in a world of secret espionage eluding observation type make believe anyway.
Leave them be op.

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DeciduousPerennial · 04/04/2021 08:36

If you couldn’t see the house then what were you looking at?

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:39

I repeat - you couldnt see into the house, it had a moat! @DeciduousPerennial

for those that just want to argue without reading - meh

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Countrygirl2021 · 04/04/2021 08:39

It's not really clear what you did. We have a public footpath at the bottom of our land. We also have chickens, ducks and a pretty cottage. I don't object to people having a quick nosey on the way past of saying hello to the birds but if they started bringing friends by to look and standing staring I wouldn't be very keen at all. It would feel intrusive. Most people like their privacy.

As an aside I would love a moat.

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steff13 · 04/04/2021 08:41

As an aside I would love a moat.

Me too. I would so fill it with crocodiles.

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MaryGubbins · 04/04/2021 08:41

I don’t live in a house with a moat but my ordinary house does look unusual (not by much though). People always looking in, pointing, peering over the fence. It’s annoying and I may smile “benignly” but that’s as I have little choice. People usually have the good grace to be embarrassed when they see me/realise it’s my house. I wonder if it’s a bit rude, op, to continue to stare when the residents appear?

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arethereanyleftatall · 04/04/2021 08:41

Yabu.

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Bluntness100 · 04/04/2021 08:43

This must be the pettiest thing I’ve read on here op, and trust me, you’ve had some stiff competition,

You’re pissed off because you were all standing gawking at someone’s home and told it was private so now you want to go everyday as some form of revenge?

You do you, but I’d advocate getting a hobby. And a grip...

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:44

the house is surrounded by other houses, i think the rude people lived at the other houses, there were masses of cars, i didnt walk up the driveway, i wouldnt dream of doing that.
its a lovely village, i expect these were incomers.

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Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 04/04/2021 08:44

were we gawking?

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