To not want to get baby christened/baptised?

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Expecting first baby.

DP wants baby to be christened/baptised, I do not.

I am not in any way religious. Neither is DP but he for some reason he sort of identifies as Catholic. His mother is religious and goes to church weekly, prays etc but this is personal to her and she doesn't talk about her religion ie. doesnt push it on others if that makes sense. This is not a MIL thread btw- we get on very well!

DP wants baby to be christened because he was , and he thinks it's traditional (??). DP does not believe in God, go to church, pray etc etc.

I do not want baby to be christened because I am not religious, and neither is he! Baby will not be brought up as a Catholic, and to me it seems an odd thing to do if we are not religious.

AIBU to not want my baby to be christened as a Catholic, and they can make their own choice on their religious views/if they want to be baptised when they are old enough?!

I didn’t have my eldest DD christened as my ex was an atheist (I was raised in a Catholic home but do not have any allegiance to the religion, although I do believe in God, I would say I’m a Christian if pushed to say I followed any particular religion). I then divorced my ex when my daughter was 2, met my DH and had another baby, by this time my DD1 was 8. DH family are religious and he wanted DD2 christened, at that point we asked DD1 if she would also like to be, she did and so she was. My ex and his parents joined us for the day and it actually marked the beginning of a bit of peace between the families.

Neither of my DD’s follow any religion.

I guess my point is, do what you feel most comfortable with. We have them christened in a Methodist church, the same one we were married in, by the same vicar who married us and we were honest with him. His view was that the christening was a gift from the church to the child and all children were welcome.