School mum flirting with my dh

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Dh and I have been married 15 years, two dc both primary age.

Due to work dh does all school runs apart from the odd occasion when I will go myself.

A few months back dh started mentioning one of the mums at the school was openly making it clear she fancies him. Never had a conversation but always looking out for him, trying to catch his eye etc. Our dc are not in the same years but their classrooms are nearby so plenty opportunities to end up having a conversation.
Dh said she has only ever spoke to him once and she was talking about the weather.
I didn't really think anything of it and it all got forgotten.

Fast forward a few weeks later dh mentions it's very odd how she acts like he doesn't exist when I'm with him on the school runs.
I thought maybe it's all in dh's head and she was just being friendly and he was thinking far too much into it.

A week or so after all that I notice dh now has her as a friend on Facebook as she commented on a wildlife photograph he had taken. I asked him why and he said she sent him a request and although he only likes family and close friends on his Facebook he accepted her so as not to seem rude.
Dh was mainly concerned with as to how she knew his full name, in the end we guessed she had seen him on the school Facebook page and just added him.
Anyway, I ignored all of this and again put it to the back of my mind.

After all was forgotten and it hadn't been mentioned again for a couple of weeks I decided to join dh on the school run.
I sat in the back of the car with youngest dc and our other dc in the front with dh.
We were parked up on the side of the road outside the school when the mum drives towards us. She didn't see me in the back as the windows are tinted, she only say oldest dc and dh in the front. She slows right down and pulls up alongside, rolls her window down and shouts "hello you" with a big smile. Car behind her started papping their horn as she's blocking all the traffic which made her move on. That is the first time I ever saw her acknowledge dh, she went out of her way when he wasn't even looking in her direction, yet when he's with me she refuses to look anywhere near him let alone say hello

This made me realise it's not all in dh's head at all and call me paranoid/childish but the next time we went to the school I stayed in the car which you can see the playground clearly from.
I watched dh walk onto the playground, she immediately spots him and can't take her eyes off him, she kept looking over, smiling then talking to one of the other school mums who she's very close with and giggling like a teenager. She was very openly flirting with him.

All of this rather annoyed me but I kept my cool and ignored it ever happened. Dh deleted her off Facebook saying she probably wouldn't notice and he could tell I wasn't very happy about it all.

All went quiet again but it started playing on my mind after seeing what she was doing. I haven't been with him on the school run for a week or so now and she hasn't been mentioned until tonight when dh comes and shows me she's sent him another friend request on Facebook after she must have realised he deleted her. He declines it in front of me but told me she's continued giggling and openly flirting with him at the school.

I don't know how to handle this and it's making me feel like complete shit Do I do something about it? What would you do in my situation? Or would you just leave it alone?

Tell DH to start wearing crocs on the school run?

the best advice

And ignore. She has a crush on him nothing wrong with that. He isn’t responding and being upfront.

No doubt you have come across someone at work or on the school run that has a crush on you and had flirted

Don’t get all possessive it will just become a challenge then and you will both look like fools

Tell DH to start wearing crocs on the school run?

Hahahahaha yes he will be totally safe then!!! 😀😀🍾

And make them dirty crocs. Smeared with mud.

And dirty tracksuit bottoms. (But obviously not white stains - that might set her off!!!)

She's a beg. A desperate beg

WTF

@Quirrelsotherface

She's a beg. A desperate beg

WTF

what's a beg??

Nothing you’ve said is inappropriate behaviour from her so it’s either in both of your heads or she does have a crush on him but as you say she doesn’t usually speak to him and if you trust him it wouldn’t matter if she did anyway.
I wouldn’t waste any of my energy on it there are probably lots of men who fancy you but you haven’t realised.

@sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea

If we're going for the most deranged solution, then I advise OP to come into the playground two minutes after her DH has arrived, make eye contact with the other mum, and then squat down and piss all over her DH's shoes whilst maintaining constant eye contact with the other mum the entire time

If we're living in the real world however, then OP & her DH are best off just ignoring this woman, and taking the piss out off her hair-flicky, eye-meet, hand on forearm ways. It is bloody unsettling. DP gets a lot of attention from other women, despite not being remotely physically attractive, and it winds me up, but he's learnt to see through it now. I still hate it, especially when I know women befriend me to get close to him. I can't control him or them, but I can just laugh about it now, because they won't ever have him.

Why does your DH get so much attention if he's not that attractive?

why you dancing around this situation i dont understand.
she is obviously after your dh. she did the same to another couple.
find her and tell her to back off and tell her what she did to other couple, too.

21:56WisnaeMe

That's exactly what I was asking, was quoted up thread

I would expect your husband to tell her to her face to back off as he's not interested.

Not everyone's cup of tea but I would go to the school alone before the children come out and calmly tell her I've noticed her making a beeline for my husband and her behaving differently towards him. I'd advise her she appears to be flirting and its inappropriate as he's spoken for and she's making a tit of herself. I'd then tell her to knock the Facebook requests on the head. I say this because I've had problems with other women in the past and each time I've let shit slide and it hits the fan further down the line. So I now nip things in the bud.
Id tell my partner in advance that I understand and agree hes done nothing wrong but that I'll deal with it.

I know someone who's husband left her for another woman and she never confronted the OW - ok fair enough. A few years later after recovering from the betrayal the lady met another man and set up home with him. Sometime later the second partner also cheated. She later found it was the same woman her husband had the affair with. Yes, she lost two men to the same woman. This is another reason I confront such women.

Sometime later the second partner also cheated. She later found it was the same woman her husband had the affair with. Yes, she lost two men to the same woman. This is another reason I confront such women

WHAT? . Oh poor woman, once was bad enough for me.

Ah come on - this is all bollocks.
I posted earlier but now I’m thinking this is a DAILY FAIL set up.
The OP can’t be actually invested - she’s disappeared after her one tiny drip feed.

And I must say - it’s pretty shocking how many posters are so willing to see a “demon woman” making a play for an average DH - just because he’s married. Because (oh shock! Some women are like that!!)
Many more men are like that but you know.. horses for courses..
The utterly silliness of worrying about how to deal with someone who giggles at their DH..
After all, she might a) be teasing another “school mum” about her (other mum’s) crush on the DH (hence giggling), mocking him, thinking he’s pathetic for thinking she fancies him...
It’s hardly beyond the realms of possibility that this school mum thinks your DH stares at her etc hence confronting him in the “hello you” style, laughing at him etc.
After all... she’s not SAYING any flirtatious (for such a “brazen” as pp have described her) person. She had the chance to do on Facebook before she was deleted... but didn’t.

I think (if any of this is real), OP’s DH has been looking too much at her (!!) and she’s taunting him - in a very obvious way. Taunting as in mocking, not teasing in a flirtatious way

And I love the Op’s description of herself being in the car and watching while this woman “openly flirted” with her DH.
Did she deign to speak to him?
Giggle?
At what exactly?
Was she mocking him?

@berrygirlie

Since we're all having a competition about who can suggest the most deranged solution, I suggest you organise a brunch gangbang in the middle of the playground with all the parents except her - then for a bit of added spice, run her over with your car on the way back home.

Amazing how many women are married to sex gods. I only see a really attractive man about once in six months.

The story about the other husband sounds a bit suss. Who would remember or care about the detail about who had added who on facebook and then tell that as part of the story?
That bit would surely be considered irrelevant and the main part of the story is that she had been messaging another womans husband and the marriage ended.

@CodMouth

Don’t smile at her and definitely don’t befriend her....she’ll start coming around to your house when you’re not home.

Yup!

@Quirrelsotherface

21:56WisnaeMe

That's exactly what I was asking, was quoted up thread

can someone please tell us what a beg is ? 😳

Doesn't it just mean a woman who acts like she's begging for it around other people's men?!

Yeah don't be her friend - she'll be inviting herself round for a cup of tea before you know it, conveniently when she knows you're going to be out, but it's ok, he'll do ... (that's a real life example, btw!)

You've got a decent DH who's open and behaving well. She's humiliating herself. Laugh at her, with your DH. No one likes a chaser.

I am guessing beg obviously means begging for attention/being desperate?

Is it the boredom of lockdown that has made this non event such a drama ?
If you are worried your husband will cheat then that's a problem, whether it be on the school run or anywhere else.

The Dad’s on my school run all look like a cross between Tyrone from Coronation Street and Noel Edmunds. A no flirt zone - no crocs required.

why op doesnt update us?