To think oral sex is unpleasant?

[barnabybarbie]

Name changed for obvious reasons.

I should specify - I mean receiving oral sex, not giving it. Giving it I don't mind either way, but receiving really gives me the ick for some reason (even hypothetically from someone I'm otherwise attracted to).

Am I alone in this?

It’s ok to receive for me, but top of my list.

Giving is OK too, I know DH likes it in the mix :). Personally I’m always fascinated to see it shooting out, no sure why? But interesting to look at!!

Totally all fine and good when women don't like the sensation, we're all built differently, but it does make me really sad when women don't like it because it makes them feel self-conscious, or are worried about it, etc.

Haapy the comment that bothered me most was "its slimey"

Womens bits are always viewed as icky/smelly/slimey usually by other women! I do believe it's internalised misogyny

In the bedroom the only thing I like more than receiving oral is giving it to a woman.

I will give DH a BJ occasionally but I'm non fussed about doing it.

It's the only way I can orgasm

Hate giving and receiving. Don't want a mans penis in my mouth it's hardly enjoyable if we are honest is it? As someone said most men are shit at oral any how.

Sometimes if I’m super in the mood I enjoy it and can orgasm, but mostly I don’t enjoy it - I feel like I’m just too alone in my head up there and it’s not hot and heavy in a way that turns me on. Sometimes it’s ticklish and just not sexual. I much prefer giving oral or being touched with hands, that gets me going.

I’ve gone off it over the years.
It doesn’t make me orgasm and I feel too much pressure to enjoy it.
I used to love it though.

Love giving it but could quite happily spend the rest of my life not receiving it.

It’s never done anything for me.

I'm not keen either OP. I'm a bit squeamish about spit. Not the world's keenest French kisser either for the same reason, though I do kiss DH.

@grapewine

It's a skill. With someone who knows what they're doing, it can be mindblowing.

This! Amazing when it's done right. It's my favourite part of sex

Well it’s funny how there’s never threads on here about how giving oral sex to men is gross nasty disgusting icky etc, that only applies to women

Good grief. Do you put full time hours into being offended by women choosing to not like things you think they should? You do not get to pick or control the language women use to describe their own sexual experiences. If you want threads about how disgusting giving oral to men is then start one. It must be exhausting to turn everything into a man vs woman debate all the time.

Didn't think it'd be long before the word 'misogyny' was thrown in either.

Just the thought of it makes me feel icky these days. But then I’ve been happily celibate for the last several years so 🤷‍♀️ Kinda glad to hear I’m not alone though.

No from me too. Too soft, wet and slimey to hit the spot. It does absolutely nothing for me. Why do men never believe you when you tell them you don't like though? They just head on down there with the words 'well you've not had me yet'. Nope. every one... boring, wet and slimey.

Its really patronising to say that if someone doesn't like it then its just not being done right. No. It is quite possible to not like it whoever and however it is done. I can't bear men touching my boobs. Doesn't matter who or how, just bugger off touching me. Its nothing to do with body confidence either.

I can’t stand it either but I also can’t stand being touched there even by myself. It makes me want to be sick. Probably a good thing I’ve been single and celibate for 4 years.

YANBU, I don’t like it. I’ve been with 2 people in the past who could make me orgasm through it but nah still not for me. I prefer other things! Happily oral free for many years now! I do love giving it though.

@LastRoloIsMine

Haapy the comment that bothered me most was "its slimey"

Womens bits are always viewed as icky/smelly/slimey usually by other women! I do believe it's internalised misogyny

You don't believe, or are bothered by the fact that someone said their partner's tongue was slimy? And that women really hate all other women and themselves because they're not fans of slimy tongues during what should be a mutually enjoyable activity?

"Well it’s funny how there’s never threads on here about how giving oral sex to men is gross nasty disgusting icky etc, that only applies to women"

I think giving oral sex to men is gross, nasty and disgusting. Wouldn't start a thread on it though; I just don't do it! Genitals and mouths just don't go together, for me. 🤷 Although I did a lot of both in my youth; mostly to appease others. Can't be arsed with that anymore!

Love receiving by the right person not keen on giving.
If done right it will give you the most crazy intense mind blowing long orgasms.
Most men though just like generally lick with a flat tongue like an ice lolly or something or suck generally. Or smoosh their face in generally.
No, it has to be done a certain way in a certain place

@sobercuriouskind

I love it, but I get paranoid about smells. Yes, I wash before but I just worry that my wetness smells even though DH assures me it doesn't. Like someone else said, I can't look down at DH doing it as it makes me laugh. I properly come through oral which is a bonus as I never have with penetrative sex. But YANBU because have are all different.

I think its like sweat, only smells when dry?

@DunravenBadger

I love giving it, hate receiving it. Ex bf pushed me into it when I was younger, insisted on doing it even after I'd said no as "it might get you in the mood" even though it never ever did. Mind you he never was one for accepting my No when it came to sex. I let other ex's do it as they were so insistent on it being enjoyable. Pisses me off to think I let them do something to me I wasn't comfortable with just because I thought it was the done thing. In my marriage it's not been done a single time thank fuck!

This happened to me when younger as well, ex would insist on doing for ages and ages like it was this amazing treat for me and wouldn’t take no for an answer and it would just be so cold and wet. I think I’m a bit scarred from this experience.

@Ivy455

Oh my god it's the best thing ever if it's done properly. My partner is amazing at it but I once had the unfortunate experiences of a man literally motorboating my labia. It did not do anything for me in case anyone was wondering.

🤣🤣🤣

You're certainly not alone. We don't all like the same things.

@MrsPsmalls

Its really patronising to say that if someone doesn't like it then its just not being done right. No. It is quite possible to not like it whoever and however it is done. I can't bear men touching my boobs. Doesn't matter who or how, just bugger off touching me. Its nothing to do with body confidence either.

Yes, I agree with this. It's okay for women to not enjoy a certain sexual act. It doesn't mean that she just hasn't had it from someone as experienced as your "hubby"! All this "if it's done right you'll love it" is very patronising.