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Original poster

To think oral sex is unpleasant?

382 replies

barnabybarbie · 31/03/2021 21:43

Name changed for obvious reasons.

I should specify - I mean receiving oral sex, not giving it. Giving it I don't mind either way, but receiving really gives me the ick for some reason (even hypothetically from someone I'm otherwise attracted to).

Am I alone in this?

OP posts:
MrsJBaptiste · 31/03/2021 22:17

@MrsHastingslikethebattle

Alone in this. It's the best thing since sliced bread.

I didn't think much of it before I met my DP. Get someone who is good at it and god, you will see stars.

Absolutely!

Get it from someone who knows what they're' doing and you might change your opinion!

grapewine · 31/03/2021 22:17

It's a skill. With someone who knows what they're doing, it can be mindblowing.

StripedLeopard · 31/03/2021 22:17

Hate giving it, love receiving it

Ugzbugz · 31/03/2021 22:18

Most men are absolutely shit and have no idea what they are doing. I am not confident but do enjoy it but I had one man ans it was not wet or slimy or gross at all, I've slept with quite a few blokes and I would say 95 percent are shit.

Original poster
barnabybarbie · 31/03/2021 22:18

You can dislike something but calling it icky and yucky is unnecessary telling people that it’s something that’s “disgusting” how about just saying you don’t like it?

I just know for me it feels icky & yucky but not necessarily a reflection of my feelings about women who enjoy it or oral sex itself!

OP posts:
Totallyfedup1979 · 31/03/2021 22:18

Love it.

Esther95 · 31/03/2021 22:19

Meh, would much rather have penetrative sex than oral. Yanbu

sobercuriouskind · 31/03/2021 22:20

I love it, but I get paranoid about smells. Yes, I wash before but I just worry that my wetness smells even though DH assures me it doesn't. Like someone else said, I can't look down at DH doing it as it makes me laugh. I properly come through oral which is a bonus as I never have with penetrative sex. But YANBU because have are all different.

evelynina · 31/03/2021 22:21

It's ok, not my favourite I think I need more pressure prefer fingers. Grin

Name128535689953 · 31/03/2021 22:23

Not a fan here.

Someone told me it’s like eating a peach. A few weeks later I went for lunch with my boss. He ate a peach and I couldn’t look at him.

Cocomarine · 31/03/2021 22:23

I can’t stand it! I find it deathly dull and it does nothing for me at all.
I’m very body confident, very confident in talking about what I like, trying different positions etc...
Perhaps I haven’t found someone who does it well... but I’m not in single figures and I’ve had “good” and “bad” within that at sex generally - so I don’t think it’s that.
It’s just BORING.
I really don’t orgasm easily though. Even though I can get myself there VERY quickly, it’s only ever one way. So I don’t think it’s skill (I’ve certainly practised enough 🤣) - I’m just not built that way. So I don’t think oral sex would ever do it - and it doesn’t even turn me on short of orgasm.
Annoyingly, my husband really likes doing it 😫

BurbageBrook · 31/03/2021 22:24

God no, I love it. Have the most amazing orgasms that way. Some men are better at it than others but they can all be 'coached' to go faster/slower/lighter etc if needed!

wusbanker · 31/03/2021 22:24

Most men I've been with are not good at it so I'd rather they didn't try. The only issue I have is when they insist and I don't want to bruise their ego.

BurbageBrook · 31/03/2021 22:25

@sobercuriouskind please try not to worry about that sort of thing. The vast majority of men really enjoy the smell, taste etc!

user20211 · 31/03/2021 22:26

Loooove receiving. Don't mind giving but don't love it.

me4real · 31/03/2021 22:26

YANBU, everyone's different. It doesn't give me the ick as a concept, but I don't like it at all. To me it's like a ticklish sensation.

Closetbeanmuncher · 31/03/2021 22:26

They are shit at it because they learned it from heterosexual porn....

Only one man has ever managed to make my knees weak from it. If it's not done well the feeling is irritating.

Seriously79 · 31/03/2021 22:27

Ohhh I love it! Both giving and receiving 😉

Thismummyruns · 31/03/2021 22:27

Not a fan either. I don't see the point (for me personally). Would much rather be doing other things 😂

LocalHobo · 31/03/2021 22:27

I've yet to meet a bloke who doesn't like a BJ.
They certainly do exist.

I find receiving oral almost too intense to be pleasurable. I have to be in the right frame of mind to really enjoy the adrenalin rush.

dividedwefall · 31/03/2021 22:28

I love it (from someone good at it) but also feel awkward and exposed for some reason.

Frauhubert · 31/03/2021 22:28

I don’t like receiving. Just feel so uncomfortable and on edge in otherwise very sexually open minded and adventurous relationship

Latenighthoughts · 31/03/2021 22:28

Ugh my god for it was just me! Every girl goes on about how great it is, and that it's more likely to get you to climax than penetrative sex but to me it's just a grim sensation. I hate it. Its warm, wet and slimy. It does nothing for me, also it's just abit too close for comfort. Sometimes I've endured it in the hopes of finally having this great revelation moment where I go "oh so this is what everyone was on about" but I end up just lying there waiting for it to be over

Pinchoftums · 31/03/2021 22:29

I hate it when they look up all slobbery

me4real · 31/03/2021 22:29

The only issue I have is when they insist and I don't want to bruise their ego.

@wusbanker Please don't feel you have to endure something so intiimate and intense just for someone else. If they insist to the extent you feel you have to let them do something you don't want, they belong in the bin.