To think oral sex is unpleasant?

[barnabybarbie]

Name changed for obvious reasons.

I should specify - I mean receiving oral sex, not giving it. Giving it I don't mind either way, but receiving really gives me the ick for some reason (even hypothetically from someone I'm otherwise attracted to).

Am I alone in this?

I could happily live without ever giving or receiving again.

I love it but feel self conscious about being clean, the way I look etc in a way I imagine nearly no men do. Internalised misogyny.

Oh my god it's the best thing ever if it's done properly. My partner is amazing at it but I once had the unfortunate experiences of a man literally motorboating my labia. It did not do anything for me in case anyone was wondering.

@barnabybarbie

For those who have said they don't like it much either, are you relatively body confident? I'm not and I'm trying to establish if this is an insecurity thing or just a personal preference.

It's one of my least favourite sex acts and men usually want to do it (badly) under the guise of "female pleasure" even if you're not enjoying it. Shambles!

Yes. I'm slim, toned and no issues vagina wise. Just don't like it.

I'm morbidly relieved that it's not just me!

I would much prefer having proper sex even if I don't orgasm from that either - don't think I like a bloke that close to my nooks and crannies

I’m so so about it, but nice to get from time to time :). DH likes it, not my favourite to thing, but I like to do it for him.

I’ve only ever enjoyed it with DH and that was (note the past tense!) with fingers as well, which made all the difference. He hasn’t wanted to do oral for years now, just another nail in the coffin of our (lack of) sex life and general relationship woes.

If I could do it to myself, I probably wouldn’t leave the house.

I don’t mind giving or receiving however DH really doesn’t like receiving (technique been enjoyed in the past by others) he just can’t relax into it. So it isn’t something we really do.

Love giving and receiving! My hubby is amazing at it though....not at all slobbery 🤣

I don't like giving or receiving. But particularly receiving. I just don't enjoy having someone's face down at my genitals. No matter how hot or skillful they are. I used to let people go down on me because they wanted to, even though I never enjoyed it. I have more confidence in stating my boundaries now that I'm older which is a good thing.

I love giving it, hate receiving it. Ex bf pushed me into it when I was younger, insisted on doing it even after I'd said no as "it might get you in the mood" even though it never ever did. Mind you he never was one for accepting my No when it came to sex. I let other ex's do it as they were so insistent on it being enjoyable. Pisses me off to think I let them do something to me I wasn't comfortable with just because I thought it was the done thing. In my marriage it's not been done a single time thank fuck!

My DH whim I love and find really attractive, is a fantastic lover, great sex and all that but he’s not good at giving oral sex. An ex of mine was terrific at giving oral sex but nothing else. Just depends how it’s done I suppose. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

Definitely the other way round here - love receiving, don't like giving. I feel quite guilty about that, really.

Like receiving it .... but really hate giving it!

YABU. It's enjoyable for me!

@Happycat1212

You hate that some women don't enjoy oral and therefore choose not to receive it? Weird. Not everything is a man Vs woman issue.

You can dislike something but calling it icky and yucky is unnecessary telling people that it’s something that’s “disgusting” how about just saying you don’t like it?

Why do you feel you can police people's language? Grown women are sharing their experiences of oral. If some of them wish to describe it as giving them the ick or even disgusting, that is well and truly up to them. You don't get to police other women's chosen language to describe their sexual experiences.

I am totally fickle about it. With DP sometimes it is amazing and other times it is not. I've been with other partners and it's been good, bad or a mixture. It depends on the mood I'm in, the time of the month and how into it I am at the time. If I'm not feeling it, I'm not feeling it.

Nope don’t like it either

You are asking God knows how many women all over the world so unlikely you are going to get a diffinative answer but I appreciate you probably felt like you were alone in not liking oral sex.

It doesnt matter how many like it or don't. It only matters that you don't.

Like giving, have not enjoyed recieving with the majority of men though. Its definitely a highly specialised skill that most men lack.

My husband is exceptionally good at it so I LOVE it!

It's the most intense orgasm. It's just great

Why do you feel you can police people's language? Grown women are sharing their experiences of oral. If some of them wish to describe it as giving them the ick or even disgusting, that is well and truly up to them. You don't get to police other women's chosen language to describe their sexual experiences.

Well it’s funny how there’s never threads on here about how giving oral sex to men is gross nasty disgusting icky etc, that only applies to women 🙄

He's got a beard and I'm tryna wet it.

I love the wetness 😍

Well it’s funny how there’s never threads on here about how giving oral sex to men is gross nasty disgusting icky etc, that only applies to women

Not sure anyone has said that it IS gross / nasty / disgusting though? Just that it feels gross / nasty / disgusting for them personally?