To think oral sex is unpleasant?

[barnabybarbie]

Name changed for obvious reasons.

I should specify - I mean receiving oral sex, not giving it. Giving it I don't mind either way, but receiving really gives me the ick for some reason (even hypothetically from someone I'm otherwise attracted to).

Am I alone in this?

If dh was on mastermind his specialist subject could be Giving Oral. Definitely my favourite, from him.

Unpleasant is not a bad enough word for me. Disgusting, revolting, vomit-inducing - yes.

I'm not the hugest fan of receiving. I really struggle with concentration (ADHD) and get too easily distracted if I'm just lying there so there's never really any outcome for me.
I much prefer giving!

@Deedeedocket

If I could do it to myself, I probably wouldn’t leave the houseI

^ Yes, this.

Most men though just like generally lick with a flat tongue like an ice lolly

But this ^ is exactly my favourite. Pointy lizard tongue, nope (too intense). Nice wide digestive biscuit tongue, now we're in business - lovely gradual build up. Ah well, we're all different I suppose.

I envy all the posters who enjoyed penetrative sex from the off. Took me a few years to experience orgasm that way. Oral kept me going in the meantime! Didn't have many partners but they were all willing.

I definitely agree, I actually love giving it but at most receiving is just ok, normally don't like at all. Trust me it's not that every single person I've been with has been bad at it, it's just not for me. I'm totally body confident as others have said it's just a bit wet and I like the friction:

Its not my cuppa tea at all. But I fear I have the female equivalent of the death grip thing.

I don't find it icky or anything like that, but it's not my favourite thing to do tbh.
I can orgasm through it, but out of all the sex 'things', it's probably the one I have to 'concentrate' for the most. And who can be arsed with that, during sex 😂 For me, it's a strange mix of too acute, which quickly morphs into... numbing. It's hard to explain.

I'm another one who gets annoyed with the 'you haven't found right person yet' though. Since having children, I can orgasm quite easily through PIV, but I wouldn't dream of telling a woman who couldn't that it's because she 'just hasn't found the right man'. I'm a mid forties woman with lots of experience, I just know what works for me.

I agree with you OP! I enjoy giving but never receiving, I remember once having quite an enjoyable 69er but that was eons ago 😂 it's a shame for dp because apparently he loves giving it. Oh well.

I think it gives amazing orgasms! I was only musing the other day that the men I have been in relationships with loved having blow jobs but not many even asked if I wanted them to reciprocate.. My now wiser head realises that I ought to have waited for them to make the first move.

Id rather his mouth and tongue were used on other areas tbh

I don't like it and have never cum from it. From the posters saying it must be mens bad technique,had it from women to and still....NADA.
I'm body confident,have a high sex drive and will happily say/show what I like. I just don't like it. Or anal. But I love giving oral and rimming do far from a prude.

I love the sense of power I have giving. I’ve practiced and I’m good! I like to make an effort for DH.

So no tongues what off fingers then. As going from zero to sixty penetratively would bloody hurt I know this from experience as lazy men doing no warm up just wham bam thank you mam.

It's very intimate, is what it comes down to for me. Meaning it's only enjoyable where there is extreme trust.

Also don’t like it...too wet and not ‘hard’ enough to get me anywhere close!

@Deedeedocket

If I could do it to myself, I probably wouldn’t leave the house.

Big nope from me but I also hate kissing because it feels too intrusive and I can't stop thinking I'm possibly swallowing someone else's saliva. And don't get me started on tongues. My mouth already has one and that's all it needs.

I haven’t received for years, it was never my favourite thing. I don’t really like the sensation, it’s often ticklish and it makes me feel really disconnected from my partner and only once in a blue moon made me orgasm.

I really like giving and get really turned on by it.

@VettiyaIruken

Big nope from me but I also hate kissing because it feels too intrusive and I can't stop thinking I'm possibly swallowing someone else's saliva. And don't get me started on tongues. My mouth already has one and that's all it needs.

Yes, I really can’t stand tongue kissing now for any length of time at all. It gives me the ick.

If you don't like they are not doing it right

I’ve had good and bad, and when done well, it’s definitely my favourite sex act to receive. I can say that my first serious boyfriend was probably best at it, as we were both fairly inexperienced, and he wanted to take pointers on technique, and worked hard at getting good at it. (Makes me feel all giddy, even now.)

I am fairly cold on the giving front. I have TMJ, and it gets pretty painful, so that might be part of it. I do feel that I should at least make an effort in reciprocating, though! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@AlCalavicci

Only if it is done right , a friend ( honest ) once told me her BF does it like a dog licking a ice cream, I could never quite look at him the same again !

🤣😂😂

Its really patronising to say that if someone doesn't like it then its just not being done right.

Indeed. I've had lots of sexual partners, lots of oral sex, lots of orgasm's from oral sex. But I don't enjoy it at all.

It's like carrots, I don't like them, I've had them in many forms, and prepared by extremely talented and revered chefs. I still don't like them.

First husband was shit at it. On the v v rare occasion he bothered to try. Second husband....fireworks. Every time!

I'm not enormously keen receiving it. But happy to give.