To think oral sex is unpleasant?

[barnabybarbie]

Name changed for obvious reasons.

I should specify - I mean receiving oral sex, not giving it. Giving it I don't mind either way, but receiving really gives me the ick for some reason (even hypothetically from someone I'm otherwise attracted to).

Am I alone in this?

I am not a bit fan of receiving oral. To be fair I’ve been with a few guys were who pretty good at it but for me I orgasm easily from penetrative sex and the orgasms are far more intense from penetrative sex so I much prefer it to oral.

I am not a bit fan of receiving oral. To be fair I’ve been with a few guys were who pretty good at it but for me I orgasm easily from penetrative sex and the orgasms are far more intense from penetrative sex so I much prefer it to oral

This is pretty much my experience too

I like to do it for DH. I really enjoy his reaction, rather than the actual doing it myself if that makes sense? I always liked seeing him finish :)

@DropDTuning calm down, I literally said if people aren't bothered and are happy with a sex life that doesn't incorporate oral then that's fine. People are so defensive on this thread.

@SinisterBumFacedCat

This thread is literally swimming in posters saying it is icky or gross. Not liking something is fine but these words, especially current MN favourite “the ick” has a playground mentality about it. It’s a word designed to put people down and shame people.

100% agree with this.

I think it's used so much by people on here who resent the freeness/openness of some posters who are happy with their sex life, and so they have to frame the acts these people enjoy as "disgusting" in order to feel better about their preference.

Or maybe just resent the assertion that you only don't like something because it hasn't been done right. 🤷🤦‍♀️

I think it's used so much by people on here who resent the freeness/openness of some posters who are happy with their sex life, and so they have to frame the acts these people enjoy as "disgusting" in order to feel better about their preference.

Nope, not judgemental at all.

Oh , wait. I forgot it only works one way.
Here's the thing. You can't be that confident and happy with your sexuality and sex life if "playground behaviour/words" upset you so much and you need to throw psychobabble around to defend yourself.

I can't see this thread going the same about anal, or urine/faeces games or many many other things.

I don't like it at all. No reflection on my DH have never liked it. But I love giving it to him and my DH knows how to make happy 😉

Well it doesn't give me the ick but I enjoy it more around ovulation time and can't get enough. Easily orgasm from it and DH adores it. I get the body conscious aspect of it but with DH enjoying it so much I just let myself go and enjoy it!

I love receiving it. I had a boyfriend that could spend ages down on me. Don’t really like giving it
The ick just sounds so immature. Call it what it is.

I have liked it at times but wouldn't fancy it now (even if I had someone which I don't). It wasn't something I thought about in a fantasising way but there were times when I enjoyed it spontaneously. I did enjoy giving oral, very much.

If someone doesn't like it they don't have to do it surely. There are plenty of other things to do.

It’s just gone 5:00 am, l can’t get back to sleep. I fancy it now if anyone’s available. 😂

Happy to recipricate and make breakfast afterwards 💋.

Either gender may apply 🌈.

I don’t like it. Probably a body confidence thing. I’m a giver.

Doesn't matter who does it. Makes me incredibly uncomfortable. I just do not like receiving.

Don't mind giving.

For those who feel the need to call people out for using what they deem to be "playground" or "pathetic", I have not used offensive words or name called, I used a word that sprang to mind and conveyed how I felt. I answered the question based on my opinion and gave a reason which was based to my own personal experience, therefore, not saying that the how I feel should apply to everyone. I love my husband, but this is the one aspect of MY sex life that I do not enjoy him. I also do not appreciate my husband telling me about the women before me who enjoyed it, it's similar to people telling me I'm pathetic for using a word like "icky" or "unpleasant" to talk about my experience and feelings. This is very a subjective matter, so you can only answer the question from our own perspective and I would not be arrogant enough to think I could speak on behalf of all women.

I don't think using words like "icky" or "gross" when in relation to personal experience (which this thread is all about) are necessarily a judgement on anyone else at all. Saying "I find receiving oral sex gross" is different from "other people who participate in oral sex are gross and deserve to be shamed". I think if you enjoy oral sex then kudos to you, but for me personally it is unpleasant - as I imagine most other posters are saying, bar the homophobic PP.

Have orgasmed from it, body confident. Not my bag.

People should be allowed to say they feel icky receiving it if that’s how they feel. It’s a perfectly fine description. There is only one comment that’s been out of order on this thread and it never mentioned icky.

Bloke here.
I’ve followed this topic open-mouthed (excuse me) I mean wide-eyed. It started well then developed quickly into a MN firestorm in a teacup.
Let there be calm. Let the only icke be David Icke, that well-known cunning linguist and conspiracy theorist.

“The Ick” is different from using “icky” though. The Ick is a noun to describe a fundamental feeling of wrongness. Usually about a partner,
triggered by something petty when you know the love has gone. Possibly “the face” when someone looks up with that from licking you out to check out what’s happening.

Icky could be anything that makes you feel like you are going to throw up.

For me, it's the most mind-blowing sensation imaginable, whereas with PIV you may as well be sticking your finger in my ear for all the pleasure it gives me. I've never been in a relationship with anyone who didn't do it for me and with DH it's mindblowing. Body confidence has nothing to do with it (and I've been all shapes and sizes over the years) It's about how it feels, not how I feel about my looks.

One of my friends confided in me that she's not keen because it tickles and another gets the ick from it, but I'm genuinely surprised how many posters on this thread feel along similar lines - I thought they were a small minority.

@Danceswithwhippets - Good to see your calming words.

@Catra - i agree about mindblowing. It would also appear that whoever your friend is with has the pressure wrong. A too light approach will tickle.

I kind of like to receive it from time to time, as one part. I like to give, not sure why really? The reaction from DH maybe?

Well, I'm going to be predictable here.

The sensation of being all wet and feeling his tongue licking and lapping and kissing me so intimately, making everything even more wet, and maybe sliding a finger or two inside me as well, with my legs wide open and my hands on his head, is just .....

Impossibly nice. Only problem is I would come so quick! But then he could keep going gently and I would again ... and it's the perfect prelude to penetration ...

(no no no - don't mock me for liking that - that's not fair)

BUT

It DOES require really letting go. Not worrying about omg what do I look like, does he actually enjoy this or is it a chore, does he like the scent and taste of my pussy, is it turning him on, etc.

You have to be ok with all that.

And correct me if I'm wrong, but quite a lot of women on here a) seem spoilt with husbands desperate to worship between their legs ... and b) well just so uptight.

Yes. Uptight.

More licking might relax you? 😀

It gives some 'the ick' (oh how I hate that term) because they are sexually/body repressed. Not happy.

😀😀😀😀😀🙂🙂 yes I did just say that