Ppl commenting that I am very thin?!

[minnie465]

I'm probably doing to sound slightly delusional here. Another thread on here today has got me thinking.

I'm mid 30s, weigh around 9 stone/57kgs. Measurements today are bust 36 inch/ waist 28 inch/ hips 38 inch. I have always been slim so no massive weight changes. So BMI usually 22 or just below.

People are always commenting on my weight saying that I am very thin. My parents especially. But not just family, work
colleagues, friends too. I went on a training day last year for work that involved hands on contact with the trainer. When she put her arm around me she exclaimed "omg you are so tiny".

So I've always felt a bit conscious of my size/weight and I actually think that I am too skinny. I have a chronic illness that flares up from time to time. This often causes me to lose a few pounds, no more than half a stone when I had a flare last year. Well the comments increase even more. I easily put the weight back on quickly once flare settles. But I really hate all the remarks.

So reading other threads on here and there are women my height who are lighter than me and who are trying to lose weight. I am baffled as to why people think I am so thin. AIBU to actually think I am a perfectly healthy weight for my height?

I forgot to say I'm 5 foot 3

You’re heavier and shorter than I am and nobody comments on my size. Is it the way you are proportioned or clothes you wear do you think?

I think we're so used to vanity sizing that people can think of normally sized people as 'skinny'. Also sometimes I think an element of jealousy causes them to say these things.

I'm 5ft 3 and and 8.7 stone. I can't say I've had any comments like that but we all carry weight differently.

Either way, just glare at them and make it clear your weight is none of their business.

You don't say your height, but if you have used a BMI calculator to work out your BMI of 22, you already know that that is considered 'normal'.
Different people carry weight in very different places, however, so it is possible that some people look thin to some other people while at a healthy BMI.

Unless you are 6ft tall that's a normal weight.

I am 55kg at 5'5" and get this " thin" crap all the time. I even got it from the surgeon when I was in hospital.

So many people are fat these days that we have lost sight of what a normal weight is.

I'm the same size and height, pretty much. No one's ever commented.

I agree with above. So many people, myself included, are fat these days that people of a healthy size look small/thin etc.

Sorry, slow typing about your height.
I am 5ft 6 /7 and currently with around 9 st 6. For me, that feels blobby ( all in my middle) and an aunt, seeing me for the first time for a while, exclaimed 'My! You've been piling on the pounds'.
She has a long history of tact...

Well I'm also 5'3", mid-forties, 25" waist, weigh 51/52kg, BMI 20, and I don't get people constantly telling me I'm too skinny...

I'm 5ft 2 and would consider 9st my ideal weight. So I don't think you are too thin.

You're about the same height as me and nearly a stone heavier, and I'm a bloke. You don't sound like you'd be particularly skinny given the measurements or BMI

But I'm constantly amazed at the range of weights that different people can be at a similar size. I think I have hollow bones

I used to get remarks about my weight. It’s stopped now I’ve put on weight and I’m now your size.

I’m not sure what you are looking for?

My eldest dd is very very slim, size 4, perfectly proportioned for her height etc. She gets comments all the time (including previously from us as her parents) about how slim she is, how lovely etc. However, unbeknown to us, she hated the comments, they made her equally self conscious as I guess larger people feel when their excess weight is mentioned. We saw it as a lovely compliment that she was so slim. As soon as she said how the slim comments made her feel we stopped immediately. It never crossed our minds that someone could feel awful and self conscious about a positive (or so I thought) thing. It’s made me realise and think twice before making a comment, albeit what I believe to be positive, to others.

I’m the same height as you about 8kg lighter, BMI is 19, I’ve never had anyone comment that I am too slim or skinny. I think I’m a perfectly normal weight and so are you. I’ve had some comments that I have a nice figure but that’s about it.

I do think people can project a bit and say you are too thin, in order to move the bar of what’s normal.
I agree I think we have lost sight a bit of what a normal height and weight is so what is a normal weight, to some people can be too thin.

You’re the exact weight and height that I am, nobody has ever told me that I look too thin! I feel best a few pounds lighter (not much, around 8 stone 10 suits me best).

Ignore them. Perfectly healthy weight. Am 5ft7 and 35-24-28 (57kg) and get the same comments. Am a size 8-10 so entirely normal-sized.

The comments don't bother me tbh. In fact, I use them as an enabler whenever I fancy having two desserts

Agree with others who say it is just that we have lost sight of what is normal!

I’ve had this OP. I weigh just a bit less than you and have had people comment saying I’m so skinny, what do I do to stay so skinny, am I eating enough because I look so skinny. I’m not denying that I am a slim person but definitely not enough to warrant these comments - I think some people think I’ll really appreciate them because when I don’t reply with a gushing ‘thanks SO much oh my goodness I’m so flattered!’ they seem a bit put out

You are same height as me and the same weight as when I am at my most preferred weight.
I had comments that I was skinny at that too but I think it’s the way I carry my weight and also people had got used to me being a 31inch waist. 3 inches off that can be quite noticeable even though really it’s only a size and a half or around 1.5 stone in weight difference

At 64 and 5'5", I weigh 61kg. BMI is 22.5. A little pudgier than I was at 50, but still wear a bikini on holiday.

People shouldn't think its okay to comment about your body. Compliments are fine in the right circumstances, but comments are not.

@Chanjer

You're about the same height as me and nearly a stone heavier, and I'm a bloke. You don't sound like you'd be particularly skinny given the measurements or BMI

But I'm constantly amazed at the range of weights that different people can be at a similar size. I think I have hollow bones

If you’re the same height as a women who’s a stone heavier it’s probably to be expected as women generally have more shape to them than men

Unless a man is quite muscular they will be lighter

My husband is the same weight as me but taller than me, yet I am slimmer than he is (unless you compare our hip/bun measurement )

Tell them to do one. I weigh 41kgs and am the same height. No one really comments, likely because I look like I'd bite their head off. Fwiw I did have an ED and used to be a lot slimmer, but that manifested from failure to thrive as a child. If anyone asks, I give them the mumsnet headtilt.

OP, you sound like you have a lovely figure that is bang on normal. :)

I'm 10 stone 1 5 ft 7, size 8-10 and I get told I'm skinny all the time but I'm not. I'm slim with big boobs. 20 years ago i never got told I was skinny and weighed less.

It’s very rude of them to comment. BMI 22 is of course a very healthy. Even if you lose when ill you will still be in acceptable healthy range. Everyone carries differently but bmi 22 is nowhere near unhealthy underweight.
Are your parents overweight and/or do you live in an area where most people are overweight. I live in one area but often visit another deprived town a few miles away and difference is very stark. When my bmi was 22 I was noticeably one of thinner ones there whereas near my house I’m just normal. I was a size 10 and never looked too thin at bmi 22.