Ppl commenting that I am very thin?!

[minnie465]

I'm probably doing to sound slightly delusional here. Another thread on here today has got me thinking.

I'm mid 30s, weigh around 9 stone/57kgs. Measurements today are bust 36 inch/ waist 28 inch/ hips 38 inch. I have always been slim so no massive weight changes. So BMI usually 22 or just below.

People are always commenting on my weight saying that I am very thin. My parents especially. But not just family, work
colleagues, friends too. I went on a training day last year for work that involved hands on contact with the trainer. When she put her arm around me she exclaimed "omg you are so tiny".

So I've always felt a bit conscious of my size/weight and I actually think that I am too skinny. I have a chronic illness that flares up from time to time. This often causes me to lose a few pounds, no more than half a stone when I had a flare last year. Well the comments increase even more. I easily put the weight back on quickly once flare settles. But I really hate all the remarks.

So reading other threads on here and there are women my height who are lighter than me and who are trying to lose weight. I am baffled as to why people think I am so thin. AIBU to actually think I am a perfectly healthy weight for my height?

"So many people are fat these days that we have lost sight of what a normal weight is."

That didn't take long!

I’m taller than you and weigh less. People occasionally comment but I don’t get ‘skinny’ remarks.

Id not worry about it op - as pp have said, we all carry weight differently and if you're tall then slimness can be more noticeable.

@gottenhaitch

"So many people are fat these days that we have lost sight of what a normal weight is."

That didn't take long!

It's true though.

5' 3" and 9 stone is not "too slim" imo.

I am 5' 3" and have been various weights.

I am skinny when about 7 stone. Size 6. Was only once this weight when younger. During a period when I stoped eating as I was in luuuuuurve.

My "normal" weight in my younger days "without trying" was 7.5 to 8 stone. I was slim but tbh looked better when 7 stone although that weight is underweight and not maintainable for me.

I looked overweight when I was 9 stone. This became my "normal weight without trying as I reached my late 30s and 40s.

But it all probably depends how you carry your weight. I have never carried any weight well as it will all go on hips and bum first and I look very uneven. I also have cellulite whenever I am 7.5 stone and up. If you carry weight more evenly and don't have as much cellulite you'd probably look fine at this weight. Definitely not underweight.

I am currently 11 stone as my thyroid broke. I look ginormous. Wouldn't recommend this weight at all although I now have so much fat it is more evenly spread and I have gone from no boobs to huge boobs. So swings and roundabouts. Hoping to lose a bit when I get well (if I get there) as I am officially "overweight" in terms of BMI and I am very unfit.

@Tootsey11

Ive had this Op. I'm 5'5" and 8 St 2.

I've had numerous comments about my weight, every comment from someone overweight or obese. People asking me one xmas, 'are you having turkey', me 'yes'. Them, 'well why don't you eat the whole thing, you look as if you could do with it'.

Others have been why don't you go and get yourself a burger, or two.

Nasty nasty unnecessary comments from jealous people.

The response I would have ready is "Why, won't you be having any dinner? I didn't like to mention but you look as if you could do without it". But then I give no shits.

Incidentally, I'm a 5'9" male, 9 stone and remember getting "don't they feed you at home?" from plenty of people who were clearly trying to belittle me to make up for their own insecurities. I do eat, thanks for asking. In fact I'm partial to a fry-up and enjoy eating cakes just as much as I enjoy baking them. I just have a good metabolism.

You are just over half a stone heavier, 3 inches shorter, and thicker than I am.

Nobody comments on my size.

No, you are not unreasonable to think that you are a healthy weight for your height.

I'm the same height and weight as you and definitely not skinny. I'm a size 14. I am small framed with skinny arms and legs but plump around the middle. We are all different.
When I was younger and 7 stone people were quite rude about me being skinny which I found offensive. You can't be rude about fat people but are allowed to be rude about thin people!

@TheBullfinch I get weighed every 8 weeks at hospital appt as I get biologics. And my scales at home say the same. I probably have a medium sized frame. Did quite a bit of exercise prior to pandemic. I weigh the same now but my measurements have probably changed a bit

Maybe you just carry your weight in an unusual way. People are rude to comment though!

Yeah, it's a bit strange. I'm 5'6 and 57-58kg. I'd say I'm healthily slim but definitely not "skinny". And nobody ever mentions my weight to me.

I'm the same weight as you, a bit taller. No one in my life has ever said I am "very thin," much less "tiny." Can't even imagine it.

@Blindstupid

My eldest dd is very very slim, size 4, perfectly proportioned for her height etc. She gets comments all the time (including previously from us as her parents) about how slim she is, how lovely etc. However, unbeknown to us, she hated the comments, they made her equally self conscious as I guess larger people feel when their excess weight is mentioned. We saw it as a lovely compliment that she was so slim. As soon as she said how the slim comments made her feel we stopped immediately. It never crossed our minds that someone could feel awful and self conscious about a positive (or so I thought) thing. It’s made me realise and think twice before making a comment, albeit what I believe to be positive, to others.

This was me. People used to touch me all the time, my wrists, out their hands around my waist to ‘see if they would fit’. Always bloody comments, it used to annoy me so much. Then due to stress I dropped to a size 2 and people got nasty. Strangers would discuss me as though I wasn’t there. One woman asked me if I had an earring disorder. I remember sobbing on my birthday after two random strangers discussed me in earshot.

Don’t comment on anyone’s weight unless they seem like they want you to. It really really upset me for years, I never wore bikinis even in the pool/beach and has left me a bit screwy because I always think That people expect me to be thin now that I’m a bit bigger (size 8) and that they will think I’m fat because I’m not as thin as they expected.

Can you post a photo (with head cropped out) so maybe we can see if there’s any other reason you are appearing skinny to people?

Oh my god whatever your weight, height, clothes size surely people realise it’s just bloody rude to comment?
I’d not dream of making a weight/size comment to absolutely anyone, it enrages me when people comment on mine and wouldn’t do it to anyone else.
I’ve no idea if you’re a healthy weight for your height, you seem to be aware that you are so shut down anyone who comments.

Your weight sounds perfect for your height and build. It's annoying that people feel free to comment their distorted view of you. I used to get this a few years ago - usually from people who were alot heavier.

ham ... we thought the slim comments were kind ... as soon as dd voiced her feelings, we absolutely took it on board - with her and everyone else. We now never comment on things, even if we’re being nice and positive - dd made us realise it’s not always taken in this way.

I hope you’re okay

@Blindstupid sorry my ‘dont comment’ wasn’t directed at you! It was just general. I totally get what you’re saying, I wasn’t having a go, sorry if it came across that way! Xx

I’m 5’4 and weight 52/53kg and often get comments like “There’s nothing of you!”, “You’re so skinny!” etc from colleagues. It really annoys me as nobody would dream of saying “There’s so much of you!” or “You’re so fat!” to anyone else!

I was anorexic when I was younger so know exactly what I’d look like underweight and am perfectly healthy and fit now.

I’m 178cm and weigh 57kg.

I am skinny. But I don’t give a crap. I love it. Ignore comments. People are delusional. 30 years ago it wasn’t unusual to see super slim people around, now it is. It’s a reflection on people’s inability to see this that is the problem (and causing, I think, the obesity epidemic we have).

@minnie465 I reckon you look normal sized

You sound like you look great OP which may explain the comments.
Ignore them. I'm 5ft 9 and 9 stone 4. I've been that weight since I was 15 and now I'm 56.
I've had some stupid comments over the years, all from women unsurprisingly...present company excepted
My weight is completely normal, but it's the slight exception nowadays, so...🤷🏻‍♀️

You must carry it differently to me because I’m the same weight and height and consider myself to look tubby!

Are you sure people aren’t just trying to me nice?

I’ve had this. I’m 5 ft 2 and weigh around 7 stone 5 or 6. I had an operation a few years ago and the surgeon who did it commented that I was “very thin”. I’m not as far as I can see

This is right at the lower end of a healthy BMI which I expect to be in the slim side, potentially very slim looking. I think part of the issue is people expect a healthy BMI to be “normal” but actually the average BMI is probably overweight.

OP we can’t possibly know whether you look slim or not when we haven’t seen a picture of you.

The healthy BMI range is 18-25 so a BMI of 22 is bang in the middle. You could not be a more perfect, ideal weight. Lucky you.