Ppl commenting that I am very thin?!

[minnie465]

I'm probably doing to sound slightly delusional here. Another thread on here today has got me thinking.

I'm mid 30s, weigh around 9 stone/57kgs. Measurements today are bust 36 inch/ waist 28 inch/ hips 38 inch. I have always been slim so no massive weight changes. So BMI usually 22 or just below.

People are always commenting on my weight saying that I am very thin. My parents especially. But not just family, work
colleagues, friends too. I went on a training day last year for work that involved hands on contact with the trainer. When she put her arm around me she exclaimed "omg you are so tiny".

So I've always felt a bit conscious of my size/weight and I actually think that I am too skinny. I have a chronic illness that flares up from time to time. This often causes me to lose a few pounds, no more than half a stone when I had a flare last year. Well the comments increase even more. I easily put the weight back on quickly once flare settles. But I really hate all the remarks.

So reading other threads on here and there are women my height who are lighter than me and who are trying to lose weight. I am baffled as to why people think I am so thin. AIBU to actually think I am a perfectly healthy weight for my height?

I'm 5'4" and currently 9 and a half stone. I feel and look better at 9 stone but certainly not thin!

I’m 5’6” and 51kg/8 stone. I’m not ‘thin’ just lean and a little bit muscly. I do have a small bone mass though and absolutely no tits to speak of, sadly.

People did comment on my weight when I was marginally heavier, which was unpleasant. People need to learn to not comment on the size and shape of others. It helps not.

@Blindstupid

My eldest dd is very very slim, size 4, perfectly proportioned for her height etc. She gets comments all the time (including previously from us as her parents) about how slim she is, how lovely etc. However, unbeknown to us, she hated the comments, they made her equally self conscious as I guess larger people feel when their excess weight is mentioned. We saw it as a lovely compliment that she was so slim. As soon as she said how the slim comments made her feel we stopped immediately. It never crossed our minds that someone could feel awful and self conscious about a positive (or so I thought) thing. It’s made me realise and think twice before making a comment, albeit what I believe to be positive, to others.

Being slim, as in a size 4, isn’t something to complement someone on. If she puts weight on or goes up to a size 10, how will she feel? Sorry, but size 4 isn’t a positive weight unless you’re very short - which of course she could be as you didn’t mention her height.

It's wrong of them to comment on anyone's weight! But they're probably just jealous.

You're a perfectly healthy weight for your height. I really think people have lost perspective of what's normal. I'm 5ft 2 and between 8-9st is my ideal weight.

Tell them to feck off or when they've finished... ask them if theyd like you to comment on their body next

OP I'm 5ft2 and am 8st 10 pounds.
I've been a stone lighter at times in my life (always healthy) and people would pass comments about being too thin.
Funny thing is I just checked my bmi there and a healthy bmi for me is anywhere between 7st 3lbs and 9st 10lbs
I could lose a stone and a half and still be classed as healthy bmi. Looks can be deceiving.

I get this constantly and I've took to telling people that they wouldn't like it if I pointed out how fat I thought they were (which I would obviously never do) so maybe they should consider how it feels!

I'm now pregnant and it's already begun about how tiny my bump is baby all measuring perfectly and my last two were 7lb plus but people love to express their (always unwanted) opinions.

I’m 5ft 2, weigh just under 8 stone, and have a bmi of 19. No one comments and I would think them very rude if they did!

It doesn't sound particularly thin. I'm 5ft 6 and weighed 9 stone right up to menopause.

No one ever commented that I was 'very thin'. Had anybody done so I'd have said, How rude, to make such personal remarks! Would you have felt the need to say I was very fat if you thought that instead?

Ive had this Op. I'm 5'5" and 8 St 2.

I've had numerous comments about my weight, every comment from someone overweight or obese. People asking me one xmas, 'are you having turkey', me 'yes'. Them, 'well why don't you eat the whole thing, you look as if you could do with it'.

Others have been why don't you go and get yourself a burger, or two.

Nasty nasty unnecessary comments from jealous people.

I’ve had this. I’m 5 ft 2 and weigh around 7 stone 5 or 6. I had an operation a few years ago and the surgeon who did it commented that I was “very thin”. I’m not as far as I can see.

The vanity sizing thing is interesting. I’ve been the same weight for about 20 years and I used to be a size 8- 10. Now I’m a size 6 petite, so it’s not me that’s changed.

BMI is a really mental measurement. The top end of weight for my height is 20kg more than I am now that’s over 11 stone. I’m 5’6”.

That would look so, so flabby on me as I’m so small framed. I imagine that’s true for a lot of people.

Is it really a useful tool, I wonder?

On the nasty comments I had a job working in retail once with a uniform. They only did it in size 10 - when I asked if there was anything less, I was told to “get myself a Mars bar”.

I wouldn't dream of commenting on other people's bodies. I wish people would stop commenting on mine. It's rarely said in a complimentary way.

I don't think it's to do with my clothes. I wear loose uniform for work, skinny jeans etc for casual wear so a variety. I do have big bum for my frame though and slim arms and legs so maybe I do like thinner due to this.

Yes I agree we are all losing sight of what a normal weight is. I can't believe I've been going about for years thinking I am like a skeleton and yes now that I think of it a lot of people where I live are probably overweight.

My mum is the worst for it. She is obsessed with peoples weights. As she has got older she has put on weight. And anyone who weighs less than her is "skin and bone" I've reminded her that when she was my age she was 7 stone soaking wet.

Definitely agree with the vanity sizing thing, we are so conditioned now. My measurements are 36, 26, 35. And I'm 5 foot three, I weigh just under eight stone 10, I have been everything between eight stone and nine stone, I'm certainly not too thin

@minnie465 You don't sound 'too thin' your weight and size sounds perfect. I bet you're gorgeous.

Also. IMO, these comments are coming from people who are jealous.

You are young, petite, and slim. It's jealousy.

Whenever I used to lose weight (when I was in my 20s and 30s,) I would get from say, 11 stone, to 9 and a half stone (I am 5 ft 5.) I was told (constantly by colleagues and so-called friends who were heavier/chubbier than me,) that I was GETTING TOO THIN...

It was bullshit. I was not too THIN at 9 and a half stone., and 5 ft 5.. They were just worried that I was looking better/more attractive than them. Not saying I was! Just that they were probably thinking it/worried about it...

People are weird! And yep, as I said, (and a couple of other posters have said,) it's jealousy... Can't bear the idea of you looking better than them.

Because everyone carries weight differently. Also perhaps the poster was younger than you? I’m early 20s and can fit into a size 6 with ease as it’s difficult to gain weight with a high metabolism- I just naturally have a flat stomach without dieting

So maybe the posters you saw had just gained weight compared to their usual size

It could be that you are petite and just short. Some people call me tiny but I'm overweight, I guess that they refer to my shortness

I would consider a bmi 22 at your height average. Your waist measurement is bigger than mine and I’m in the borderline overweight territory. Just ignore it all and carry on with what you’re doing

I've got a similar healthy BMI and get comments like "you're so skinny" which is so rude, even when said as a fake compliment. I'd never reply "you're so fat". Also, comments on me eating a normal portion of food and not having the extra toppings, sides, etc.

It seems to be perfectly acceptable for people who are overweight/obese to comment on other people's weight.

All weight and diet talk needs to stop in my opinion, it's so boring!

Op you sound like you have a very similar figure to me, I am 8st 10 and my weight tends to fall on my stomach (its not flat atm unfortunately) and on my face, I am trying to lose 5 pounds at the moment. Having said that, when I wear leggings because i have very thin legs (they have always been thin and I have very small calves) I do get comments asking if I've lost weight/ look very thin! I've tried to hide my legs for a long time, but this year I've decided to embrace my figure and without trying to hide it!

You're about the same measurements as me but shorter (I'm 5' 6") - nobody has ever called me thin/skinny (at this weight anyway).

Are you particularly large framed? Do your bones stick out? Is your tape measure/scale accurate? I weigh 10 stone 7lbs.

I’m 5 ft 6, 8stone 6lbs size 6-8 and I’m always being told I’m skinny/tiny/should put on some weight and have been told this most of my life, even by doctors, I’m early 30s now but during my teen years and early 20s I was always borderline underweight but than changed after I had my children, since then I’ve always bounced between 8 stone and 8stone 6.
I honestly don’t see myself as tiny or overly skinny though and wouldn’t mind being back down to 8stone and I do need to tone up a bit but I have body dysmorphia so I know my perception is also skewed.

You are definitely not too thin at that size and height. People are getting fatter. Overweight is the normal you are smaller than the average person that's all.