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To not buy my children anything for Easter

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AmyandPhilipfan · 30/03/2021 00:51

I have 3 kids and I normally get them some kind of present at Easter - usually toys and/or clothes. But this year it seems like it would just be buying for the sake of buying something. Currently in our house we have 9 Easter eggs (3 each) from friends and family, plus a neighbour will be giving them a couple of small eggs each, and today they each received £10 from another relative.

The two oldest have had birthdays recently and the little one’s birthday is coming up so all have recently received or will receive loads of stuff (as they have lots of aunts and uncles who kindly all buy for them in addition to presents from us).

We’ve implemented a chore system for the 2 oldest in the last few weeks so if they choose to do all their chores they now each end up with over £20 a week to spend on what they want (normally wasted on Robux). And the little one gets things bought as and when really - just this week I’ve bought her a couple of jigsaws and a couple of books.

So I’d say they receive more than enough and I really think I shouldn’t buy them anything. The 3 year old won’t realise she’s missing a present from me but the 12 and 13 year olds will remember they have previously had quite substantial gifts. I don’t want to get them yet another egg as the 13 year old has become quite overweight so I don’t want him to have too much chocolate.

So, AIBU to buy them nothing?

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BloodyHellAudrey · 30/03/2021 09:25

DS has got a new outfit for zoom church! He's having a money box off me, my parents are buying him a new tablet and he's got money off relatives. I'll get him a couple of eggs and some smaller sweeties, but I'll put a pound inside those plastic eggs for him to search which will thrill him. Oh and he's got some new bible stories.

BluebellsGreenbells · 30/03/2021 09:29

£160 a month for jobs around the house?

Cheaper to hire a cleaner and buy an egg.

ShteakandShpuds · 30/03/2021 09:31


If you’re going to throw paint around, do it in your own back garden.

I can’t believe you actually think it’s ok to damage the environment in this way and to encourage your kids to think that the great outdoors is there to be abused just for their pleasure.Angry

Are you the sort of family that throws used coffee cups out of car windows or leaves picnic rubbish behind because it will apparently rot down eventually?

AnneElliott · 30/03/2021 09:33

We used to get a present for Easter - but only because we got so many eggs from other relatives. It was small though - an book or a board game. And it wasn't wrapped under a tree!

We do the same with DS and get a gift for him.

NeedaLittleNap · 30/03/2021 09:35

I would get them a small egg each or some summer clothes/sandals/shortie PJs (because growing kids always need clothes) but mine are not allowed to spend anything on in-game currency.

Benjispruce2 · 30/03/2021 09:37

Only ever been one Easter egg and an egg hunt (little eggs in foil)in the garden in this house. DC now 17&20 and they have an egg and a chocolate bunny each.

Robintakeover · 30/03/2021 09:38

Never crossed my mind to get anything other than an Easter Egg each and some small eggs for a hunt in the garden

FlamingoQueen · 30/03/2021 09:38

My 2 just get an Easter egg (or 2)! They don’t need other presents for Easter.
I am not a miser, they have plenty of things, I just have never felt the need to buy them stuff for Easter!

nwatty · 30/03/2021 09:38


It amazes me that people buy their kids clothes and toys for Easter, I’ve seen it a lot recently but since when was this a thing! It’s suppose to just be Easter eggs it’s not Christmas

When I was little we used to go to church on Easter Sunday and we got a new outfit for church as it was a special service, I wonder if part of it goes back to that?

I'm no longer religious but also very aware that Easter is a religious festival that has been highjacked by hallmark in the same way as Christmas.
ButIcantsitonleather · 30/03/2021 09:39


I’m too busy being shocked that your kids get £80 a month spending money to reply to the Easter present question Shock


beginningoftheend · 30/03/2021 09:40

Easter = chocolate in our house, no one seems traumatised.

jessstan2 · 30/03/2021 09:40


Never crossed my mind to get anything other than an Easter Egg each and some small eggs for a hunt in the garden

Yes, I only bought mine an Easter egg and for other children that I knew. I did buy spring flowers or planted bulbs for the grandmothers.
PeanuttyButter · 30/03/2021 09:41

We used to get a new outfit for Easter, one that we had a say in. Everything else we wore were plain t shirts etc so this always felt like something special. Parents didn't do Easter eggs

beginningoftheend · 30/03/2021 09:41

We’ve implemented a chore system for the 2 oldest in the last few weeks so if they choose to do all their chores they now each end up with over £20 a week to spend on what they want

Oooops, think your system is flawed!

Benjispruce2 · 30/03/2021 09:42

I was raised a Catholic and always went to church(hated it on Good Friday!) New outfits NEVER featured. It was a family Sunday roast perhaps with grandparents, daffs on the table, hyacinths stinking the house out and a smarties egg from my parents usually and one from my grandparents if I saw them.

beginningoftheend · 30/03/2021 09:42

Could pay a professional cleaner for £40!

Seriously, what an error that system is.

Mypathtriedtokillme · 30/03/2021 09:43

Mine are getting PJs (because it’s almost winter and they need them) and a book.

Lindy2 · 30/03/2021 09:46

I get my kids a few small eggs and a few small gifts, like bubble bath, hair clips etc. Usually nice but practical stuff. It probably amounts to about £10 each.

We do an Easter egg hunt in the garden but I don't want them to have loads of chocolate so the hunt includes a selection of little gifts as well.

It's fun. I enjoy doing it. The kids like it. It's been a crap year and this is at least something that is a bit of fun.

SleepingStandingUp · 30/03/2021 09:46

How frigging entitled must you be @coffeemocha to think this is ok?

We have a paint fight arranged, ...super soakers and kid friendly paint, we are going to fill the pistols up, hit a quiet open space and let them go crazy and cover anywhere we god damn want because who cares what impact that has on animals and nature because we're more important. Just thinking maybe this could be an option instead because let's all deface public land and poison animals, go Us!!
making it more about asserting our entitlement and sense of importance

Bouny · 30/03/2021 09:46

I splashed out this year and got mine a Lindor egg.
Easter presents? Nah.

SleepingStandingUp · 30/03/2021 09:47

Ours will get a small egg, plus eggs for the egg hunt but eating chocolate isn't a free for all as DS is a terrible eater and the babies are 16 months. Plus a book. They're as likely to end up with books as eggs

ImAlrightThanx · 30/03/2021 09:48

Lets please not commercialise Easter too.

SleepingStandingUp · 30/03/2021 09:48


Lets please not commercialise Easter too.

Horse. Stable. Bolted.
CovidHalloween · 30/03/2021 09:50

I grew up in a country where children got new clothes to wear for Easter church service, you often see children holding a beautifully decorated Easter candle ( not lit of course).
It depends what your traditions, there is not right or wrong.

ButIcantsitonleather · 30/03/2021 09:51

I’ve got nostalgic for my own childhood at Easter now. I would get one egg from my family and it would always be sitting on top of the fridge and I would gaze up at it. Sometimes mum would hide tiny eggs in foil around the garden for me to find.
And my egg was always a Smarties one and looked like this! Back in the 80s, there was no plastic packaging. We’ve gone full circle.

To not buy my children anything for Easter
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