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To not buy my children anything for Easter

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AmyandPhilipfan · 30/03/2021 00:51

I have 3 kids and I normally get them some kind of present at Easter - usually toys and/or clothes. But this year it seems like it would just be buying for the sake of buying something. Currently in our house we have 9 Easter eggs (3 each) from friends and family, plus a neighbour will be giving them a couple of small eggs each, and today they each received £10 from another relative.

The two oldest have had birthdays recently and the little one’s birthday is coming up so all have recently received or will receive loads of stuff (as they have lots of aunts and uncles who kindly all buy for them in addition to presents from us).

We’ve implemented a chore system for the 2 oldest in the last few weeks so if they choose to do all their chores they now each end up with over £20 a week to spend on what they want (normally wasted on Robux). And the little one gets things bought as and when really - just this week I’ve bought her a couple of jigsaws and a couple of books.

So I’d say they receive more than enough and I really think I shouldn’t buy them anything. The 3 year old won’t realise she’s missing a present from me but the 12 and 13 year olds will remember they have previously had quite substantial gifts. I don’t want to get them yet another egg as the 13 year old has become quite overweight so I don’t want him to have too much chocolate.

So, AIBU to buy them nothing?

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fireplaceburning · 30/03/2021 07:21

I find the difference in people's spending really interesting. Mine wouldn't spend any money on Robux as they know it's like throwing money away! If they spend their money it's on something they want.

For Easter we just do an egg hunt and eat chocolate for breakfast. Sorted!

VestaTilley · 30/03/2021 07:24

Sorry, voted YABU by mistake.

YANBU. Children don’t need gifts at Easter at all- an egg is enough. DS is a bit young still, but as he gets older it’ll just be a chocolate egg from us (and more from other relatives). Plus an Easter egg hunt, church and all the other activities you do at Easter.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 30/03/2021 07:24

We dont really celebrate Easter in the religious sense as we aren't christian, we more just celebrate spring in terms of old Germanic customs, Easter eggs, rabbits, spring chicks & lambs etc.

No present buying in this house. Garden hunt (I raid the childrens soft toy collection and hide any rabbits etc as well as a few chocolate eggs), rabbit or chick shaped biscuits, cake decorated with eggs etc, roast lamb for dinner.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 30/03/2021 07:27

We do eggs and when smaller they had new toys or crafts for the holidays, now they are older they get extra allowance instead.

lovepickledlimes · 30/03/2021 07:31

Why are people thinking it's a new thing. My family has always done real eggs that are painted and a couple of small gifts such as toys and books in a basket (or cigarettes in my fathers case for his basket)

Ragwort · 30/03/2021 07:32

Hopefully this is a wind up - surely no one gives a 12 & 13 year old £20 a week each? And your younger DC gets bought things 'as and when she wants them' Hmm.

I assume you are very comfortably off - and at least put the equivalent into savings for your DC's future?

Indoctro · 30/03/2021 07:32

Never heard of buying kids a Easter gift.?

My 4 and 6 year old will be getting a couple of Easter eggs, like I did as a child.

Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady · 30/03/2021 07:38

We buy DS an Easter egg, he'll get a couple from family too.

I didnt/don't really like chocolate so when I was little I used to get a book or DVD from my parents for Easter.

Maybe just buy them a token something if they are used to getting a present from you?

Lalliella · 30/03/2021 07:41

£1,000 per year to waste on Robux?? I can’t get past this Shock

Actually I can. Also Shock at the perfect family spraying paint around some nature spot.

reluctantbrit · 30/03/2021 07:45

I hate these large eggs, expensive for just a bit of chocolate. We normally do small eggs and a bunny, hidden in the garden for DD to search and a small gift, like a book.

As a child I found searching for the goodies is the main fun on Easter, these eggs boring in comparision. One year DD got so many, we used the majority in chocolate chip cookies in the months to come.

DianaT1969 · 30/03/2021 07:46

Nobody I know buys presents and clothes for children at Easter. It isn't a thing here. Relatives might buy a chocolate egg.
I wish everyone would drop the consumerism.
There will be threads on MN about planning for Christmas soon.

Pinchoftums · 30/03/2021 07:47

If my child was overweight at 13 I would limit the eggs to one. Mine only get one as it is and some small ones from a hunt. Your children are spoilt already.

shouldistop · 30/03/2021 07:48

A new outfit is quite a traditional gift. You'd wear it to church for the Easter service then when you went to granny's for dinner / had granny round for dinner.

My MIL is buying my 4yo a huge chocolate Thomas the tank engine, my mum will buy him
an egg so I've bought him a new toy train that he's been asking for and will do an egg hunt with the mini cream eggs hidden round the house and garden. Baby ds is too young for Easter, MIL bought him a bunny outfit but it looks to big, will stick it on for a photo.

Not bothering with a new outfit as we're not allowed anyone round anyway and the forecast is too cold for people in the garden.

Ragwort · 30/03/2021 07:53

Diana there already are !

Noidea2114 · 30/03/2021 07:54

In my town it's tradition to give a Good Friday Ball. I've never bought my DC or DGC Easter eggs but always give a ball.

Lovemusic33 · 30/03/2021 07:56

We have never bothered much with Easter, I buy them one egg and maybe a chocolate bunny but nothing else, we buy clothes when we need too and toys are for Christmas/birthdays (which we have just had), we have never done the Easter bunny, always thought it was a crazy idea that a giant bunny brings chocolate let alone presents and baskets full of crap. My house is full to the brim with crap, I don’t want any more 🤣

BrumBoo · 30/03/2021 07:57


Nobody I know buys presents and clothes for children at Easter. It isn't a thing here. Relatives might buy a chocolate egg.
I wish everyone would drop the consumerism.
There will be threads on MN about planning for Christmas soon.

Buying Easter gifts or giving money instead of eggs was very typical where I grew up. It was a mini Christmas in every sense, but there was more of a community feel. Whilst Christmas was about coming together as a family, Easter was more set within the church and community, lots of events and little competitions leading up to it. This was 30 odd years ago.

I'm an atheist now, so don't celebrate Easter itself as a Christian holiday. I do have young children though, ones that are about to be home for another two weeks. I have bought things to entertain them for at least a few days (especially since the weather is typically going to turn Hmm). They won't have a pile of gifts on the day, but the eldest as asked for a chocolate bunny so I'll get one each.
Ohcomeonitsrubbish · 30/03/2021 07:57

We always give our (now teenage) DD presents at Easter. But that's because her birthday is at Christmas, so although she receives lots of presents then, she then doesn't really get anything for an entire year. It's never anything huge ("just what the Easter Bunny can manage to bring as he hops over the garden fences"), but it's traditional in our family and a bit of fun. Although this year's he's been in lockdown like the rest of us, so the presents are only things that our local ASDA stocks ...

Mooda · 30/03/2021 08:03

I've never bought an Easter present for DC, never occurred to me. They do get Easter eggs though.

Cowbells · 30/03/2021 08:10

You could get them some outdoor toys. Cheap but encouraging them to spend time getting fit outdoors - frisbees, badminton racquets and shuttlecocks, beachballs or footballs, skipping ropes?

daisypond · 30/03/2021 08:12

I have never heard of anyone buying presents for Easter. My DC get one chocolate egg from us and one from their grandparents. I think once they were given an egg cup each.

WeAllHaveWings · 30/03/2021 08:15

ds will get an Lindt easter bunny, when he was very young we would maybe get a basic easter themed craft kit or bits to make a bonnet/hat. Never had easter gifts, and I don't know anyone who gives easter gifts. I'm sure if any of his friends got gifts he would have mentioned it.

That's what we do, are you being unreasonable buying them something? YANBU. If that is what your family wants to do then it is up to you. Everyone does things differently.

A few easter eggs once a year is not going to be the thing that make a huge difference to an overweight child.

OpusAnglicanum · 30/03/2021 08:15

My mother is in her 80s and tells me she got a new summer hat and summer gloves at Easter. No chocolate.

Fooshufflewickjbannanapants · 30/03/2021 08:21

We used to get new clothes at whit but I'm not religious and have only ever got my kids an egg each (eldest now 21 youngest 8) I don't get the gift thing either it's Christmas and birthdays here but maybe because growing up we were always skint and I just carried in with my normal!

LadyCatStark · 30/03/2021 08:26


£1,000 per year to waste on Robux?? I can’t get past this Shock

Actually I can. Also Shock at the perfect family spraying paint around some nature spot.

I’m surprised no one else has picked up on this! You can’t go round staying paint all over public land! Animals could eat it or it could end up in the water. Or other people could come across it unexpectedly and end up with it all over their shoes.
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