OP what are your thoughts on the conversation so far?
I find these sorts of posts really interesting.
Does anyone know if people go onto male dominated sites and start threads like this? I genuinely have no idea.
The problem seems to be.
Double standards exist (across society, obv)
Threads on MN sometimes show double standards (how many posters are on here??!!)
If it were revealed that men were judging female looks on male dominated sites there would be uproar from (women? MN? Not sure). That's a bizarre claim given real life. I mean p*nternet exists, for example. The idea men aren't free to objectify women is very odd.
And then the bit about not judging all men in the actions of a few. Which I think is what it's actually about as we've had a few threads saying this is sexist/ unfair/ misandrist etc.
So in terms of double standards how does it work for women.
If I am out and about somewhere deserted and it's late etc and there is a man there Vs a woman there I feel a different level of threat.
Now we're told that to treat them differently, or be wary, is bad because it's tarring all men with the same brush etc.
So I think ok I'll do what I would with a woman and head down the alley in the dark on my own with random chap there. It's true he's probably fine.
Something happens. Lots of people would say, why did she go down there after dark on her own when she could see there was a bloke hanging around down there.
And that's a double standard.
Women are told to give men the benefit of the doubt. But if we do and something happens. We should have been careful.
Tricky one isn't it.