Double standards on mn.

[thatwasme22]

This week so far:

1. I have seen various posters defend Caroline Flack for having issues. Maybe she did but then the same argument would not be made on Chris Browne.

1. A thread on the physical attractiveness on male politicians. Imagine a male forum did this on females.

1. A thread with a woman hiding her inheritance from her husband and encouraged to do so by many posters and him being called financially abusive for being sensible over money. When men do this on mn it's all ltb.

Am I missing something? I call myself a feminist so am pro equality and that's how I raised my kids but why is this not being called out on mn?

@Pumperthepumper

Obviously the man, but he isn’t the one writing the thread is he?

[quote MinnieMous3]@Pumperthepumper

Obviously the man, but he isn’t the one writing the thread is he?[/quote]
No, but he is the one who’s cheating on his wife, he’s the one ignoring the vows he made.

@Pumperthepumper absolutely. I’m not saying the woman is to blame for the wife’s heartbreak. I’m saying if you lie with dogs you’re going to get fleas.

[quote MinnieMous3]@Pumperthepumper absolutely. I’m not saying the woman is to blame for the wife’s heartbreak. I’m saying if you lie with dogs you’re going to get fleas.[/quote]
So what’s the relevance of this scenario to the thread?

OW frequently gets a shoeing on MN

I think there's a big load of confirmation bias required to think that there is a particular slant to everything

I’m saying if you lie with dogs you’re going to get fleas

Careful, it sounds like you’re comparing men with dogs, which might hurt men’s feelings and is A Very Bad Thing.

Are you calling that man a dog?

Ok!

Lol xpost

@Pumperthepumper double standards. It’s okay for a man to cheat with me, but when he goes back to his wife it’s very mean and unfair.

You really don’t like me do you, every thread I comment on it’s like you’re waiting to pounce!

[quote MinnieMous3]@Pumperthepumper double standards. It’s okay for a man to cheat with me, but when he goes back to his wife it’s very mean and unfair.

You really don’t like me do you, every thread I comment on it’s like you’re waiting to pounce![/quote]
What? That doesn’t even make sense! Who said it’s ok for a man to cheat with you?

I don’t understand that second paragraph either, I don’t recognise your username - what other threads have you been on?

[quote MinnieMous3]@Pumperthepumper double standards. It’s okay for a man to cheat with me, but when he goes back to his wife it’s very mean and unfair.

You really don’t like me do you, every thread I comment on it’s like you’re waiting to pounce![/quote]
And also, without sounding childish, I was on this thread first.

@Pumperthepumper haven’t you just been on the boarding school thread? Sorry if I’ve confused you with someone else and now look like a twat

I didn’t mean me specifically, I meant that’s the view of the woman’s post usually - she doesn’t see an issue in having an affair with a married man, or says something like ‘I know, I know, but honestly we had something so special’ then is outraged when he goes back to his wife and dumps her.

So what I'm getting now is that all women need to act with scrupulous ethics all time everywhere.

If they don't it proves women have double standards

That's another thing that comes up a lot

One woman doing wrong demonstrates that all women are bad
One man doing something wrong is an individual and no reflection on others

[quote MinnieMous3]@Pumperthepumper haven’t you just been on the boarding school thread? Sorry if I’ve confused you with someone else and now look like a twat

I didn’t mean me specifically, I meant that’s the view of the woman’s post usually - she doesn’t see an issue in having an affair with a married man, or says something like ‘I know, I know, but honestly we had something so special’ then is outraged when he goes back to his wife and dumps her.[/quote]
Nope, not me.

And I’ve never, ever seen a post on here where a woman knowingly seeing a married man hasn’t been given a hard time. I’ve seen threads where a few posters have been sympathetic that she was stupid enough to fall for a pile of lies told to her by that man, but I don’t think that’s any kind of a compliment.

@Pumperthepumper

It’s not about the feedback, I’m saying the OP has double standards.

Sorry for mixing you up btw

[quote MinnieMous3]@Pumperthepumper

It’s not about the feedback, I’m saying the OP has double standards.[/quote]
Which OP? The one in the scenario you made up? What’s the double standard and how can you know that unless they wrote an identical thread as a different sex and got different advice?

*different advice from the same posters

Sigh 🤦🏼‍♀️

@MinnieMous3

Sigh 🤦🏼‍♀️

Are you struggling with your own logic?

Loads of double standards here,
I've seen loads where women have complained that their husbands have let themselves go and/or are now obese and they don't fancy their husbands anymore, They seem to get loads of support saying you can't help what's attractive to you, not what you signed up for etc.
I've also seen women here post that their husbands have told them they don't fancy them anymore because of their weight and they are very overweight etc and the huge majority of replies on here are LTB, he should love your soul, he is a shallow monster etc.
Loads n Loads of double standards on mumsnet.

@Pumperthepumper no, but you seem to be. Having an affair with a married man and thinking it’s justified - but being outraged when he goes back to his wife - is a double standards

[quote MinnieMous3]@Pumperthepumper no, but you seem to be. Having an affair with a married man and thinking it’s justified - but being outraged when he goes back to his wife - is a double standards[/quote]
How? That’s just not getting what you want, of course people think they themselves deserve what other people don’t.

And this is such a regular scenario on mumsnet that we can say there’s a huge problem with double standards?

Loads n Loads of double standards on mumsnet

Like listing the double standards against men, but ignoring the ones against women? Those kinds of double standards?

@Crazycrazylady

Loads of double standards here, I've seen loads where women have complained that their husbands have let themselves go and/or are now obese and they don't fancy their husbands anymore, They seem to get loads of support saying you can't help what's attractive to you, not what you signed up for etc. I've also seen women here post that their husbands have told them they don't fancy them anymore because of their weight and they are very overweight etc and the huge majority of replies on here are LTB, he should love your soul, he is a shallow monster etc. Loads n Loads of double standards on mumsnet.

This. It’s back to my earlier point. I know it’s different posters, it’s just that often only the posters who’s opinion aligns with “it’s the mans fault” seem to post. On the opposite thread, those with the opposit opinion seem to Post as it’s also “it’s the mans fault”.

We know it’s different posters. But it’s this overall balance the makes it look and feel like “mn” will change its view depending on the sexes involved.

When people say “you wouldn’t say that if this was a man”, I can well believe the poster would actually say that. They are consistent, it’s just that on average they don’t post on the opposing threads