Different children react differently, in the short term and the long term to the different ways of handling these things and many people's parenting years involve both the things they planned & wanted and the things they don't. I don't think we can assume the result or that the parent's wants are always the top priority.
Really, if the ideal is to "spend as much time as possible with your child" and "savour every moment", then surely the ideal would be to home educate -- but, even as a home educator myself who has done it from the start and into the teen years, I'm more than open to admit that it's common knowledge how that can go right and that can go wrong even within the same family. I think we've seen over the lockdowns that sometimes, it's harder to savour someone with you 24/7 - especially teenagers (my DS1 choosing to go to college has I think improved our relationship, we were getting strained there).
In many cases men (or women!) don’t choose to work late, but must do so to pay the mortgage and keep food on the table etc.
That’s very different to choosing to see your child every few weeks, and instead let them be raised by teachers and staff, when there are other options.
So, if a parent lives in the same home as the child, it's okay if work means they don't see them for weeks if it's what pays the bills and the parent doesn't have a choice?
Of all my parents' choices I've worked to process over the years, whether or not they chose to work hasn't really been one I've spent too much time on. That was always a given. I was aware when my parents tried the 'mother stays in one place while father travels' ideal that he had to work. I was aware when they tried moving around to keep everyone together that he had to work. I was aware when living with my grandparents that my father was working. I was aware when I was a teenager being left for yes sometimes over 3 weeks on my own in my father's house with no other adults that he was having to work to maintain us and my mother's house.
My siblings and I all reacted differently to those situations, we're still all think of it very differently now. My father is still processing it differently to any of us.
And, as someone who immigrated at 17, as much as young me might have thought I was emotionally detached from my parents, I really don't think that was the case. I think I just had this ideal in my head and followed it - as many teenagers like to do. For some of us, it works out well.
True stability is about emotional stability which comes from attachment to carers/parent figures - not friends.
People liked to say that type of thing to my brother - that he'd make new friends and family and us all being together was so important, but I could see after each move that he was a bit more withdrawn, a bit more struggling to cope with connecting to new places and people. After the 5th time, I thought I'd lost him even though he lived over the hall - that was shortly before he was arrested and expelled not only from his school, but barred from every school in the county. But hey, at least he shared an address with his parents all year 'round.