DH has told me of a rumour...

[daffodilcity]

DH is a teacher and just called on his way home to say there's a rumour in the year 10 and 11 class that he's an item with a female teacher in his department (he's the only male in his department).

Now, I have OCD and get very anxious about this kind of thing. He's been at the school less than a year, but I still think it's weird. Especially as he says people know about me. I also have a video that went somewhat viral and so the kids at school have mentioned seeing me on that (nothing weird or bad). So it feels odd.

Is this just typical jokey kid rumours or is there something more to this?

It's teenagers, it's what they do

Funniest one when I was at school was our science teacher and head of lower school, was shagging the maths teacher. A boy had, "swear down" seem them in the maths cupboard.
Proven rubbish many years later when we found out said science teacher was gay

@HollowTalk

Surely he wasn't still a practising priest though, *@RuggerHug*?

Loads of Catholic priests teach or follow other professions within the church . They are still priests, they just aren't parish priests. Similarly nuns and other religious can have other 'day' jobs.

[quote daffodilcity]@BriarsHollow I can’t comment on her looks, because I’ve not ever seen her. DP mentioned it in passing once because of his teeth (he has an issue with them). He wasn’t reassuring me. I don’t think looks are actually relevant to an affair. The colleague my ex cheated on me with was non threatening. It is irrelevant.[/quote]
I had never ever thought anything of this woman, probably wrongly, because she’s not that attractive

Sorry, you said this and I thought it was you passing judgement on her looks, as well as your husband saying he hated her teeth.

The rumour seems to be about the woman only. she is a serial “man eater” and it’s why she had to leave her last job, now she’s with DP apparently.

Christ, the mysogyny in this is nauseating. I guess it’s him that’s telling you all this absolute shit?

[quote daffodilcity]@pam290358 yes he is aware of OCD but doesn’t understand it and gets easily angry at me for it. I know it is difficult to live with.[/quote]
That’s a shame he doesn’t understand, it sounds a bit lonely for you.

I know it can be stressful for him to live with, but you are obviously trying really hard to deal with it and implementing the strategies that you have learned.

So all credit to you for working so hard on this, it’s not easy.

Fequently rumours at our school of different teachers were knocking boots, and accusing every female PE teacher of being lesbians .

It's that age.

@Bluntness100 yes of course all from him, but he said that’s the rumour. She’s actually in a long term relationship and is lovely. She didn’t have an affair at the previous school either. I don’t know what, if any or all, is true.

It is reassuring to hear this is commonplace and maybe to anyone else they’d laugh it off. I really wish I was like that.

Not so reassuring about the amount of rumours that were true but I suppose this is the one job/area we’ve all had exposure to having all gone to school. A bit different to another environment like a call centre or something.

The poor male teacher in our dept has been getting it on with every one of us in turn, if each year group is to be believed.
A y9 once saw us our having a pint together and we were practically married off!
I would laugh it off with him

Haha if the rumour has started amongst kids then i would not take it seriously. As upsetting as it maybe please dont take it seriously. We used to do this at school. Just seeing 2 adults (who are both fairly compatiable) smiling and talking often would spark up a rumour that theyre having an affair!

What was the viral video and did he murder someone?

@daffodilcity

I’ve just remembered there’s another rumour that DP killed someone, so maybe I’m being like this purely because of my overthinking. However, I do know how they got that rumour and whilst ridiculous there is a weird logical thought path.

DP told a story of how he was hurt one time. The person that hurt him was murdered. So I can see the link.

Becoming increasingly convinced that OP is brimming with 💩

The boys at my last school would often speculate about staff being paired off; my favourite rumour that two married members of staff were "carrying on"; the lady in question was married to a very nice chap - as indeed was the gentleman concerned....

@RuggerHug

Definitely had that rumour in our school involving one of the few male teachers. They'd been seen out together TWICE and the story grew legs. When he announced after 2 years that he was actually a priest it was very confusing but proved it all to be bollocks. (And since the staff didn't know showed exactly how much references/background checks were done...)

How does one of them being a priest prove the rumours to be bollocks? It would make the rumour worse, for any normal teen.

Normal school rumer kids love that idea! At our school at one point 2 male teachers were an item because they had been seen having a beer in a pub together! The fact that they were both middle aged and married to women got rather forgotten .

OP, how long have you been together?

What happens if you don't answer his calls which are disturbing your work?

Your DH is sharing WAY too many personal stories with the students

At my kids school a male teacher and a female teacher were spotted in the local newsagents at the same time. No end of rumours swirling among the kids after that one ...

He’s a few years older but relatively young I guess and attractive to kids in school

If that's the case, think yourself lucky it's a member of staff the kids think he's interested in - given teenagers' febrile imaginations it's only too easy for them to say it's one of the students, which can easily ruin a career

I was shipped by my lovely naive pupils with the only guy in my department, who could not have been more openly gay than if he had proclaimed it on a t-shirt. They still prattled on about where he could take me on a first date, bless them. We used to piss ourselves. It's just kids being kids and I would put it out of my head straight away.

Your husband sounds immature and not very nice if I'm honest op

I'm a teacher and have experienced this. My male colleague and I were friendly, kids saw us chatting and laughing together sometimes, working on stuff together at lunch time or after school etc. They all thought we were together. We weren't. Kids love this sort of stuff.

When I was at school, there were a few teacher relationships. Two PE teachers met at work and got married. A history teacher had an affair with a maths teacher I think he was and had a baby. People obviously do meet partners at work and a school is a workplace.

There were two history teachers who were extremely flirty with eachother. He would come into her classroom when we were all there in the class and openly flirt. Both were married.

It could be that they are flirting and the children have seen them. I think this is very likely the cause of the rumours. It's not acceptable when he is married to you if this is the case.

A male and female teacher could say hello to each other in the hall and kids would make something of it. I wouldn't be bothered by kids rumours, they'll move onto someone else soon enough.

There was a rumour when I was at school that one of the RE teachers banged a DT teacher on one of the woodwork benches at lunchtime.

There was another rumour that two (straight) male geography teachers were having an affair. They evidence for this was that their classrooms shared a cupboard and they both went in there sometimes during lessons so they were obviously having sex at these times. The rumour was “confirmed” to us when they shared a room on the year 7 residential.

As pp have said OP, kids love these sorts of rumours. Your DH has told you about it so you don’t hear about it from someone else hopefully so you won’t worry as much. Honestly I don’t think you have anything to worry about.