AIBU for only wanting a TV in the living room?

[MsHardy]

My DH has talked about wanting a TV in our bedroom and in the kitchen since we met years ago. In our old house it wasn't possible (kitchen too small) and I said no to having one in our bedroom as I like our bedroom being an intimate space.

DH's beloved TV started to break a few years ago and he began to talk about getting a new 4K one. So as a birthday gift I bought him a new one- incredibly expensive and a model I knew he wanted. As far as I was concerned, we were just replacing our one and only TV with a better one and that was it.

We are 4 months into decorating our new house, about to finish, and tonight he has suddenly produced the old TV and wants it in either the kitchen or our spare bedroom. (He kept it because it is 3D-enabled, so he will use it to watch 3D films, despite the screen being messed up, hence me buying the original replacement!)

I really don't want more than one TV in our small house because I feel it's unnecessary - our kitchen/living room is sort of open plan so feels weird to have two and a 60 inch TV in a small bedroom feels weird. I don't know why it bothers me so much - I guess I feel our intimacy will suffer?

AIBU?

I see your point, but phones, TVs, tablets, computers etc. have kind of merged together now, so in s way there is almost a TV everywhere.

I don’t see an issue as long as the tv in the bedroom is turned off if it stops you sleeping. As for it affecting intimacy, if he chooses TV over that then you probably have more issues than a TV.

We have TVs and Amazon echos in almost every room though, including kitchen and bedrooms. I find watching TV in bed really relaxing.

We like relaxing in bed with something light on TV just before turning out the lights. Sometimes it's cosy to watch TV in bed instead of on the sofa. Might not be right for everyone, but also not a problem for everyone. If it's in the spare bedroom, I don't see how that would affect intimacy.

Nope, never had TV's in the bedrooms. 🌺

YANBU to want it... I love our TV in the bedroom though. If I'm sick, wrapping presents or doing some craft project in there then I can have something on to keep me company.

Like RainbowMum11 I have radio (4) in the kitchen. Don't think I'd like TV there so much.

Both your house so seem to compromise which he kind of us by it going in the spare room , we have one upstairs as we don't always want to watch the same thing

we have a tv in lounge, our bedroom and dd, plus a spare so 4 all up
we dont all like watching same thing so makes sense to us
we will be getting a 5th when we move as space allows

Also we don't have ipads and its not great watching on a small phone
Often we go upto bed to watch tv especially if one of us is tired as if we fall asleep we are in the right place

He's suggested the spare room
What's wrong with that option?

What do you do when you want to watch different things?

You might not want another tv in your home but your husband does so you don’t get to dictate. You don’t want it in the kitchen or your bedroom and your husband wants kitchen or spare room. Therefore the compromise is the spare room.
Promblem solved.

You might not want another tv in your home but your husband does so you don’t get to dictate.

oooft harsh

@WisnaeMe

You might not want another tv in your home but your husband does so you don’t get to dictate.

oooft harsh

Seems not harsh at all.

YANBU

We only have one tv and it is in the lounge

I have the best tv in the bedroom dh likes stuff I’m not interested in tonight I haven’t bothered but I love my blu rays and dvds, I grew up being bored most of the due to crap tv I decided as an adult I’d never be bored again, in the day time I play on my iPad if dh is watching his stuff he’s not into dr who he will watch new who live but that’s it my Dr who and Star Wars are watched in the bedroom.

YANBU at all.

We have a 20inch (ie tiny!) tv that we keep in a cupboard when not in use. Out it comes when we want to watch it, back it goes when done. Perfect! We've discussed it as a household many times and agreed that this is what we all want. We have one laptop that we watch stuff on a bit too. Very very low tech household........... yes we are probably rather unusual but it suits us.
A tv in the bedroom and kitchen -nope!

I'd never have a TV in the bedroom - you're just one step away from eating in bed if you do

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows

I'd never have a TV in the bedroom - you're just one step away from eating in bed if you do

and? love sitting curled up in bed with a block of chocolate on a cold day

I'd never have a TV in the bedroom - you're just one step away from eating in bed if you do

I do that too sometimes. 🤷🏻‍♀️ What do you think will happen if you eat in bed?

YABU to not want it anywhere. YANBU to not want it in your bedroom.

Presumably the motivation is if you both want to watch different things. Yet another reason why "open plan" isn't such a good idea. Yes there's tablets and laptops but that's not the same.

Eating in bed 😳

but the crumbs 😩

Nnnnnnnnnooooooooooooo 😱

YANBU

We used to have a telly in the bedroom in our old flat, DP said it helped him get to sleep, it didn’t though as he would just stay up watching things, which disturbed me trying to sleep. Or if he would drop off I would find it hard to sleep due to the light affecting my sleep. He sleeps just fine without one, but it was just what he was used to before he met me.

We sometimes watch something in bed but use the iPad, no chance am I having a telly in here again.

We both sleep much better without one and I’m much more likely to shag him without one 😂

Are you worried he'll sit in the spare room every night and watch TV?

Can he even watch it if the screen is buggered or will it suddenly have to be replaced?

I agree re your bedroom and kitchen but if there's times he wants to watch movies you don't and you'd expect him to sit quietly with headphones and a laptop, I'd put on in the spare room.

but the crumbs

A plate? 😬

Only one TV here. Grew up with only one TV in the house, so do the same now.

From the OP, he's not suggesting it goes in their bedroom, he's suggesting it goes in the spare room. I don't see why that's a problem