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AIBU?

DS is owed money. AIBU to increase the pressure?

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supersop60 · 23/03/2021 23:02

My DS, now 17, is owed some money by a (former) friend.
The girl has made excuses for TWO Years why she can't return it to him, and after having promised, yet again, she would return it last Monday, it didn't appear.
I wrote to the parents, and after a week I got an email back saying they would bring the money to our house this evening. It's 11pm, and there's no sign.
WIBU to go to the house and demand it? (the email actually said if I had knocked on the door, they would have given it to me there and then)
It's £50, and the girl has acknowledged that she needs to return it.

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SheldonesqueIsUnwell · 24/03/2021 16:33

I hope they come round with it. I wouldn’t have let them off with it either. Theft is theft and I couldn’t let it lie.

That said I wouldn’t have let it drift on for so long either but what is done is done.

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BrumBoo · 24/03/2021 16:40

@supersop60

He/we haven't waited for two years. He's been asking and being fobbed off for two years.

Same difference I'm afraid. Either you should have come down hard on the girl/her family as soon as it happened or given up. I know how frustrating it is - we were wrongly charged for something a couple of years ago, went through dispute, told we were in the right but had hone through their appeal sector and.... nothing. Now it's a couple of years down the road and it's really bloody frustrating knowing we've been essentially stolen from, but we've learned not to trust anyone who says they're 'on to sorting it' when they have your money. Always be on them from day one, so many chancers and pisstakers in the world.

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OldEvilOwl · 24/03/2021 18:02

Go round there and see what they have to say

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Cadent · 24/03/2021 18:03

@CatsHairEverywhere

But you let him be fobbed off for 2 years. I understand giving him a month to get it back by himself, but 2 years?!?

That's not the AIBU. Let it go.

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sunflowersandbuttercups · 24/03/2021 18:29

@diddl

I think that it's your son who owes you the £50 tbh.

He's reasons for handing it over seem pretty spurious.

Exactly this.

Your DS should have paid you back himself.

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Rathmobhaile · 24/03/2021 19:14

@CatsHairEverywhere

But you let him be fobbed off for 2 years. I understand giving him a month to get it back by himself, but 2 years?!?

This 100%

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mcmooberry · 24/03/2021 19:53

Hope he comes round with it tonight. Have already commented to say I would never let a thing like this go, unless it became clear the parents wouldn't pay. Please update us if he comes!

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supersop60 · 25/03/2021 17:03

Thanks again for your comments.
Lessons learnt all round.
HOWEVER - I HAVE THE CASH!
The mum has just dropped it off, genuinely apologetic.

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WisnaeMe · 25/03/2021 17:37

OMG CONGRATULATIONS 🎉

Well done OP 🌺

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Beautiful3 · 25/03/2021 18:04

Well done op. Glad you got your money back.

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SheldonesqueIsUnwell · 25/03/2021 18:09

Boost

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myusernamewastakenbyme · 25/03/2021 18:34

I wouldn't let it go either...i'm like a dog with a bone with stuff like this...why should thieves be rewarded.

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Knittedfairies · 25/03/2021 18:40

Good result OP!

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jessstan2 · 25/03/2021 19:10

That is wonderful news, congratulations. I didn't think you would get it, glad to proved wrong.

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WeeGobshiteBentBastard · 25/03/2021 19:23

I hope you charged interest.

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HeronLanyon · 25/03/2021 19:55

Really pleased. Good update.

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Daphnise · 25/03/2021 20:18

Excellent you have the money back- and maybe some credit to the other parents for seeing you did receive it.

Hope DS has learnt a lesson.

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billy1966 · 25/03/2021 21:13

Well done, irrespective of the amount, this would annoy me.

Glad the parents stepped up.

I hope your son has learnt from your decisiveness.

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mcmooberry · 25/03/2021 23:26

Great and quite right! Justice is served! Hope they will get it back from their cheek moo of a daughter!

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 26/03/2021 07:12

Pleased to hear it!
Hope they ticked the DD off as she deserves.
One to avoid in future, that girl!

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Lochmorlich · 26/03/2021 07:48

I wonder if the boy’s dm is on MN!

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FlyingBurrito · 26/03/2021 09:41

@Lochmorlich

I wonder if the boy’s dm is on MN!

Well maybe she is but it wouldn't be relevant as the OP said right from the start that they'd agreed to give the money back and they have given the money back.

Despite the impression given by all the CF threads on here most people are good people and do what they say they'll do. The daughter not so much though and I agree with @ThumbWitchesAbroad she should be given a very wide berth from now on, thieving little madam

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Nishky · 27/03/2021 08:51

That’s brilliant-well done on sticking to your guns

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