DS is owed money. AIBU to increase the pressure?

[supersop60]

My DS, now 17, is owed some money by a (former) friend.
The girl has made excuses for TWO Years why she can't return it to him, and after having promised, yet again, she would return it last Monday, it didn't appear.
I wrote to the parents, and after a week I got an email back saying they would bring the money to our house this evening. It's 11pm, and there's no sign.
WIBU to go to the house and demand it? (the email actually said if I had knocked on the door, they would have given it to me there and then)
It's £50, and the girl has acknowledged that she needs to return it.

[speakout]

I would let it go.
Two years is a long time, and £50 is quite an inexpensive life lesson- never lend or borrow money.

[Extremelyilluminated]

Let it go

[TeapotCollection]

I’d be going round there to fetch it but I’m baffled as to how this has gone on for 2 years - I’d have gone round to fetch it as soon as he got back from the trip and told me what had happened

[Beautiful3]

I cannot believe you've left it 2 years, seems a bit late now? I would go and knock on their door and be grumpy, they'll pay you to go away.

[hayjam]

Another one who also thinks let it go. It's been 2 years!

[CatsHairEverywhere]

It’s been 2 years and you’re only just asking for it back? Surprised the parents bothered replying to your email at all

[jessstan2]

I don't understand why it was given in cash. Normally a refund would go to the card holder who booked. Most odd.

[Inanun2]

You are never getting that back.
Just chalk it up to experience, you had to ask/chase in first 2 months not 2 years
Wrong, and they are a fault but I think you just need to let go.

[Cadent]

Definitely go over there. You may not get your money back, but they won’t be able to pretend that she didn’t steal the money. They’ll remember the visit and cringe at their greed.

[DoubleTweenQueen]

Why wasn't it sorted two years ago?
Go and get it back!

[SpiderinaWingMirror]

Worraloadofrubbish.......

[user1491404899]

I don't think this is real. But if it is....let it go. Your 22 months too late.

[Sundances]

I would go to the house.
I would also mention it to the school - it was your DS' fault but they should be a bit more careful about handing out money.

[BigSandyBalls2015]

I’ve never known a school deal with cash in this way.

Your DS is 17, let him deal with it or just forget it and move on 🤷🏼‍♀️

[BigPaperBag]

Sorry @supersop60 you need to accept that he will never see that money again. I’ve had it happen to me and it’s so galling but that’s why the saying ‘’never a lender nor a borrower be’’ is so true.

[MimiDaisy11]

If you've never gone round there then I would. You might as well try.

[Seldon]

Two years does seem a very long time. This should have been dealt with in two weeks

[Mrgrinch]

You should have spoken to the parents 2 years ago. It's too late now.

[Pepperminttea16]

Unless you have inadvertently missed a 0, I would let it go now for the sake of £50.

[Confusedandshaken]

Text. 'Sorry you couldn't make it last night. I'll come over now instead'. And then be there at the door smiling sweetly with your hand out.

[stuckinarutatwork]

I'm guessing that the refund was perhaps from a kitty. As in the trip cost was £x but the pupils were asked to also pay £100 each in cash for sundries such as meals out / public transport tickets / evening entertainment. Anything not spent was dished out on the way home? This used to happen when I was at school twenty years ago.
Anyway, I can't believe that it's been left for two years. You should have taken action in the first couple of weeks! If you've not been to their house before then it's worth a try but if no joy, chalk it up to experience and let it go.

[BrumBoo]

The time to have made a big deal of it was two years ago. It was the school who should have kept the money until he/you could take it safely, and he shouldn't have given it to anyone for 'looking after' so big lesson learned there.

Honestly? I think the time has come to give up on it. It's not ok and it's a lot of money to lose out on, but it's gone and that's that. If there is a next time, kick up a stink at the time!

[Lalliella]

Definitely don’t let it go! It’s theft. What should they get away with it? Go round OP, and take DS with you (and preferably someone else as a witness)

[Aprilx]

I would have kicked up a lot more of a fuss at the time. But two years later, no this ship has sailed, you are not getting your money back.

[lljkk]

Text. 'Sorry you couldn't make it last night. I'll come over now instead'. And then be there at the door smiling sweetly with your hand out.

^ I like that suggestion. Doesn't have to be any bad feeling, just insisting it's sorted. No more delays.