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DS is owed money. AIBU to increase the pressure?

173 replies

supersop60 · 23/03/2021 23:02

My DS, now 17, is owed some money by a (former) friend.
The girl has made excuses for TWO Years why she can't return it to him, and after having promised, yet again, she would return it last Monday, it didn't appear.
I wrote to the parents, and after a week I got an email back saying they would bring the money to our house this evening. It's 11pm, and there's no sign.
WIBU to go to the house and demand it? (the email actually said if I had knocked on the door, they would have given it to me there and then)
It's £50, and the girl has acknowledged that she needs to return it.

OP posts:
speakout · 24/03/2021 06:34

I would let it go.
Two years is a long time, and £50 is quite an inexpensive life lesson- never lend or borrow money.

Extremelyilluminated · 24/03/2021 06:35

Let it go

TeapotCollection · 24/03/2021 06:39

I’d be going round there to fetch it but I’m baffled as to how this has gone on for 2 years - I’d have gone round to fetch it as soon as he got back from the trip and told me what had happened

Beautiful3 · 24/03/2021 06:41

I cannot believe you've left it 2 years, seems a bit late now? I would go and knock on their door and be grumpy, they'll pay you to go away.

hayjam · 24/03/2021 06:45

Another one who also thinks let it go. It's been 2 years!

CatsHairEverywhere · 24/03/2021 06:47

It’s been 2 years and you’re only just asking for it back? Surprised the parents bothered replying to your email at all

jessstan2 · 24/03/2021 07:10

I don't understand why it was given in cash. Normally a refund would go to the card holder who booked. Most odd.

Inanun2 · 24/03/2021 07:13

You are never getting that back.
Just chalk it up to experience, you had to ask/chase in first 2 months not 2 years
Wrong, and they are a fault but I think you just need to let go.

Cadent · 24/03/2021 07:24

Definitely go over there. You may not get your money back, but they won’t be able to pretend that she didn’t steal the money. They’ll remember the visit and cringe at their greed.

DoubleTweenQueen · 24/03/2021 07:28

Why wasn't it sorted two years ago?
Go and get it back!

SpiderinaWingMirror · 24/03/2021 07:29


user1491404899 · 24/03/2021 07:35

I don't think this is real. But if it is....let it go. Your 22 months too late.

Sundances · 24/03/2021 07:39

I would go to the house.
I would also mention it to the school - it was your DS' fault but they should be a bit more careful about handing out money.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 24/03/2021 07:41

I’ve never known a school deal with cash in this way.

Your DS is 17, let him deal with it or just forget it and move on 🤷🏼‍♀️

BigPaperBag · 24/03/2021 07:41

Sorry @supersop60 you need to accept that he will never see that money again. I’ve had it happen to me and it’s so galling but that’s why the saying ‘’never a lender nor a borrower be’’ is so true. Flowers

MimiDaisy11 · 24/03/2021 07:45

If you've never gone round there then I would. You might as well try.

Seldon · 24/03/2021 07:46

Two years does seem a very long time. This should have been dealt with in two weeks

Mrgrinch · 24/03/2021 07:47

You should have spoken to the parents 2 years ago. It's too late now.

Pepperminttea16 · 24/03/2021 07:51

Unless you have inadvertently missed a 0, I would let it go now for the sake of £50.

Confusedandshaken · 24/03/2021 07:51

Text. 'Sorry you couldn't make it last night. I'll come over now instead'. And then be there at the door smiling sweetly with your hand out.

stuckinarutatwork · 24/03/2021 07:54

I'm guessing that the refund was perhaps from a kitty. As in the trip cost was £x but the pupils were asked to also pay £100 each in cash for sundries such as meals out / public transport tickets / evening entertainment. Anything not spent was dished out on the way home? This used to happen when I was at school twenty years ago.
Anyway, I can't believe that it's been left for two years. You should have taken action in the first couple of weeks! If you've not been to their house before then it's worth a try but if no joy, chalk it up to experience and let it go.

BrumBoo · 24/03/2021 07:55

The time to have made a big deal of it was two years ago. It was the school who should have kept the money until he/you could take it safely, and he shouldn't have given it to anyone for 'looking after' so big lesson learned there.

Honestly? I think the time has come to give up on it. It's not ok and it's a lot of money to lose out on, but it's gone and that's that. If there is a next time, kick up a stink at the time!

Lalliella · 24/03/2021 08:03

Definitely don’t let it go! It’s theft. What should they get away with it? Go round OP, and take DS with you (and preferably someone else as a witness)

Aprilx · 24/03/2021 08:05

I would have kicked up a lot more of a fuss at the time. But two years later, no this ship has sailed, you are not getting your money back.

lljkk · 24/03/2021 08:08

Text. 'Sorry you couldn't make it last night. I'll come over now instead'. And then be there at the door smiling sweetly with your hand out.

^ I like that suggestion. Doesn't have to be any bad feeling, just insisting it's sorted. No more delays.

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