Nan won't have vaccine

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But expects everyone to still be happy to meet with her once restrictions lift.

What would you do?

She says if it's her time it's her time, she's not bothered. Which is her choice of course but I obviously wouldn't feel that way about potentially having killed my Nan if I were the one to pass anything on!

She is 80. I am in my late 20s with young children in primary so still going to be a bit of a risk factor for a while.

@Dontyouwantme

Most are vaccinated already, everyone else can'r wait Aw, that’s what I’ve been telling my friends and family too! And they too believe it

Imagine being proud that you're a completely abhorrent human being.

Most are vaccinated already, everyone else can'r wait
Aw, that’s what I’ve been telling my friends and family too! And they too believe it smile

It would serve you right if some of them turn out to be on this thread, and avoid you from now on! Not so much because you didn't get vaccinated, as because you're dishonest and spiteful (at least the image that you project here; I HOPE that you're just trolling and are not really that nasty IRL).

And no, so far as I know, I'm not one of them!

Aw, that’s what I’ve been telling my friends and family too! And they too believe it smile

Well I can only imagine they are as stupid as you are.

I know the kind of people my friends and family are. And they are nothing like you.

@InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream

I can't believe some of these responses. Branding an 80 yr old 'utterly selfish'. Accusing HER of putting a 20 year yr old at risk? 20 yr olds aren't AT risk! Fuck's sake.

I can't either; or rather I can, this is mumsnet, home of the entitled, slow-thinking and self-absorbed.

I think there are many Nans out there who won't be missing much if these family members don't visit. There's no way I would have been telling my nan what she is and isn't to do, it's utterly shameful.

But even if you are vaccinated you can still spread it. We are being told to social distance still - no hugs and to wear facemasks.

you can’t possibly know that none of them are lying though

Of course I can.

If you're meant to have it for your job, I hope very much that you get fired.

You sound like such a lovely person, your family and friends are so lucky to have you

I am and they are. So kind of you to say.

Its her choice and she is very old anyway, guess she has to decide the lesser of two evils.

@Dontyouwantme If you’re a troll, you’re a good one.

And if you aren’t, you are beneath contempt.

@PrattATatt - I know! Imagine not only be bragging you deceived your family and friends but being proud that you’ve put them in danger. Personally I love and care about friends and family. What a sad little life some posters lead. I prefer to get my kicks elsewhere.

You’re right. I’m out.

My own dad is refusing to see me until I have the vaccine. It is nothing to do with health or safety as he is in my support bubble and I have been seeing him anyway. He is only refusing to see me as a form of emotional blackmail, and to bend my arm into getting it.
I also have a friend who has called me all sorts of very hurtful things because I wont be getting it. Calling people selfish, idiots etc will not change minds. You just alienate people that way.
So, this is why I will lie.
My other friends don't care either way. We don't even discuss it.

Will you also refuse to work with people who haven't been vaccinated or go into a supermarket, restaurant or pub where people may not have had it ? How would you even know ?

@GrumpyHoonMain

One of my relatives was like this, so I used DS as a bribe to make her get it done. Basically said if she got the vaccine then provided we did too we’ll bring DS to see her (she hasn’t seen him since he was born as he’s a lockdown baby).

You coerced your relative? Vile.

Is this like suicide by vaccine avoidance?

why would it be ?

Her choice, leave her to it OP.

I won’t be having the vaccine yet as I’m pregnant and then breastfeeding. But my family and friends won’t be shunning me. That’s if we are even allowed to meet!

@Donotfeedthebears

I won’t be having the vaccine yet as I’m pregnant and then breastfeeding. But my family and friends won’t be shunning me. That’s if we are even allowed to meet!

That's fine as you have a good valid reason.

I just don't know how I'm supposed to be okay with 'if I die, I die' when that's my Nan and the thought that I could potentially be the one to have given it to her

Because she is an adult and is allowed to make that decision. There are a plethora of bugs you can pass to an elderly person which could risk their life. This one is no different.

You are quite within your right to refuse to visit, or to wait until you are vaccinated, but ask yourself whether visiting her on the off chance she gets a bug is worse than not visiting her at all and she perhaps dies in the meantime.

I have been scrupulously avoiding doing anything to put my parents at risk. If they decided not to vaccinate and wanted to take the risk, I’d be satisfied with that. I wouldn’t bear any responsibility for their death as it would be related to their own decisions.

@Donotfeedthebears it's basically up to you if you want to meet them! I'm also pregnant and will get the vaccine when I'm BF

All of the 80+ year olds I know who had covid didn’t even get symptoms. All the people I know who died were between 65-75

I don’t know any 65-75 year olds who have died. So what does that mean? Maybe our own personal experiences don’t count as highly as the actual statistics on the matter.

I'm generally very relaxed about these things - if someone doesn't want something it's their choice, but with the Covid vaccine it's not about having a jab to protect yourself, it's about protecting others. It's a selfless decision to have the jab.