Hen Party Abroad

[Strawbfields]

Hey,

I am a bridesmaid for a good friend who is absolutely insisting on having a 4/5 night hen party abroad in the summer holidays next year. Like the majority of us, I have been unable to get away with my OH or family due to the pandemic and I'd rather prioritise my family. The cost is looking to be in the region of £1000PP by the time we factor in the holiday cost, spending money and all the added extras that come with hen parties. (The brides DM is covering the brides cost)

I just think with everything that we have all gone through over the last year, it would be far better to hire out a lodge with hot tub etc and have a great time in the UK at a 1/4 of the cost.

It might also be worth mentioning the wedding has been postponed by a year due to the pandemic and a few of the girls circumstances have changed. If the wedding itself was abroad then that would be completely different, but I think it's a bit much just for a hen weekend. AIBU?

WOW!

Well OP I'm glad you are mature enough to be laughing and seeing it for the absolute ridiculousness that it is..... absolutely bullet dodged.

I do find with these types that what goes around comes around, I strongly suspect you'll be able to enjoy some drama from afar when the bride insists everyone still goes when the price has shot up to £2k/ everyone has to quarantine for 2 weeks at the hotel on arrival/ someone gets pregnant and drops out and everyone else has to stump up/ etc etc.

The rubbish has taken itself out!

@Roszie

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I love the passive aggressiveness of it.

This!! Do this

@Roszie

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I love the passive aggressiveness of it.

Damn thats good.

I’d message back the bridesmaid with this - “cheers for replying to me and all being so understanding. It’s a real shame I can’t make it with such a lovely group of ladies”

I love that the messenger just had to tell you that the bride is “raging”. So much for the sisterhood!

No it has to be a thumbs up emoji.

@Atalune

I love that the messenger just had to tell you that the bride is “raging”. So much for the sisterhood!

How about you forward the previous message about the hen do being really expense to the bride, then sit back and watch!

@DonnaDonna01

I’d message back the bridesmaid with this - “cheers for replying to me and all being so understanding. It’s a real shame I can’t make it with such a lovely group of ladies”

This is also marvellously passive aggressive!

Sorry jus5 caught up

Well done for sending message

Obv you are heartbroken you are taken off the hen chat. Not

Wonder if they will do a Uk one

I would message bride as you say a good friend, just saying sure she understands why have pulled out. Have a fab time and if she does a Uk one to let you know

Obv her reply depends if you go to the Uk one if does do one and or wedding

Or you could say -

Thanks for the heads up about Gemma raging and don't worry I won't mention to her that you agreed with me about how crazy expensive it all is either ; )

Bride has blocked me on WhatsApp before I had the chance to send her a message, unbelievable! How bloody immature.

I'd not bother with the wedding myself, assuming she doesn't remove you from the invitation list first snotty madam

Pathetic

Can you text her or feb message

Or you cba

I'm another one who would never spend anywhere near this amount of money on a hen do. I only earn about £1k a month, I would never spend that on basically someone else's party holiday. I'm not even sure we could justify a few hundred quid because that's about what we spend for our own little family breaks and I would obviously prioritise that over someon else's do. I didn't even have a hen do. The only one I've been invited to so far was a close friend for whom I was a bridesmaid and helped organise it, luckily she is v down to earth! We went to a trampoline park then for a meal at a chain restaurant, then to her house for kareoke, games and lots and lots of drink, and all crashed at her house. Was just a fun day together and didn't break the bank.

@Strawbfields

Bride has blocked me on WhatsApp before I had the chance to send her a message, unbelievable! How bloody immature.

Fuck her then, who needs friends like that? More hassle than it's worth

@Strawbfields

Bride has blocked me on WhatsApp before I had the chance to send her a message, unbelievable! How bloody immature.

Ah you've dodged a bullet to be honest. She's shown you who she really is, and that's not someone you want to be bothering with. Onwards and upwards free from this awful woman!

Christ. What a stone cold bitch!

Kind of envious that this is clearly the biggest problem in her life rn

@Strawbfields

Bride has blocked me on WhatsApp before I had the chance to send her a message, unbelievable! How bloody immature.

You're uninvited, as the song says

Honestly, it's good riddance. Friends don't do any of this.

Gemma really needs to get a life. Don't give these useless bimbos any more headspace. What a fuss about a frilly frock party.

Might be kind to message the fiance so he knows what he is getting into..

@Strawbfields just imagine if you'd gone along with it and then had to spend all that time with that delightful bunch.
They've blocked you, but this will backfire on them since they won't be able to send all the new passive aggressive messages they wish they'd thought of earlier.
Bet you £10 they unblock to get another dig in
You are so well out of this!

@Strawbfields

Bride has blocked me on WhatsApp before I had the chance to send her a message, unbelievable! How bloody immature.

Hahahahaha Amazing.

Surely you've got her on FB. Or her friends on FB...

If you have been friends with the bride for some time, do try to send her a message. Because she may not have heard the truth.

Be clear you just can't afford it, and a year to save won't change that as you had factored in if you could save for it before saying no. Also be clear you weren't trying to change the hen do to suit you and were happy to miss out.

FFS people are twats. You're well rid.

@Strawbfields

Bride has blocked me on WhatsApp before I had the chance to send her a message, unbelievable! How bloody immature.

I'm lost for words with this selfish, self absorbed bitch. I honestly can't believe it.

@MarieDelaere I had one of those 45 years ago! Still one of my best ever nights out, probably cost about £10 ahead and my hat was awesome!