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Was your wedding the best day of your life?

253 replies

Opal93 · 22/03/2021 20:40

Mine wasn’t. But I’m glad it wasn’t! That would have meant life was all downhill from there! My hair was right in the middle of the worst stage of post partum hair loss, and it was so thin and straggly wearing it down as I wanted looked terrible. Wearing extensions wasn’t an option either as it had gotten so thin you could see every clip. The hairdresser did do her best with what she had to work with but it wasn’t what I’d have chosen. Also my makeup artist cancelled last minute and I had to find a replacement who did do a decent enough job but it wasn’t what I’d pictured. Several things went wrong , but nothing major. My son was 8 months old and in strange form and was glued to me. Also I found I was kind of hovering not really knowing who to sit with or speak to, as everyone sat in their own groups. My husband and his mates congregated in the smoking area watching football for almost all the reception! I didn’t expect him to be glued to me the whole night but come on, at least make the most of the entertainment we’ve paid for !! So, while I do look back fondly on it and it wasn’t a disaster, certainly not the best day of my life. Was your wedding the best day of yours?

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missbridgerton · 22/03/2021 22:26

We had a 5 month old baby who didn't sleep, and were having a register office ceremony followed by a pub lunch with immediate family, then driving off to the lake district for our honeymoon.

Dh got himself all spruced up and spent ages getting ready in his nice new suit. I fed the baby, packed the car with 10 ton of shit for said baby, and didn't even get a shower. My hair was a mop as I hadn't had a cut since baby had arrived. I wore a skirt, jacket and felt utterly shit. And to complete my joy, my cream expensive floaty skirt got oil on it from the car door.

I remember looking at him as we were exchanging vows and feeling nothing but utter rage that yet again he'd been a thoughtless arse, and my family hadn't offered to do fuck all either. It's still the same story, 30 years on.............

Caramelsmadfuzzytail · 22/03/2021 22:27

Nope, neither of them were. The first one i had to choose between my mother and dad. The 2nd my dad was no longer with us.

billy1966 · 22/03/2021 22:27

It was a nice day.

I have had 1,000 nicer days with him happily since.

Thecazelets · 22/03/2021 22:28

Nope. (Neither were dc births - terrifying, painful and bloody doesn't rate very highly in my 'best things ever' list.)

Wedding day was nice enough, but I think the happiest day of my life was probably the day DH and I actually got together.

Fridacaninelo · 22/03/2021 22:29

The moment your baby is handed to you is wonderful.

Not for me it wasn't, I was too exhausted and traumatised by labour to feel anything but numb.

Lemonlemonlime · 22/03/2021 22:29

No, it was a lovely day though. I often think that the most memorable or significant occasions aren’t necessarily the days when I’ve actually been at my happiest. Similarly I wouldn’t call the birth of my DC the happiest day of my life. A random Wednesday sitting with them in the garden a few weeks later basking in that newborn bond and realising that I was completely in love was a much happier moment in hindsight.

MasterBeth · 22/03/2021 22:34

I have no idea what the best day of my life was. Not my wedding day.

Who has a “best day”?

Mooloolabababy · 22/03/2021 22:36

Nope. We made a lot of decisions based on what other people wanted/expected. If I were to do it again, I'd do it way cheaper and spend the rest of the money on a holiday!

minniemoocher · 22/03/2021 22:42

No, and not because we split up (after 20 years) I don't think I have a best day

Bettina500 · 22/03/2021 22:42

No. In fact I have no happy memories of it at all. Still married but the day was a disaster, not what I wanted and everything that could go wrong went wrong.

TheDogsMother · 22/03/2021 22:43

I'm not sure I have a specific best day of my life but our wedding was certainly a best day. Our small spring time wedding (second time around for both of us) turned in to an autumn Covid wedding but despite that it was a wonderful day. We've been together for many years but I in the photos we were both smiling ear to ear and absolutely glowing. We're still both surprised that it feels different to before.

Shinyletsbebadguys · 22/03/2021 22:45

If I had to choose my dc birth were definitely the best days , it doesn't mean they were perfect but certainly the day the best things happened to me. Even allowing for the fact I don't remember a lot of ds2 birth and a week after as I was in ICU. That said I still count them as the best days of my life.

My wedding to exdh...well no it really wasn't. I felt very meh all day (probably should have given me a clue really shouldn't it).

That said DP proposed a while ago and the vague plan is quiet , small , just a day to celebrate however we want. I have no intention of the big white wedding (because seriously I'm 41 and have two DC.. white would be seriously pushing it) but I am genuinely looking forward to celebrating the love of my life. My (and his but fortunately they combine) way. I don't have any expectations of perfect (I don't really believe perfect exists for anything ) but I'm far more excited than I was with my first.

No DJ , no bloody buffet , no pain in the backside relatives. Just DP, DC and our closest people to celebrate a hard won and happy relationship. And a nice dress.

I think best days of your life can still be best days with things going wrong.

IdblowJonSnow · 22/03/2021 22:45

No, but it was a really lovely, special day. I enjoyed it far more than I thought I would!

Slackadder · 22/03/2021 22:53

No. It was a lovely and memorable day..But not the best. After 35 years the day pales into insignificance. The marriage doesn't. Better memorable days are DS being born and a few others.. A wedding is just the start.

IpreferInchyraBlue · 22/03/2021 22:55

It was certainly a very very happy day. Up there with the day DD2 was born, which could only have been better if DD3 was there too!

DipSwimSwoosh · 22/03/2021 23:02

No because I wasn't doing my favourite things. I had a nice day and kept my mum happy. But I prefer festivals and swimming and travelling by train.

Strokethefurrywall · 22/03/2021 23:08

It was a cracking day and I had great fun but no it wasn't the best day of my life. I could never single out one "best" day because I've had so many of them.

I've never felt as loved, not just by my husband but family and friends as well, as I did on our wedding day.

I liked the above comment. Ironically the day I felt most loved and supported by friends, family and acquaintances was the day my brother died. Which was lovely, not because it was the best day of my life obviously!!

fantasmasgoria1 · 22/03/2021 23:10

No. The first was sort of forced upon me and the second I regretted before we even said any vows.

Fifthtimelucky · 22/03/2021 23:18

Mine was definitely one of my best ever days. A few friends and relatives weren't able to make it, but almost everyone who was there was important to me and with only one exception (elderly grandmother with dementia) all my favourite people in the world were there.

It was nearly 30 ago and I'm still in contact with the vast majority of them (or rather the vast majority of those who are still alive).

Megan2018 · 22/03/2021 23:22

No, it was a brilliant day but not the best day. Best day was my DD birth.

We got married on our own, no guests. It was perfect. But not the best day of my life.

Lemmeout · 22/03/2021 23:23

No if I could go back and do it again. I wouldn’t bother.

SusannahSophia · 22/03/2021 23:24

I had a really lovely wedding day, loved every minute. My only regret was the poor decision I’d made over who to marry!

RevolvingPivot · 22/03/2021 23:29

No hated if to be honest

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 22/03/2021 23:30

No it was a great day , but having my kids trump it

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 22/03/2021 23:32

I don't know if I could define the best day of my life. I can easily define the worst, but not the best and I don't know why. I loved my wedding day, it was brilliant. I was so excited to marry DH, we only had a small wedding but being married was what we wanted, rather than a big party (both quite shy). England won an important match on the day, and you ask anyone in my family what they remember about my wedding day, they will say David Beckham's free kick! My MIL was in hospital dying too.

I had many excellent days over 20 years with DH that I could say were as good as my wedding day. So it's hard to just pick one. I do know though that my best day would have been with him. He was my lobster.