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Was your wedding the best day of your life?

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Opal93 · 22/03/2021 20:40

Mine wasn’t. But I’m glad it wasn’t! That would have meant life was all downhill from there! My hair was right in the middle of the worst stage of post partum hair loss, and it was so thin and straggly wearing it down as I wanted looked terrible. Wearing extensions wasn’t an option either as it had gotten so thin you could see every clip. The hairdresser did do her best with what she had to work with but it wasn’t what I’d have chosen. Also my makeup artist cancelled last minute and I had to find a replacement who did do a decent enough job but it wasn’t what I’d pictured. Several things went wrong , but nothing major. My son was 8 months old and in strange form and was glued to me. Also I found I was kind of hovering not really knowing who to sit with or speak to, as everyone sat in their own groups. My husband and his mates congregated in the smoking area watching football for almost all the reception! I didn’t expect him to be glued to me the whole night but come on, at least make the most of the entertainment we’ve paid for !! So, while I do look back fondly on it and it wasn’t a disaster, certainly not the best day of my life. Was your wedding the best day of yours?

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2021youpromisedyoudbebetter · 23/03/2021 13:41

No and both me and my DH agree about it, we enjoyed our day and it was fun but both of us much prefer being guests than having the spotlight on us. It's still one of my top days, my best day was probably my daughter being born. I've loved quite a lot of days that stand out these last few years, and feel fortunate to have had those.

Peterpainter · 23/03/2021 13:41

Ps my kids attended my wedding so I’m not wishing them away by saying that Grin

jessstan2 · 23/03/2021 13:46

I suppose mine was, later on having a baby was pretty good too.

LittleGwyneth · 23/03/2021 13:46

Yep. And it was very non mumsnet - big, lots of people, expensive, not in the UK. Perfect day. Others have come close since, but it was pure magic.

crystalcherry87 · 23/03/2021 15:42

Ours was during restrictions so it wasn't perfect and it was quite basic to keep costs down but just knowing we were husband and wife at last was an amazing moment. Although ideally the day would be perfect I don't think it really means anything compared to the marriage itself. I know a couple who married in a castle and spent thousands and they lasted 6 months. My best days were probably the birth of my kids.

newlabelwriter · 24/03/2021 09:58

Not at all. Me and DH weren't in a great place TBH and I was feeling very meh about it all. I hate the dress and my hair now, lord knows what I was thinking. Would do it very differently if I had the chance again.

lioncitygirl · 24/03/2021 10:07

no.

cushioncovers · 24/03/2021 10:12

Nope my husband (now ex) told me to fuck off when I asked him to stop wandering off when the photographer needed him for the photos, he also spent the whole day socialising with everyone but me. I had to just do my own thing for most of it. It didn't go unnoticed by some people. It was a sign of things to come 😞

LeaveMyDamnJam · 24/03/2021 10:18

My wedding to the current Mr Jam was wonderful. I enjoyed every second. It was made even more pointent as it was the last major gathering where my father was unaffected by dementia. His speech was lovely.

Advice for anyone, based on the OP. No TV at the venue. Second bit of advice - get married in a vineyard 😉

professionalnomad · 25/03/2021 15:25

It was one of the best days of my life
But not the sole one. The arrival of my daughter, the day my now husband proposed, the day I got my Masters - all rank up there.

Stellaris22 · 25/03/2021 15:30

No, because weddings are boring and a waste of money. I feel sorry for anyone who wastes thousands of pounds on one. We spent the very least we could (registry office, two friends as witnesses) and went home after.

I'd much rather have a happy marriage (which we do) than regret wasting money on a pointless day.

joystir59 · 25/03/2021 15:32

Yes. Simple and full of love.

Cleebope2 · 25/03/2021 15:37

Yes, brilliant memories from 1997, cheap, cheerful, no social pressures or expectations, did our own thing, traditional but relaxed. I was too young to get stressed about what people thought and didn’t care. The Bucks Fizz breakfast and dry day helped a lot! I never look at the photos though cos I would do my hair differently now and wear a different outfit! I prefer the memories in my head.

HappyFlamingo · 25/03/2021 15:44

Yes! It was 17 years ago, 136 guests and I loved every minute of it.

Stillgoings · 25/03/2021 15:56

No. Too stressful being the centre of attention for us introverts.

RedToothBrush · 25/03/2021 16:03

I hate this expectation that your wedding day should be the best day of your life. All it does is set you up for unrealistic expectations, a huge chance of a massive disappointment, masses of stress and a complete distortion of what matters in life.

DH and I got married abroad without either friends or family because I wanted to avoid the stress of it all. Marriage to me is just about vows to your partner not the whole spectacle and sideshow.

I'm not a fucking princess and I have no desire to be.

We had a great time and it was an amazing holiday. His mother still holds it against us and for years said she didn't really consider us married as she wasn't there to see it and we didn't have a party. I really couldn't give a fuck and it proves exactly why we wanted to fuck off and not invite her! (She was one of the main reasons we didn't invite anyone in the first place because she would make it all about her). Since DS turned up, she has now accepted it (DS is the only male grandson and in her family the men have always been more valued - by her own admission - and the only one who will carry on the family name).

Best day of my life? I honestly don't know. I've had a few amazing days. Many of them with DH and some with DS. I love those days that turn out to be amazing unexpectedly and you get to the end of the day and you have that feeling that you just don't want it to end. Being honest, I can't say that about the day DS was born either.

I think people get far too wound up about weddings and the drama of weddings rather than just enjoying life as it comes.

littlepattilou · 25/03/2021 16:08

It was ONE of the best days ever.

But finding my baby was a little girl, and was healthy, was probably THE best day ever. Another great day was meeting my favourite Hollywood star...

But I have had some other great days in my life... including seeing my favourite music stars in concert (Madonna, Prince, Whitney, and David Bowie, to name just 4.) And on my 40th birthday, I went to a country I had always wanted to visit for the first time ever. Smile

Also DD's graduation was a fab day.

Been through some tough times (like many others have,) but have had some good times too. Smile

Back to the OP's question... My wedding day is in the top 5 best days ever... It was a wonderful day. Smile Small (with only 30 guests,) but still lovely... Me and DH (and DD) look through our wedding album with great fondness!

I do agree with some posters though, that this expectation that your wedding day HAS to be super-wonderful, and the 'best day of your life,' is very stressful for some.

I am really sorry yours wasn't great @Opal93 Flowers

Hopefully, everything in your life is fab from now on! Grin

LJC1234 · 25/03/2021 16:09

Absolutely in my top three ! I loved every single second and wish I could do it all again.

JaninaDuszejko · 25/03/2021 16:09

It was a nice day and went well but was not the best day of my life. The best days that I like to remember are lovely relaxed days we've had on holiday or spent with good friends or close family.

It was an important day but those aren't always the best, e.g. I was recovering from food poisoning the day I graduated from my first degree.

ghostyslovesheets · 25/03/2021 16:14

No not the best day but bloody good fun - I had two!

Vegas wedding with Elvis just us - was a riot and we got horribly drunk

Back home we had a lovely chilled out party with all our family and mates - it was really fun

Shame the marriage didn;t last but I had 3 amazing kids - the days they where born probably rank higher than the wedding

LagunaBubbles · 25/03/2021 16:23

I dont think its possible to just have one best day, my wedding day was an amazing day and we are still together 22 years later but we renewed our vows on a beach in California with our 2 boys, and I enjoyed that so much better!

blackteaplease · 25/03/2021 16:26

No. It was stressful and I was anxious for most of it for many reasons. Everyone that attended still talks about what a lovely day it was (14 years later) so we can't have done too badly. The best bit was getting married and seeing all my friends and family in one place, that was special.

Cowbells · 25/03/2021 16:31

No. I didn't enjoy it that much tbh. It was stressful. Best day of my life so far was about fifteen years later with DH and DC having an incredible day out which had specific meaning to us as a family. I was so happy I felt like I'd taken something!

HappyDaysToCome · 25/03/2021 16:44

It was one of the best days. Wonderful to have all my friends from various points in my life there in one place, with my family. Spoilt only by (a) I didn’t get any of my wedding cake and (b) had my period, which was quite awkward with wedding dress.

Best day was probably 9 months later (exactly, so not sure how that squares with (b) above!) when DS2 was born. Pretty much a fabled sneeze-birth.

Lots of other good days in my life too.

lifeinlimbo2020 · 25/03/2021 16:58

No. I never thought it would be though. It was lovely but I was never a dreamer of white weddings kind of person. Myself and DH both admit seeing Foo Fighters at Milton Keynes was a far more enjoyable day 🤣🤣