Was your wedding the best day of your life?

[Opal93]

Mine wasn’t. But I’m glad it wasn’t! That would have meant life was all downhill from there! My hair was right in the middle of the worst stage of post partum hair loss, and it was so thin and straggly wearing it down as I wanted looked terrible. Wearing extensions wasn’t an option either as it had gotten so thin you could see every clip. The hairdresser did do her best with what she had to work with but it wasn’t what I’d have chosen. Also my makeup artist cancelled last minute and I had to find a replacement who did do a decent enough job but it wasn’t what I’d pictured. Several things went wrong , but nothing major. My son was 8 months old and in strange form and was glued to me. Also I found I was kind of hovering not really knowing who to sit with or speak to, as everyone sat in their own groups. My husband and his mates congregated in the smoking area watching football for almost all the reception! I didn’t expect him to be glued to me the whole night but come on, at least make the most of the entertainment we’ve paid for !! So, while I do look back fondly on it and it wasn’t a disaster, certainly not the best day of my life. Was your wedding the best day of yours?

It was fantastic day but doesn’t come close to when both my dd’s were born.

It was lovely but nah.

I felt awkward reading your post, about him watching football with his mates.

I’ve never got married.

No. I find the whole need for a perfect wedding a big unhealthy tbo. Then again, I object the misogyny of the whole thing anyway.

Mine wasn’t, and I didn’t expect it too. I remember saying that to some friends who all went ‘awww’ in a sympathetic way which made me feel like shit, but really I knew it’s highly unrealistic that a day that has been built up so much, and is so much about pleasing others, could be the best day. It was great and a happy memory but that’s it. It was being married that I wanted more than the day. Some people adore weddings and big parties though, which I don’t. I also did a job as a registrar for 9 months so conducted maybe 25 weddings. There were only two that stood out as full of magic. The rest - I am sure they loved each other but the dominant feeling was stress. And mainly such grim stereotypes of bridezillas and feckless men who said ‘it’s her gig, do what she says’...

It was the best wedding I've ever been to and had the relaxed and beautiful atmosphere we wanted... but there were things that weren't perfect and if I could have the day how I wanted it right now (without certain guests) it would have been better. I'd love to go back there for someone else's wedding.

No way, not even close. DS1's wedding day 26 years later was lovely though.

It was magical and very special but the best day of my life so far was the day my first child was born and I became a parent for the first time. Nothing beats that day.

Probably not but one of the better ones because I am not an optimist and we were doing it 8 months post partum for the legal stuff. Turned out brilliantly andwas far more emotional and romantic than I could ever have expected.
I didn't my hair though (I never do)

Another who thinks their wedding day was lovely but the best day of my life? No. Up there as one of my favourites and memorable, but I don't buy into the whole big wedding carnival parade.

Yes, I think it probably was. I've never felt as loved, not just by my husband but family and friends as well, as I did on our wedding day.

No. My dad was dying of cancer. My sister and I argued on the morning of the wedding because of the stress. The hairdresser cancelled the practice booking, so my hair was a mess. I was very stressed. My brother pushed my dad's wheelchair over the train of my dress leaving tyre tracks. The best man lost his laptop with his speech on it and disappeared for several hours of the reception.

In short, it felt disastrous. My dad died 3 weeks later.

However, 19 years later, I'm still happily married.

Yes, so far (no children yet).

It was a lovely hot May day and we'd put it off for so long - we had been together 7 years, engaged for 4. Both being shy, we wanted to get married and have the experience of a wedding day, but also terrified of the attention! Then my dad got a diagnosis. We decided we wanted to do it and we needed to do it quick. We started planning our wedding for 8 months time.
When we came to the day we felt so relaxed and in love, surrounded by those who love us, that the worries disappeared when we go to the day.
I cherish the memories I have of my dad on that day too - in the wedding car together, giving me away and our father-daughter dance.

Ah you see @Sceptre86 for me the arrival of DD1 is among the worst days of my life, but it was all very scary and she was taken straight to special care and I was left alone unable to walkwithin 30 mins of birth. So yeah, not the best
DD2's birth was lovely and one of the best days

No.

Yes, I think it was the best day of my life so far. I felt amazing, we were at a venue that meant a lot to both of us, we had our favourite food and music, we had a group of owls which normally did displays at big events. I ate so much cake and hog roast crackling my new mother in law had to help me out of my dress at the end of the night. My dad, who is incredibly shy, got up and made a speech and I was so very proud of him for that. It was everything I wanted and I got to marry my best friend.

No, that would be sad as it was decades ago.

I wouldn't ever describe it as 'the best day of my life' but I can't think of a better one so perhaps it was! It was really lovely, and (very deliberately) very relaxed.

I definitely wouldn't choose either of the times I've given birth - getting a baby at the end was very nice but I don't think agony and stitches have any place in a 'best day'!

Yes! It was perfect and what me and my husband wanted! Got married abroad in a very small ceremony, we done what we wanted when we wanted etc. Beautiful weather, views and memories to remember! Would I do it all over again - yes in a nutshell!!

Oh I had a lovely day at my wedding but hay I also enjoyed giving birth to my babies so I count those in my best days also. Very different days one lovely sunny everything pretty and lovely and the others a no make up being cut in half affairs involving blood . I think I just like to be center of attention occasionally! But my worst days have been so bad I'm easily please!

This is not outing as the two other participants are dead.

£200 overdraft.
Special licence at the registry office.
Cheap suits for both.
Brother and his wife as witnesses, no guests.
Up at 5am doing my own hair etc, in near darkness.
Wasp tried to attack me while I was doing it so spent half an hour running round the living room screaming while fiance kept trying to kill it and failing because he's petrified of the little buzzy yellow fuckers.
8.30am, brother picks us up in a biege 20 year old Lada that was covered in rust and falling to bits. His nice curvy black Rover was broken down so he borrowed the Lada from his fat mate who's fat arse had collapsed the suspension and it stunk of prawn cocktail Skips because of his mates child's obsession with eating them and dropping them all over the interior.
Married at 9.30am.
Brother dropped us off in the High Street, we went to Asda and the chemist, then home on the bus.
Got changed out of wedding clothes it turns out it was pointless buying for ten minutes in an empty room.
Had a cuppa and a sandwich.
Got taxi to brother's house.
Went to shitty pub with broken windows over the road for a few drinks with him, his wife and a couple of their older kids.
Back to brother's.
Brother and new husband fell asleep and started snoring like drains.
I phoned a taxi and dragged DH into it.
Home.
Husband puked in the bathroom sink and fell asleep in it while sitting on the edge of the bath.
Bed.
No sex.

Best day of my life...hardly.

For a few years after my wedding I would have said it was the best day. I've been married for 26 years now and there have been other lovely days. since then

Wedding day was amazing, small, very cheap, very relaxed. Not the best day, that would be for children and perhaps the start of the relationship. Children were a clear first place all in all.

No. Gutted how much it cost in the end, and even more gutted how much it cost to undo.

No, it was a great day, but by no means the best.