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Was your wedding the best day of your life?

253 replies

Opal93 · 22/03/2021 20:40

Mine wasn’t. But I’m glad it wasn’t! That would have meant life was all downhill from there! My hair was right in the middle of the worst stage of post partum hair loss, and it was so thin and straggly wearing it down as I wanted looked terrible. Wearing extensions wasn’t an option either as it had gotten so thin you could see every clip. The hairdresser did do her best with what she had to work with but it wasn’t what I’d have chosen. Also my makeup artist cancelled last minute and I had to find a replacement who did do a decent enough job but it wasn’t what I’d pictured. Several things went wrong , but nothing major. My son was 8 months old and in strange form and was glued to me. Also I found I was kind of hovering not really knowing who to sit with or speak to, as everyone sat in their own groups. My husband and his mates congregated in the smoking area watching football for almost all the reception! I didn’t expect him to be glued to me the whole night but come on, at least make the most of the entertainment we’ve paid for !! So, while I do look back fondly on it and it wasn’t a disaster, certainly not the best day of my life. Was your wedding the best day of yours?

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TwoZeroTwoZero · 22/03/2021 21:40

I enjoyed it, and I'm glad I married him, but tbh I don't remember enough of it for it to be the happiest.

I don't actually think I can put my finger on one particular day and say, "That was the best day of my life."

ASimpleLobsterHat · 22/03/2021 21:43

Yes, it was just a really lovely day with all of our friends and family. If I could relive one day of my life it would be that one. I love my children but I’m definitely not reliving the pain and tearing involved in them arriving in the world.

AllTheOtherNamesWereTaken · 22/03/2021 21:44

Mine has been the best day so far, a close second to the day we got engaged which just made me so happy and we had a lovely day.

We're very lucky and also thought ahead so we were able to have everything we wanted (within reason), all the guests we wanted, we made it very personal to us and made sure the guests had plenty of entertainment- all prepaid for without any debt. If we were still paying for it a year later we may well think it wasn't worth it but we made sure we did it within our means so we didn't have it as a financial stress. I know not everyone is able to do the same but I definitely recommend to go for what you can afford and not what you wished you could afford.

The run up to the wedding was stressful though with family issues and we approached it sort of thinking let's get the drama over with! But in the day there were no family issues thankfully

SplendidSuns1000 · 22/03/2021 21:46

Not the best, but one of them. We had a no fuss ceremony at the registry office, only 2 witnesses who were close friends. We wore fancy clothes we liked- I wore a green vintage dress, DH and I both wore Dr Martens. We celebrated with coffee and cake at a local cafe and went on a honeymoon for 3 weeks. It was better than I could imagine and neither DH or I felt pressured to fit in any traditions (other than my borrowed necklace, old ring, blue garter and new hair clips.)

Marvellousmrsbagel · 22/03/2021 21:46

No. In short, the best man was late, my husband to be was late(he was standing about nearby having some scenic photos taken with other members of the wedding party), husband got so totally wankered he spent all of our wedding night puking. It wasn't the worst, but I've definitely had better!

hopeishere · 22/03/2021 21:48

No. It was a nice day but I was very nervous. I hate being the centre of attention.

My mum was late and was in poor form (she was sad my dad wasn't there and so was I but she sat with a right bake on her) she chirped up at the end of the night.

My son had a bad headache and slept through most of the reception (he was 8).

Imohsotired · 22/03/2021 21:48

Mine was a hell of a great day but thankfully, it's one of many. I had many amazing days before it and same again since.

Chunkymenrock · 22/03/2021 21:51

No it wasn't.

Firenight · 22/03/2021 22:00

No. It was a lovely day on our own terms but still hard work and some pressure. One of my best days ever was giving birth to my daughter.

MakeItRain · 22/03/2021 22:07

My wedding day was "perfect" (low key, beautiful location, perfect weather.) The one flaw was the man I got married to!

WithTeaTree · 22/03/2021 22:09

I enjoyed but no. It wasn’t really the wedding I would’ve had. In fact, personally I wouldn’t have got married at all.

thecatandthevicar · 22/03/2021 22:13

I did everything that is wrong on MN planet, wedding cost a fortune, more than 150 guests, but it was still great.
It was a great party and a beautiful day, but in truth our honeymoon trip was much more memorable.

Getting married once was enough, but I'll go back on my honeymoon again and again if I could. Actually I will! Just have to wait for kids to be old enough to go on holiday on their own.

Pinksatin · 22/03/2021 22:13

Lol everyone’s going to say their children

elliejjtiny · 22/03/2021 22:14

No. It was a lovely day but not the best day of my life. When my dc were born weren't either. But I love being married and I love being a mum.

bathorshower · 22/03/2021 22:15

I actually found I enjoyed close friends' weddings more - lots of people I know and want to spend time with but limited/no responsibility, not the centre of attention or trying to keep everyone happy!

thecatandthevicar · 22/03/2021 22:16

I am not sure how hours of labour, sometimes with complications, can ever be described honestly as the best day of someone's life. Yes, it's worth it and all, but for most mothers it really is not the best.

Fridacaninelo · 22/03/2021 22:17

Yes, I wasn't expecting it to be but it really was. Our son being born 2 years prior to our wedding was horrific as both of us nearly died and I had PTSD so, no contest.

Trustisamust · 22/03/2021 22:18

The worst day because it was by far the biggest mistake of my life and one I will be paying the price for until the day I die!

SignsofSpring · 22/03/2021 22:19

Pretty much, yes. I've had many happy days since, but whilst I had a sense of pride and accomplishment at the birth of my children, those days weren't happy in the sense of unproblematic or blissful. My wedding day was just so so lovely and we were so so in love. Makes me feel tearful thinking about it.

noblegreenk · 22/03/2021 22:19

No. It was nice and I enjoyed it more than I thought I would but it wasn't the best day.

Best day was when my daughter was born. I was dreading the experience, but it wasn't too bad and i was just thoroughly amazed at who we'd made.

TheVanguardSix · 22/03/2021 22:20

Noooo. I came down with a stomach bug and that was that! I got my vows in before they too were drowned in vomit. Grin I actually look green in my photos and nope, I wasn't pregnant. It was a proper norovirus type of thing that just swooped in on my wedding day.

hollygoflightly · 22/03/2021 22:21

It was, pretty much. I felt so happy, and so loved. When else are you surrounded by literally everyone who's special to you? We just wanted everyone to have fun, and they did, and so did we. The birth of kids is incredible but it's different...it's momentous and life-changing and special but I wouldn't describe it as 'best'. But as others have said, I hope there'll be more best days in the future!

emeraldcity2000 · 22/03/2021 22:21

@thecatandthevicar

I am not sure how hours of labour, sometimes with complications, can ever be described honestly as the best day of someone's life. Yes, it's worth it and all, but for most mothers it really is not the best.
I totally agree with this! The moment your baby is handed to you is wonderful. The stretch before and after pretty rough!

Yes, my wedding day was the best day for me. If I could relive one day, that would be it.

ChaBishkoot · 22/03/2021 22:26

Hmm. So DH and I had been dating for a decade when we got married. (We were waiting for us to finish grad school/med school). It was a nice fun day. DH found it stressful because he’s shy and hates social occasions. We were both excited about being married. So our fond memories of the day are more about what it represented than the actual wedding.

Ragwort · 22/03/2021 22:26

No, it was a nice, quiet, small celebration (5 of us Grin) and my DH had secretly arranged a night at our favourite hotel as a surprise afterwards but it was hardly the 'best day of my life', (although still together 33+ years later!) nor, to be honest was the day our DS was born, a very stressful experience ending in an EMCS .... I don't think I've ever had just one day that's the 'best of my life' ... plenty of happy times though Smile.

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