Was your wedding the best day of your life?

[Opal93]

Mine wasn’t. But I’m glad it wasn’t! That would have meant life was all downhill from there! My hair was right in the middle of the worst stage of post partum hair loss, and it was so thin and straggly wearing it down as I wanted looked terrible. Wearing extensions wasn’t an option either as it had gotten so thin you could see every clip. The hairdresser did do her best with what she had to work with but it wasn’t what I’d have chosen. Also my makeup artist cancelled last minute and I had to find a replacement who did do a decent enough job but it wasn’t what I’d pictured. Several things went wrong , but nothing major. My son was 8 months old and in strange form and was glued to me. Also I found I was kind of hovering not really knowing who to sit with or speak to, as everyone sat in their own groups. My husband and his mates congregated in the smoking area watching football for almost all the reception! I didn’t expect him to be glued to me the whole night but come on, at least make the most of the entertainment we’ve paid for !! So, while I do look back fondly on it and it wasn’t a disaster, certainly not the best day of my life. Was your wedding the best day of yours?

Nope. DH naively thought that my family would behave. They didn't. Also hate being the centre of attention and despite it being a smallish wedding (max 30 for the ceremony and meal, more for the evening) I struggled a lot with that. And my parents stole the bloody cheese and the rest of the leftovers. We'd arranged to go pick up the leftovers the next day, including a load of amazing cheese that didn't get eaten, I was so angry with them as they knew we were supposed to get it the next day but they convinced the chef that they were my parents and would give it to us 🤬 and my bracelet got stolen by staff at the hotel. I have very few pieces of jewellery and the ones I have are sentimental so I was upset about that for a long time.

We're going to redo the wedding in the future the way I had wanted it originally: just us (and our kids now!) dressed up and having a nice meal and celebrating our relationship and life together.

No. It was good, but I tend to be happier in little moments- like with the kids when they are happy. Big events are very pressured.

No, so many things went wrong and it was awful. We were home (with our children) at 9:30pm. Missed most of our own reception which I'm told was a great night.

The best day of my life was the day our son was born after a high-risk pregnancy, almost losing him in labour and before that experiencing a succession of miscarriages. I was stunned that after all that he'd actually been delivered healthy and well and finally we had the family we'd longed for for a decade.

Wedding day definitely qualifies as one of my happiest days. We eloped overseas and went on a three-week tour of Europe afterwards. It was stress-free, hassle-free, chilled, relaxed and if we could have our time over we'd do the same in a heartbeat.

PhD graduation was a good one, too. Getting my first book published. Plus the first time I saw Florence, Venice, the Norwegian Fjords, St Petersburg, a Key West Sunset, the Niagara Falls.

All beautiful memories and my wedding is one of the best, but I don't understand the expectation that being a bride will be the best day of a woman's life. That's a pretty tall order. There are other things in our lives these days too.

Now I'm off to scribble myself a new bucket list! So many other places to see and experience.

I didn't have a huge wedding and there a few things I'd do differently but it was a really lovely day.
One of the nicest I have had.

Yes, although I think it will soon be overtaken by the birth of our son. We did it for us and everybody else came along for the ride. It was before any of my friends had children, we did it abroad in my partner's country, everybody made the effort to come and celebrate with us. We paid per head and all food and alcohol is included, unlimited so nobody held back. Best. Day. Ever.

No, but I'm quite glad it wasn't, it was a good party, enjoyed by all who attended, I hope! The best day of my life was giving birth to my child and the next one after that was being at her Master's graduation ceremony 24 years later.

No.

I cried all night the night before because I was so nervous - my own parents were divorced which made me very anxious about marriage.
I wish I could have had confidence it would all be OK because it was - we have been married 33 years now.

*yes as far as milestones go.

No , it was a lovely day and we’ve been happily married for over 30 yrs but definitely not the best day of my life .

My second one was, hands down.

My first one was definitely not.

Nah - it was wonderful and romantic and fun but it was also knackering and long and we didnt get any cake (all the guests did!) All my best days are days with my husband where we hang out, wander around (either close to home or on holidays), laugh, mess about, laze about, and eat tasty things!

For me currently, yes. (No kids yet)! Seeing my hubby turn around as I walked down the aisle is a moment I'll never forget. The ceremony was by far my favourite bit and the big party we had to go with it with all our friends and family was the added bonus. Parts didn't go as planned and we spent a ton of money but absolutely no regrets and still my favourite day.

Good lord, no! I took one day off work, it was just us, two witnesses and the registrar. No cake, photos, reception or honeymoon. We only did it to get the tax rebate to replace our car.
Best days of my life would be the birth of DD1, being told DD2 would survive after all when having been born almost dead, and my graduation as a doctor.
Worst day of my life - being told DH was brain dead at 36, just before DD2’s first birthday.

Not sure about ‘best day’ but it was wonderful. It was a day of complete love and happiness, as well as fun and celebration.

The birth of my child was a much more emotional day, but not sure I could call it the best, since it did involve major surgery and serious blood loss.

No but I didn't expect that it would be. I'm happily married though which is the important thing. Think I actually enjoyed some of my friends weddings more than my own, much less stressful!

It was an amazing day, I’d say it was the second best day.

The best day of my life was probably one of the first days of our honeymoon, it was also DHs birthday and we just went for it and planned all of the most amazing things to do. We were in the Maldives, had a 2 hour massage on a jetty over the sea, perfect weather, beautiful food all day, fruit and champagne in the jacuzzi and finished off with a candlelit lobster dinner on the beach. Would love to think we’ll find a way to top it one day, but it’ll be hard.

I had a really lovely day but no it wasn't the best of my life. I've had some pretty fabulous days and hopefully many to come.

No. We had a VERY small wedding and it was nice enough but I'm glad I never expected it to be the best day of my life. I totally agree about life being all downhill from there!

People get so weird about weddings. My brother's planning a whopper one for next year and I really want to advise him against it but I also know it's not my place to stick my oar in.

I don't think most people would describe their wedding day as the best day of their lives. It was lovely but also stressful!

DD2's birth was the best day of my life and the day I would choose to experience again if I could.

No! My dress was strapless, the lady in the shop assured me repeatedly it wouldn't sink down and expose too much... it did! My overwhelming memories of the day are hoiking up my dress. The very bossy wife of the best man dragged me into the toilets at one point and tried to sort it - clearly it was a big problem! I said to my friend later that everyone could see my breasts and she agreed they could! It ruined the day for me. (I am quite large breasted too..). I wish i'd bought the first dress i saw which would have been much better (and quite a bit cheaper too..) I only didn't as i didn't think i should buy the first one i found!
Most of the day apart from that was lovely, except in the evening my sister fell and broke a bone in her foot!
At least it was memorable. And we are still married 12 years on so can't have been too bad!

No. It was wonderful, I was scrolling through some pictures on my phone recently and felt all warm and ‘ahhh that was a great day’ about it, but it wasn’t the best day. I was incredibly happy to marry my DH, it was extra special knowing I was 8 weeks pregnant at the time after years of fertility struggles, and I bloody loved having all my favourite people in one place. The venue was lovely, food was great and it just felt like a very happy day full of love. On the other hand I was knackered due to early pregnancy, and terrified because I’d already had a few bleeds (and had another the next morning as it happens). I couldn’t drink obviously and so it got a bit boring once everyone else was pissed 😂 I missed my mum a lot.

I was 40 when I got married. I’d had some bloody amazing days before I even met my husband, and some great ones with him too.

I’m not sure I could pick a ‘best day’. My daughter being born was the best thing that ever happened to me but the birth was awful and I think I was mostly in shock after so I don’t know you could say the actual day itself was the best.

I’d rather just have lots of lovely memories of different days!

God no.

Don't believe the hype, that's just the shite the wedding industry spouts to make you spend, spend, spend.

Yes, I mean it's a hard thing to measure but it's definitely up there! I absolutely loved it.

No. Love being married but absolutely did not enjoy the wedding or the build up and I felt awful the whole time that I just didn’t care.
If I was to do it again I’d elope.