Was your wedding the best day of your life?

[Opal93]

Mine wasn’t. But I’m glad it wasn’t! That would have meant life was all downhill from there! My hair was right in the middle of the worst stage of post partum hair loss, and it was so thin and straggly wearing it down as I wanted looked terrible. Wearing extensions wasn’t an option either as it had gotten so thin you could see every clip. The hairdresser did do her best with what she had to work with but it wasn’t what I’d have chosen. Also my makeup artist cancelled last minute and I had to find a replacement who did do a decent enough job but it wasn’t what I’d pictured. Several things went wrong , but nothing major. My son was 8 months old and in strange form and was glued to me. Also I found I was kind of hovering not really knowing who to sit with or speak to, as everyone sat in their own groups. My husband and his mates congregated in the smoking area watching football for almost all the reception! I didn’t expect him to be glued to me the whole night but come on, at least make the most of the entertainment we’ve paid for !! So, while I do look back fondly on it and it wasn’t a disaster, certainly not the best day of my life. Was your wedding the best day of yours?

Just realised it sounds as though I'm saying the day was good because MIL was dying I don't mean it that way. What I meant was, that is why it's not the best day of my life because it was tinged with sadness.

No, late DH and I were both really ill. The day I met him was the best day of my life. But saying our vows was the best, most special, most important 20 minutes of my life by far.

No. My wedding was my Mother's perfect wedding day. I don't really think it about much. I have no wedding photos on display either. It all happened at a time when I was quite vulnerable and I didn't have much to do with it really!

Like everyone else i don't have best days but my wedding was really lovely.

@The3rdWatermelon I was not expecting to read the phrase "group of owls"! How excellent.

@peachgreen that's very touching, I'm also a widow and I think incredibly fondly of that wedding day. Not saying there weren't very happy times after that day, but it was the peak of romantic love I think, I always wanted to be adored by someone, and feeling like that all day was just magical.

No, it was a big, expensive mess and I was an angry perfectionist. It seems such a silly thing now, putting on a long white dress and holding flowers surrounded by girls in dresses also holding flowers, like you're all in a school play.

It's all a big con, I wish we'd taken the money and run. I'd like to have got married in New York in an amazing coat.

I have friends who have either never been married or had basic Registry office weddings, good for them.

Yes that's how I felt the day I met DH @SignsofSpring, it was love at first sight and so obvious that we were both head over heels. We spent 8 hours talking and suddenly everything in my life made sense! It was an absolutely magical day. Don't think it will ever be bettered, although my life with him as a whole was extremely happy in general. Sorry you are also a widow. It's very hard. Sending love to @AndNoneForGretchenWieners too.

No but my honeymoon was shit hot

Christ, no. Two awful weddings. First one forced into at 17 and pregnant.
Second one ,awful behaviour from family members including a narrowly avoided punch up.
My DH and I had a vow renewal on our 20th anniversary.
Not a pretend wedding: no white dress or anything! And neither of us had had an affair!
Just a celebrant saying some really nice things in front of kids, their partners and GC only.
We had cocktails and flowers and everyone dressed up. We had hired an original art Deco room in an old hotel.
I had proper photos taken which I hadn't had at my wedding.
We've faced a lot of tragedy and made it through still strong and loving each other. And the vow renewal was our way of showing each other how far we'd come since that crap wedding. And that we deserved a beautiful evening together really.

Not at all. We would have done it very differently had we not felt obligated to keep other people happy. I wasn’t all that bothered anyway, it’s been much more fun being married!

First wedding day was awesome and definitely ranks as one of the best in my life. The whole wedding was amazing, we felt surrounded by love and it was great.

Second wedding (same DH, mixed heritage, wedding ceremonies on two continents) was stressful, boring and anxious. I may also have been massively hungover 😵.

Your DP not wanting to get married now you have a child: utterly shit. He does not have your best interests at heart. Sorry.

No I got into a panic the day before thinking I hadn’t filled in a really important piece of paperwork and that the registrars wouldn’t turn up to the hotel. Couldn’t get hold of anyone as it was a public holiday. Didn’t sleep all night. Woke up still in a complete state. Registrar finally phoned an hour before the wedding to tell me everything was fine. By that point i was inconsolable! My hair went super frizzy and looked a mess. It was all super stressful!

My first Marriage was one heck of a Teenage mistake, and I was far too young and vunerable, and simply did as my Parents wanted. To them, sadly money was more important than love, and they made sure my Wedding was a real show off affair.

The wedding that my DH2 and I had was perfect, totally planned and funded by us, and was done for Love and we both felt very sure about it. We only invited a few people who were close Friends, and most of DHs small family, Brothers, Sisters and their partners. It was a Crisp winter's Day, we drove our own Car, married at 11am, then went for a meal with our Guests at a local Bistro style restaurant, where we were regular customers, and we had the place to ourselves.
Our Honeymoon night was spent in a Country house hotel and Spa. It snowed overnight, and we ate Breakfast watching the Rabbits playing on the Lawns, sipping complementry Champagne and Eating Chocolate dipped Strawberries.
We are still as happy today as we were then, and have no regrets regarding getting married both for the second time around.

No. I hated it. I couldn't sleep for days before hand and was too thin and just looked like a corpse. The best part of my wedding day was ordering a kebab to our hotel room because we were so hungry and didn't have time to eat all day and we just slept afterwards. I preferred that take away to my wedding day. Why do we take weddings so serious and make a huge fuss about it?

The best day of my life would be when giving birth to my gorgeous son with my husband beside me. No money could buy that happiness.

When someone I know has something important happening in there life I always try to be enthusiastic about it because I know it means a lot to them. When I think back on my wedding day I feel a little sad that everyone made such little effort for me.

I remember two of my former friends from school and university respectively had the most beautiful, picture perfect idyllic fairytale weddings ever and at the time feeling extremely sorry for myself as I was over 30 and still single (didn’t meet my wonderful DH until I was 37) and would have given anything to swap places with either one of them. Their photos were stunning. Vows and first dances beautiful. Both looked radiant.

It took many years before I saw on social media (in fact a year apart) on an awareness day that both of them were actually going through missed miscarriages on their wedding days. One had been waiting a while to finally miscarry and in the end, in such a cruel way, it happened as she was getting ready on the morning of her wedding. The other had found out three days before the wedding that there was no heartbeat and again was just waiting to miscarry. I genuinely don’t know how either of them put on the brave faces they did. I think I would have fell to pieces. For so many years I definitely would have assumed their wedding days were the best of their lives (until the eventual birth of their children) but for both of them they were one of the saddest. I’ll never assume again since then.

It's hard to say, but it was definitely up there. We were so young (21) and so happy, full of hope and plans.

Now we're old and still happy 😊.

I'm not sure. It was a great day. Lovely memories. Bring the dc home was more important. It's part of us but not the highlight of us.

No 🌺

No. Very stressful. I'm glad I did it (sizable wedding with people flying in from abroad etc etc) but never ever again.

I've never considered this before, but I'd say it was actually.
We had a small wedding -9 guests. Very low budget and was pregnant. We just had a really bloody lovely day. Went to our favourite pub for breakfast, then got cabs to the register office, got married, got cabs to London Eye and did that, walked along the Southbank and dropped into the Royal Festival Hall for drinks, got cabs to a Chinese restaurant for dinner, then back to our house for cake, before we decamped to the hotel up the road for drinks and then we watched tele in bed. It was very London, very foodie, and relaxed.
The next day we went to a spa hotel for the night and then had our first baby scan the following day - it was just a lively few days.
I always wondered if I would regret not having the big white wedding and whole shebang, but I never have. I'd do it all again, exactly the same - ebay wedding dress, ebay ring, no flowers, my brother took photos, did my own hair and make up, and only told our family a couple of weeks before and didn't tell friends till afterwards. I definitely think I would regret spending thousands on one day if we had done a traditional wedding.

Yes. It was big, but not brash. No dramas and perfect weather. I'd go back and do it again in a heartbeat.

Not least to see the guests who are no now longer with us.

Yes! I loved every minute!

I always thought our wedding day was our favourite day until our baby was born 🥰

I am divorced so no!

A lot of people say the day their children were born was, but mine wasn't, the actual birth was hideous so not a fond memory!