My mother is a problem binge drinker. The situation causes me alot of stress and the only way I'm able to have a relationship with her is by having firm boundaries in place, I do not have her at my home around my children when she's in drink. I've reaffirmed that blanket rule many times and it's non negotiable.
She was due to visit this afternoon but by 5pm I hadn't heard from her so assumed she'd be drinking and put her out of my mind.
8pm comes when I'm getting the children ready for bed and she arrives at the door, as pissed as a fart, slurring her words and has what looks like a bruise on her face (commonplace unfortunately, she's always falling over because she can't handle her drink)
My two small children came running over excitedly as they love their grandmother and have been shielded from this side of her until now. They've never seen her like that before.
She's pleading her case to come in and swears blind she's not drunk anymore because 'she's had a lucozade'
Her voice is getting louder and she's making a scene.
I keep repeating that she's not coming in and has to leave because she's going to upset the children and DH who was on his way home after dropping DSC back.
She puts her hand on the door to stop me closing it and carries on asking to come in.
I warned her that if she doesn't get off the property and go home then she'll not be welcome here again full stop.
She finally relents and leaves to go and catch the bus home, fortunately I have a bus stop directly opposite my house which drops her off one block away from home.
My eldest who's only 3 and has autism has been inconsolable ever since as he doesn't understand why grandma was behaving strangely and didn't come in to see him.
WIBU to send her home in that state? I'm fucking sick of this, I can't change her but I can only protect my children.