To think that all men watch porn even when in a sexually gratifying relationship ?

[pedestalpony]

Possibly done to death but do they or at least the majority and if so are you ok with it ?
No real back story but have reason to believe that my bf does now and again ... mainly through presumption of women he follows on Facebook ... first six pictures etc.
I know he also games with many men and women throughout the world through that platform so he has many' friends' from that..
He doesn't like or comment on the women's posts but they show up now and again on the six profile pics of his friends on Facebook .
Am I being a prude/ presumptuous / overthinking .

Definitely not deluded and no my dh doesn't. I don't think I'd be bothered if he did but we have a healthy sex life and he has ZERO free time.

[quote Pancake4life]@Meredithgrey1 because its such an obvious thing to say to try and look good and as not all porn is exploitative it doesn't even make sense[/quote]
Yeah but if a woman said they didn’t like to watch porn as they know how exploitative it can be, and when watching it you can’t easily avoid all exploitative stuff, you’d presumably believe them? But if a man has that same opinion, it’s automatically a lie?
Or maybe you wouldn’t believe women who say this either?

He has zero free time? So he never wanks, ever?

Because he does. Everybody does. People will find that time.

God this thread is so sad. All the porn apologists who can't believe that some men actually have a great sex life without wanking off to other women. That some men find porn ethically wrong. That some women actually know and trust their partners. What a low opinion you have of men.

No man is lying there using his imagination when he has his phone sitting next to him.
Some do, are they a very tiny minority yes but they do exist.

@Morgan12

Honest to God its laughable how gullible some you are.

They all watch it. Of course they do.

Why do you stoop to this level simply because you disagree with some posters? Calling them gullible and laughing?

If you truly believe what you are saying, present your side of the debate in a sensible manner. Otherwise your 'opinion' holds no worth.

I do wonder if the porn debate is indicative of intelligence or neediness sometimes. Woman are always tripping over themselves to be 'cool' and accepting of their partners using porn, belittling those of us who have standards/partners with standards.

Both DH and I have watched porn. Many years ago when it was a dusty VHS hidden in the back of the cupboard. Then the internet came about, the poem industry exploded with such a huge platform; but so did knowledge, information because so easily available. It wasn't difficult for us to read articles regarding the absolute dark side of that porn. The drugs, the trafficking, the abuse. So no, I can categorically say my DH (and me of course) no longer watch porn. We have a greater understanding of the implications now and we are better people than those who ignore such issues for the sake of a quick wank.

Please don't judge us all by your own poor standards. If you are not secure enough in your relationship to have an adult discussion about this or willing to end a relationship over it, that is absolutely lacking on your side.

Don't call me gullible for having knowledge.

Of my 5 LTR’s:

1st one no idea, can’t remember and it was before smart phones etc so perhaps not, but probably would have if he could easily have accessed it.

2nd one yes, and admitted it openly. (I wouldn’t tolerate this now but I was young and naive and didn’t have an ethical stance against porn at that time).

3rd one claimed not to at the the time but has since admitted to me he did.

4th one claimed he had looked at it occasionally before we got together when he was at a low ebb, but that he didn’t any more. I’m minded to believe him but can’t no for sure.

5th (and current) one - told me before I bought it up that he had an ethical stance against porn, so I assume he doesn’t look at it, but again, can’t know for sure. I tend to believe him tho.

So on the basis of this highly scientific and exhaustive survey - I would say most men do or have at some point in their life, but perhaps not all? The fact that it is so easily accessible now makes this much more likely. I’m sure a lot of men who would not have dreamt of going to the garage and purchasing a copy of Razzle, will type something into a search engine in a moment of boredom/curiosity.......

Yep I think nearly all men do. All guys I‘ve known are honest about it. I think a lot of men hide it from partners for sure !
Private browsing etc easy to do.
There should be more press about the exploitation and sinister side of porn. Would be a lot less enjoyable then to guys you’d hope

@Lovelydiscusfish

Of my 5 LTR’s:

1st one no idea, can’t remember and it was before smart phones etc so perhaps not, but probably would have if he could easily have accessed it.

2nd one yes, and admitted it openly. (I wouldn’t tolerate this now but I was young and naive and didn’t have an ethical stance against porn at that time).

3rd one claimed not to at the the time but has since admitted to me he did.

4th one claimed he had looked at it occasionally before we got together when he was at a low ebb, but that he didn’t any more. I’m minded to believe him but can’t no for sure.

5th (and current) one - told me before I bought it up that he had an ethical stance against porn, so I assume he doesn’t look at it, but again, can’t know for sure. I tend to believe him tho.

So on the basis of this highly scientific and exhaustive survey - I would say most men do or have at some point in their life, but perhaps not all? The fact that it is so easily accessible now makes this much more likely. I’m sure a lot of men who would not have dreamt of going to the garage and purchasing a copy of Razzle, will type something into a search engine in a moment of boredom/curiosity.......

Actually scratch that. The first one did (videos) and admitted it too.

Then the internet came about, the poem industry exploded with such a huge platform

I’m sorry but I love this typo. Imagine! The world would be a much better place if it were full of men busily writing verse to express their feelings rather than wanking off into their socks!

My DH does sometimes. It doesn't bother me, it has absolutely no impact on our sex life.

@LampsOn

Ha! I love how some people don't think their DH watches porn. They do. And no, it's not a big deal.

I used to think like this and was fine with it. However, actually reading about how many women were trafficked, abused and forced to do porn and these videos are not vetted by major porn channels really shocked me. How can anyone watch porn knowing that backstory is a possibility for the woman on screen. It changed my views hugely

@activitythree
Hear, hear!

@Lessthanaballpark

Then the internet came about, the poem industry exploded with such a huge platform

I’m sorry but I love this typo. Imagine! The world would be a much better place if it were full of men busily writing verse to express their feelings rather than wanking off into their socks!

@Justcashnosweets

My DH does sometimes. It doesn't bother me, it has absolutely no impact on our sex life.

Have you never considered the impact it has in the people involved? Or does this just not matter to you?

@Meredithgrey1 . people have specific search terms they like and use again and again so there won't be much sifting through genres they aren't into. If someone was into "real amature lovemaking uploaded by woman" to make themselves feel better - there will be plenty of videos that come up.

I'd argue that a reasonably high percentage of women do watch it, not as high as men but all studies ever produced show men use it at much higher % and that they lie about it. plus growing up its continuously talked about by boys in school. My teacher friends talk about how its watched frequently my the kids on phone now during the school day even.. and being part of WhatsApp chats with men over the years as a pp said, there are constant "funny" porn video clips that get send around to eachother.
page 3 and lads mags outsell anything created for women etcetera

(for studies use Google before anyone asks to link..there's so many out there)

I watch porn on my own, DP knows this and knows how open I am with it all, but says he doesn't anymore. Think it ties in with him not enjoying wanking much and would rather wait for sex. He did when younger.

@activitythree
Very well said

These threads end up so smeary and unpleasant.

“Oh, those who think their man doesn’t watch it are deluded/gullible/it’s laughable that these poor women don’t have a clue/choose to be blind to what their man does/no man can be trusted/any man who says they don’t watch porn is lying.”

It’s pathetic, and says far more about you than it does about the people you’re smearing at.

Clearly some posters have a low opinion of men. Just because your dh’s watch it, don’t judge everyone by their standards.

I think there is probably an age divide. Internet porn is 'normal' for most men under 40/45, but not necessarily so for older men.

That is my unscientific guess. I think (sadly) that younger men have a more normalised view of the sexual exploitation of women, while simultaneously claiming to respect/love women.

@Morgan12

Honest to God its laughable how gullible some you are.

They all watch it. Of course they do.

An ex of mine used to work for the internet watch foundation, which works to take down images of child sexual abuse online, and at the time he worked there also looked at criminal adult sexual images/videos (I think this element is no longer in their remit).

Hopefully you can’t even imagine the kind of things he is aware of because of his work there, but I’m sure you can imagine how it might totally turn you off the porn industry. So, I am totally sure that he never watched it.

I suggest you change your social circle OP. Most men may have seen a bit of porn at some stage in their lives but only scum make a habit of watching it themselves.

@mrssunshinexxx

Definitely not deluded and no my dh doesn't. I don't think I'd be bothered if he did but we have a healthy sex life and he has ZERO free time.

What about when he’s in the bathroom? It’s also nothing to do with how healthy your sex life is , it’s a different type of stimulation - self stimulation/fantasy.

Yes OP! My mate says her husband doesn’t and I totally think she’s wrong. Of course they do!

What about when he’s in the bathroom?
None of us take phones into the bathroom- yuck!