To think that all men watch porn even when in a sexually gratifying relationship ?

[pedestalpony]

Possibly done to death but do they or at least the majority and if so are you ok with it ?
No real back story but have reason to believe that my bf does now and again ... mainly through presumption of women he follows on Facebook ... first six pictures etc.
I know he also games with many men and women throughout the world through that platform so he has many' friends' from that..
He doesn't like or comment on the women's posts but they show up now and again on the six profile pics of his friends on Facebook .
Am I being a prude/ presumptuous / overthinking .

Porn is not just a "male" thing. I probably watch more porn than my husband, and we have a perfectly satisfying sex life. As a matter of fact porn has spiced up our sex life over the years and has played a major part in enhancing fore play. The number of female porn producers is growing quite substantially. And sites such as P-Hub and Hamster X have opened the doors for couples to start their own channels and generate extra income.

@mumoftinyterrors

Sitting here with my OH. He just said every bloke watches porn whether or not they admit it to you. Sorry to burst your bubble.

I'm sorry you didn't manage to find a man with an iota of intelligence. Better luck next time hun

@VaryCherry

Porn is not just a "male" thing. I probably watch more porn than my husband,

And how do you feel about the abuse? The drugs? The rape? The exploitation?

What are you on about first 6 pics??

I watch it , oh does ... don't see the issue .

Don't lecture me about SW . Already well informed on that issue and choose sources wisely .

Well, we stick to Amateure porn/AKA Home Made.

We don't do drugs, I've never been abused by him, and I've never been raped. I don't support such behaviors in porn.

How do you verify that those in homemade porn consented for the video to be online (or even that the sex was consensual)?

We don't do drugs, I've never been abused by him, and I've never been raped. I don't support such behaviors in porn.

Huh?

Sea12

its amazing that of the small % of men that DONT watch porn all seem to be dating / married to women on mumsnet

This!

@VaryCherry

Ah, I got deleted

You have missed the mark here by a mile.

I wasn't asking about you

Tbh I'm not sure why I was deleted because your post was ignorant and self absorbed, which is all I said.

Ignorant:

adjective

lacking knowledge or awareness in general; uneducated or unsophisticated.

Self absorbed:

adjective
1 preoccupied with one's own feelings, interests, or situation.

You can never say ' all men', but as a man I'm smiling at the number of naive posters saying 'My DH doesn't '.

Incognito browsing and phones mean it's available instantly, history can be deleted etc

Seriously I would imagine high 90%'s of men watch porn.

Well in my case ............it is.

Well, I guess the admins or moderators of this page judged against your response. That's my guess....and rightly so from what I can tell.

No, not all. I had an ex who was obsessed with it, one that couldn't get past the 'fakeness' of it (but was turned on by sex scenes in context in films) and one who hated it. I couldn't care less about whether they watch it or not so I don't think they were lying to me.

You can never say ' all men', but as a man I'm smiling at the number of naive posters saying 'My DH doesn't '.

This.

@VaryCherry

Porn is not just a "male" thing. I probably watch more porn than my husband, and we have a perfectly satisfying sex life. As a matter of fact porn has spiced up our sex life over the years and has played a major part in enhancing fore play. The number of female porn producers is growing quite substantially. And sites such as P-Hub and Hamster X have opened the doors for couples to start their own channels and generate extra income.

www.traffickinghubpetition.com/

I hope that you aren’t watching someone being abused. How do you know? Plenty of women are abused in relationships too. How do you know the couple videos are consensual and the woman or man isn’t been gaslighted or abused by the other person?
I will never watch it again knowing this has zero policing or any attempt at protecting vulnerable people being abused.

So definitely not all men

But definitely the husbands of the handful of women on here saying their husbands don’t currently watch porn

Gotcha

And any woman, on this thread, saying their husband doesnt is laughable and naive...lacking in wisdom, judgment and experience

The level of logic is just ludicrous 😀

@VaryCherry

Well, I guess the admins or moderators of this page judged against your response. That's my guess....and rightly so from what I can tell.

You didn't answer the question though. Still.

You think my comment was rightly deleted but all I did was point out that you took a reasonable question regarding the suffering in the poem industry and turned it round to be about you.

I wasn't asking if you had been raped. I was asking how you felt viewing porn knowing that rape etc is rife across that industry.

So you your response was absolutely self absorbed, and ignorant because you obviously don't have a clue about the awful things that happen. Perhaps you should find out.

@Baws

Sea12

its amazing that of the small % of men that DONT watch porn all seem to be dating / married to women on mumsnet

This!

^

I'm sure there are some whose wives are not on mumsnet, but the sample taken for this discussion has been from mumsnet, so obviously the data given will be 'wives on mumsnet'

Not sure when dh would be doing so tbh though. We have one TV in the living room. Only time he watches it when I'm not there would be for sport. He is rarely in the house in his own tbh. He watches stuff on his iPad but next to me in the sofa usually. Only laptop he has is a work one and it isn't allowed, and a lot of stuff is filtered out.

Guess he could be sat in his car in work hours watching in his phone but it's very unlikely.

Everything I know of dh would suggest he just isn't interested in watching it. If he's watching anything on a screen it would be sport or a drama.

Just like I'm not interested in watching porn, I don't think all men are.

I just can’t work out why we are being asked to accept that it is literally impossible for a man to have a hard moral boundary which he sticks too. Do all men who claim to be vegan actually secretly gorge on bacon sandwiches, too?

To be honest I would find it easier to believe that my partner sleeps around behind my back than that he uses porn (obviously I hope he does neither). Because, while not actively pro-cheating, he has expressed the moral view that there are circumstances in which it could be understandable. Whereas he does not appear to think this about the exploitation of women in the porn industry.

Of course he could be lying, anybody could, about anything. But I don’t know why, just because he is a man, I HAVE to take it as read that he is making up moral standpoints he doesn’t actually hold, just for a laugh....

To be honest I would find it easier to believe that my partner sleeps around behind my back than that he uses porn

Wow really? God I wouldn't. To me, physically sleeping around would be an emotional betrayal as well as a sexual one. I couldn't even remotely compare these two situations.

@LucieStar

To be honest I would find it easier to believe that my partner sleeps around behind my back than that he uses porn

Wow really? God I wouldn't. To me, physically sleeping around would be an emotional betrayal as well as a sexual one. I couldn't even remotely compare these two situations.

I’m not saying I wouldn’t be more hurt if he was cheating - I think I would, as he would potentially be putting my sexual health at risk, apart from anything else....

I just find it more plausible, if I am going on what he says (and what else can I go on) because from what he says he doesn’t find cheating AS morally repugnant as he finds the exploitation of women in porn.

I mean, I obviously very much hope he is doing neither.....

@Lovelydiscusfish

Oh I see what you mean now. I thought you were saying you'd be less hurt by him cheating, but you're saying it would be a more plausible scenario for him. Sorry - misunderstood.