To think that all men watch porn even when in a sexually gratifying relationship ?

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Possibly done to death but do they or at least the majority and if so are you ok with it ?
No real back story but have reason to believe that my bf does now and again ... mainly through presumption of women he follows on Facebook ... first six pictures etc.
I know he also games with many men and women throughout the world through that platform so he has many' friends' from that..
He doesn't like or comment on the women's posts but they show up now and again on the six profile pics of his friends on Facebook .
Am I being a prude/ presumptuous / overthinking .

Most Sun readers would probably bring back the death penalty.

I am genuinely sorry that you believe this. I would find it very hard not being able to trust my husband to be honest with me.

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Please actually read. There's no need for MY partner to lie because I don't have an issue with it. There's no trust issues to speak of because there's no REASON to lie

YOU would be surprised at the amount of partners who try and hide this anyway— even though their partners are in some cases more annoyed by the lying and secrecy than what it is they are actually up to— I think they know it’s ‘off ‘ and are embarrassed , so hide it anyway— I know what pissed me off more is discussions we had (when he didnt know that I knew) casually about the ethics of it, a definite support of women on his part and yet the minute I was out the door, lesbian hard core stuff virtually every morning. I found out totally by chance, I had always had open dns on my router when our teen son was at home —never really thought about it— accidentally saw something very iffy on husbands iPad one day after son had left home- started actually looking at stats as to what was going through our router and was gobsmacked. I’m not actually anti occasional use- I am very anti it being used like brushing your teeth by a pretty ‘right on’ husband. So what I say is ‘never say never’ ladies. I would 100% have said that he wasn’t interested

My DH definitely doesn’t hide the fact that he’s watching it, I know 100% that he doesn’t. I do watch porn, and he knows I do. I don’t hide it!

@yetmorecrap I had a similar experience. 3 years ago I would have said my DH definitely 100% didn't watch. He didn't believe in it, didn't have the time, very anti-porn, very feminist and open and honest. How. Wrong. Was. I.

A lot do yes but not all. I dont see how anyone can possibly say all men do. You can't possibly know that.

Dp doesnt. Has when he was younger but not now. Thinks it's just all a bit crap. Seen one, seen them all sort of thing. I've got a higher sex drive and I dont watch it anymore.

What I'm not seeing much of on this thread is much recognition that some men aren't turned on by porn - not for moral reasons, but because they're just not, just like some people don't like coffee.

I quite enjoy taking a dump. That doesn't mean I enjoy watching other people take a dump.

Also, this idea that if you put a group of men together they all start swapping porn and discussing it. Nope- not in my experience, ever.

I watch porn probably twice a month so therefore it would be entirely wrong of me to expect my Husband not to.

I don't think it's fair to group 50% of the population together and make a generalised assumption.

All we really know is that lots of people watch porn, a minority of people are addicted to it and some watch porn which is illegal.

I think it is insulting to suggest that a man could decide not to watch porn because he objects on an ethical level, as though he's helpless to resist because he's a man.

I'd say the majority of men (and also a lot of women) do watch porn but to varying extents.

Personally I don't think it's an issue and/or disrespectful UNLESS he is choosing that in place of the real deal, e.g. watching porn daily but no interest in sleeping with you. Most guys know it's complete fantasy....

I've been in some relationships when I was younger when this really upset me as it made me feel insecure/jealous/not good enough. However, when I'm secure in a relationship and DP watches when I'm not around/too tried/busy etc I don't bother.

I don't really believe guys who flat out deny it 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Drunkenmonkey. Yep- what actually annoyed me most was the totally not being upfront , at least that way I could decide if I actually wanted to be in a relationship with someone who thought cracking off to it 5 times a week was fine and not have chats where I thought quite naturally we were on the same page

DH does and I have no problem with it. I watch it too. Most of my (female) friends also watch porn.

I'm I. A sexually gratifying relationship with a man and I am a woman and I occasionally ally watch porn

What about the ones with an obsessive boring hobby... like collecting vehicle parts or model railways, painting tiny soldiers or reading magazines like classic tractor... I really can’t imagine those kind of men being bothered with porn.

I'd rather be in a relationship with a man who read Classic Tractor than one who used porn! Although there probably is tractor porn..so maybe one doesn't preclude the other....

Well if dp does I have no idea when he would. We're together pretty much 100% of the time just now (unless he's secretly popping out to watch some when he says he's going for a run...)

My DH doesn't. I was quite surprised to find this out as I know my dad and my DB watch porn so I assumed it was commonplace. It just doesn't interest DH at all.

I really do think my dh is the boring hobby no porn brigade. He was even embarrassed about the “materials” available when we had to have fertility tests.

My DH does. And I know he does. But I wouldn’t care if he didn’t tell me - I don’t feel like he has to share EVERYTHING with me.
I watch it sometimes too.

@Ginmakesitallok

Well if dp does I have no idea when he would. We're together pretty much 100% of the time just now (unless he's secretly popping out to watch some when he says he's going for a run...)

How can that be possible??

Me to my DH after reading this thread.

I think that a lot of men do not watch porn as they recognise it as sexual exploitation and it turns them off. Not on. Decent men do exist, you know.

@NormanStangerson

Not all of them, but probably most of them, despite what they tell their life partners.

This

@Fimofriend

I think that a lot of men do not watch porn as they recognise it as sexual exploitation and it turns them off. Not on. Decent men do exist, you know.

100% this

@Pancake4life

also if u have access to your partners phone and Internet use and scan it enough to be "sure" they don't watch porn -you have serious issues beyond porn use..

This is an interesting point

I wonder if people are sure their partners don’t watch porn because they control their partners enough to know this information. How else would one be sure? ‘Definitely doesn’t ‘ because you definitely keep a tab on his internet history.

Otherwise how else would you know?