To think that all men watch porn even when in a sexually gratifying relationship ?

[pedestalpony]

Possibly done to death but do they or at least the majority and if so are you ok with it ?
No real back story but have reason to believe that my bf does now and again ... mainly through presumption of women he follows on Facebook ... first six pictures etc.
I know he also games with many men and women throughout the world through that platform so he has many' friends' from that..
He doesn't like or comment on the women's posts but they show up now and again on the six profile pics of his friends on Facebook .
Am I being a prude/ presumptuous / overthinking .

@Pancake4life

Ahah, a doormat! How funny the immaturity is screaming at me this morning.

I'm glad that you are okay with porn and of course I wouldn't berate you for it, unlike you seem to be so quick to do with me because my views are different to yours.
The only reason I say you seem to have issues around men is because you stereotype every single man in the world which is ridiculous!

My DH doesn’t watch porn, he has never used porn.

@Flowers24

activity three - provide your statistics on the opposite as well and i will also look forward to your balanced argument.

Also, just to add to this, if you read upthread you will see I have already posted my 'balanced argument'

Anyone who has a partner under 45 who thinks he doesn't watch porn. Tell him something is "simply lovely" if he smirks then like nearly all men under 45 he and his mates share porn videos

I don't know what simply lovely means but there is absolutely no chance my DH and his mates share porn videos. Hell would freeze over before they did. That's not normal behaviour at all, am in a parallel universe?

@SwimmingInToys

Anyone who has a partner under 45 who thinks he doesn't watch porn. Tell him something is "simply lovely" if he smirks then like nearly all men under 45 he and his mates share porn videos

I don't know what simply lovely means but there is absolutely no chance my DH and his mates share porn videos. Hell would freeze over before they did. That's not normal behaviour at all, am in a parallel universe?

Slip it into conversation see if he smirks. You might be surprised

so funny people claiming to know exactly what everyone's partners get up to

At the end of the day there will never be an agreement because the people who claim every man watches porn will never respect that we know our partners better than they do

Rape and human trafficking? Never seen that sort of porn and obviously goes without saying i would not

How would you know?

Sorry, sharing videos between mates? I can’t categorically say that doesn’t happen with DH and his mates. I really don’t think that’s normal either. Perhaps me mix in different social circles?!

Rape and human trafficking? Never seen that sort of porn and obviously goes without saying i would not !! We used to watch the ones where the plumber comes to visit lol, just light hearted sex stuff, women and men that have chosen to do this, cant see what is wring with that.
Have you been living under a rock? The internal injuries female actors are left with moved back on forth with a cock in their mouth and arse.
Hours of filming for little money and no respect.
Take your head out of the cloud and do some research.

@Emeraldshamrock

This.

*i CAN categorically say

I meant to say I do know that he doesn’t watch porn or share videos with friends.

One of the biggest 'porn is abuse', shout-about-feminism type of man I know had his girlfriend leave him because he was addicted to pretty hardcore BDSM porn. So I don't believe the men who say they find it morally wrong.

Whilst I don’t think every single man watches porn I think the vast majority do. I also think a lot of the women in the ‘my dh doesn’t’ camp are being a bit naive. How would you know for certain? It’s so easily accessible and you can clear your internet history and view in private browsing.

My DH doesn’t. However I know that because we’ve had issues in the past regarding porn which we’ve worked through in therapy so at the moment the WiFi and his phone have blocks for over 18 content on them so he has no way of accessing porn. Obviously he could try and access it other ways but I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t as he’d have to go out of the house to buy it/hide it somewhere and he’s either always at work or home.

@therocinante

That is one man out of the how many in the world?

And porn involving rape and human trafficking is unlikely to be sold to you as such, because you wouldn’t click on it an make the massive sites money.

By some estimates, 4.8 million people are trapped or forced into sexual exploitation globally. (International Labor Organization)
– Sex trafficking is big business—it generates $99 billion annually, just from commercial sexual exploitation alone. (International Labor Organization)
– In one survey, 63% of underage sex trafficking victims said they had been advertised or sold online. (Thorn)
– According to anti-trafficking nonprofit, Rescue:Freedom, in 9 countries, 49% of sexually exploited women said that pornography was made of them while they were being sold for sex.
fightthenewdrug.org/by-the-numbers-porn-sex-trafficking-connected/

@therocinante are we saying men aren’t capable of moral fibre? They can’t make their own decisions? Based upon experience of one other man? Wtf

The scary part is the easy access for young impressionable teenagers.

I won't be.

I had to explain to him recently what Only Fans was as he'd never heard of it.

The absolute insistence that all men watch porn is just a way to normalise and justify the behaviour. He got a bit rough, but boys will be boys! He pinched my bum, classic male boss! Of course he watches porn, he's a bloke!

No thanks.

For the women who are against porn for Schrödinger's abuse reasons, would you be more comfortable if your partner's paid a woman on OnlyFans directly for her self-produced content?

I think having a debate about how we make porn less easily accessible to youngsters is a good place to start. Teens with impressionable minds should not be freely accessing porn in my opinion. However, accusing the entire male population of watching porn is ridiculous. Lots of men do, I’m sure. Not all men watch porn - let’s not pretend all men are the same, they aren’t.

without scrolling back through every post has anyone actually said all men do? I think everyone has only said most do

I know my DP does, as do I from time to time.
I would only watch it via a certain website where you know that the person is consenting/profits fairly from their work - it rhymes with lonelyflans & you pay a subscription.. I have requested that he do the same as I would wholeheartedly rather he subscribed to someone than potentially aiding in supporting the big sites that are notoriously problematic for lack of consent and trafficking. I don’t consider it inherently cheating, nor disrespectful to women.

I honestly don’t think that in a secure relationship porn is a problem in itself. It only becomes that way when it fuels an addiction, or starts replacing sex/distorting your idea of what sex is but that’s not inevitable.

And to answer your question OP, I do think most men probably do yes. The vast majority of my male friends and friends partners all do. The only ones that say they don’t are the men who are with friends of mine that are very insecure and controlling regarding it - so I suspect them of bending the truth somewhat.

I just do not believe you can ever stop a person (man or woman!) from doing something that they don’t deem as harmful, in their own home, when you can’t catch them doing it - no matter what you try to say to persuade. I know I would just do it in secret if my partner had something to say, because I’m entitled to explore my own sexuality and he isn’t the thought police - flame me if you wish!

Its a difficult question to answer unless the parameters are clear

I think some posters are coming at the question in a completely different way than others, so there is an element of confusion

Has my husband watched porn...yes

Does he watch porn now....no

Do I include someone showing him something on their phone cos they think its funny....no

“And to answer your question OP, I do think most men probably do yes. The vast majority of my male friends and friends partners all do. The only ones that say they don’t are the men who are with friends of mine that are very insecure and controlling regarding it - so I suspect them of bending the truth somewhat.”

Good Lord.