Friend keeps pretending about buying gift

[hellomom]

I just want to know if am being U being annoyed at this particular person, she has form for doing this a lot, prior to Xmas and birthdays, she'll send countless mssgs about what she's buying for me, can't wait to surprise me with a particular gift that I will truly love, even before I gave birth, went on and on about the things she is buying for my baby. Yet nothing was given.
I just had my birthday few days ago, prior to birthday she mssgd saying she can't wait for me to get my present, she finally has Amazon prime so can't wait to send something for my birthday.

Am not a child so really am not fussed about getting gifts, I really wouldn't care if she didn't give me a gift, although I have given her many gifts over the years, including a Pandora bracelet for Xmas being the most recent. Obvs I got nothing. But it's fine.

Anyways for my birthday she didn't send a present like she said she would when she couldn't stop going on about it, btw am not saying to her anything in regards to my birthday, or anything about any expectation from anyone in regards to gifts.
Am just really annoyed that she keeps essentially lying to me when there is no need! She wished me happy birthday dot on 12am, on our group chat, I then received gifts on the day via post from other members in our group chat, I thanked them on the group. She went very quiet and stopped mssging on the group.
Oh and before anyone wonders no one on the group mentioned my birthday or gifts prior to my actual birthday.

I feel like getting petty with her when it comes to her birthday and see how she feels!
Honestly there's just no need, don't lie! She's always done this and it's just extremely annoying and weird!!

I hope she notices your pretty jewel 😘

Maybe your gifts make her feel embarrass because you are so generous and she has financial difficulties so she lies in the moment. These are annoying lies, but probably well intentioned. I would buy smaller, less expensive token gifts and she may then reciprocate. Gift giving is hard because there are so many different approaches and feelings toward it. I am not excusing her—it is so silly. But if you have given gifts because you like her and you give because you want to, just let it go in one ear and out the other. I am sorry.

I personally couldn't continue with the friendship. Friendships are meant to enrich your life, it sounds like this one is toxic to your group.

I would ask her about her bullshit as l can't bear liar's and would back away from the "friendship".

I used to religiously buy presents for a friend's 5 children for christmas and birthdays. My own (1) child got nothing, but knew nothing different so it wasn't an issue. She then started telling my child she had got her a present etc etc but then obviously it never materialised, which confused/upset my child so At that point I said nothing but stopped buying for her children.
I'd do the same. Stop buying for her!

She's one of life's Takers. 🌺