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My new neighbour is a convicted murderer

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murdernextdoor · 14/03/2021 19:56

Have recently found out from another neighbour further up the street that my new next door neighbour has spent 4 years in prison for man slaughter of another man. I was sceptical so I googled his name. I saw all the newspaper articles about him. He had a fight and killed another man.
Don't know the reasons for the fight but I can't help but wonder if it was one of those cases of a one punch kill. Or maybe he stamped his head?

I am horrified that this man lives next to me. I now don't want my children to mix with his children anymore. I know some will say he's done his time, but imagine if it was your son he killed? It makes me sick to my stomach.

Should someone have notified us in some way about him moving there? Or maybe not as he's done his time and isn't a sex offender.

AIBU or would you be horrified as well? AIBU to tell my children to stay away from the house altogether. (I know it's covid now but I'm thinking in the future)

OP posts:
user1471447863 · 14/03/2021 21:34

@murdernextdoor Do you know the full history of all of your neighbours? Do you know which one is the drug dealer? The prostitute? The wife beater? The sex offender? etc?
You know about this guy, the ones you don't know about and are happy being besties with could be worse than him.

KarmaStar · 14/03/2021 21:34

For goodness sake! Don't take it out on the children.that's punishing them for what happened in an incident you know nothing about except what you've read online.How can you judge someone like this?
People can find themselves in all sorts of situations that drastically change their lives.
So,get off your moral high horse and leave the children and your neighbour alone.don't go spreading gossip.spare a thought for his family who have probably suffered themselves.
Unbelievable attitude.Angry

1stTimeMama · 14/03/2021 21:35

My BIL is a convicted, life-term serving murderer. If he moved in up the road, I'd be concerned.
Accidents happen during fights, so I'm not sure I'd jump to any wild conclusions about this man and his children shouldn't be left out because of something their dad did.

georgarina · 14/03/2021 21:35

Erm yeah I would stay away from anyone who has a temper and killed someone. Scary and you never know when he might fly off the handle. Wouldn't get too close and would keep an eye on his kids to make sure they're doing alright.

Loving all the people acting outraged when they don't have to deal with it, lol.

Flowers24 · 14/03/2021 21:37

You have an unbelievable attitude saying they have probably suffered too, oh dear what a shame, must be awful for them. Personally I feel more for the persons family of the one he killed.

NiceTwin · 14/03/2021 21:37

The father of my dd's best friend and to prison after stabbing a man in the heart, it is only by the grace of God the guy didn't die.

His dd is lovely and a good friend to my dd. Her father doesn't worry me in the slightest. He is married, has more kids and a couple of businesses. If you hadn't been told, you'd never guess his past.

I would hazard a guess that your neighbour will cause you no harm and it seems a shame to punish his kids for his crime.

lljkk · 14/03/2021 21:38

So what are YOU going to do, OP?

Create bad feeling by telling your kids to shun his and encourage others to do the same? Gee, that will make his kids into great people, won't it. Will you Confront him, rally the neighbours to hound him out, up and move yourself? What is Your Plan?

RoseRedRoseBlue · 14/03/2021 21:40

@georgarina I have lived in very close proximity to people who have committed violent or sexual crimes. It didn’t concern me as I knew they were being monitored to a high and rigorous standard.

Flowers24 · 14/03/2021 21:40

Maybe report it and see if he can be moved?

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 14/03/2021 21:42

@Flowers24

Maybe report it and see if he can be moved?
Report what? Moved where? He lives with his partner, in her house and with their kids.
SquirtleSquad · 14/03/2021 21:42

There are plenty of instances of people being killed from a single punch.. two in Bournemouth alone in just 6 years

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-england-dorset-56212129

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/uk-news/2014/feb/26/bournemouth-man-jailed-kill-punch

beyondtheshoe · 14/03/2021 21:43

I have been practicing martial arts for a long time. We tried to teach our kids to WALK AWAY.

It terrifies me that one would be put into such a position he could not walk away. All it would take is a good hit, and someone smashing their head on a corner or a kerb. Just one hit.

So no, I don't find it that easy to paint it in black and white and decide it must be a nasty violent man who deserves to be thrown in a dungeon.

Blaming and punishing his children? Now that's just vile.

Flowers24 · 14/03/2021 21:44

Somewhere where no one else has to live in fear next to them?

beyondtheshoe · 14/03/2021 21:46

I find a conviction as a sex offender harder to deal with. You don't sexually assault someone by accident, in self-defence or by mistake. So that's something a lot harder not to be uncomfortable with.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 14/03/2021 21:49

so you want to bring back hanging, but not just for murder, manslaughter too?
Or just life imprisonment?
Or release is OK as long as he doesn't live next door to you?

Gobbycop · 14/03/2021 21:53

Why have you titled this thread in this way, for the drama?

There's a massive difference between manslaughter and murder, massive.

Cassilis · 14/03/2021 21:56

[quote RoseRedRoseBlue]@Cassilis the difference between murder and manslaughter has bene highlighted several times on this thread.[/quote]
Tbf, OP herself refers to it as manslaughter in her OP.

And given many men have got off lightly with a manslaughter conviction (like the Natalie Connelly case), I can see why some may view a manslaughter verdict with suspicion.

Flowers24 · 14/03/2021 21:57

Agree the title is very wrong, read up on law first.

Flowers24 · 14/03/2021 21:59

I wouldnt let my children play at his house either, sorry what do people expect? to welcome them with open arms?

Nicknacky · 14/03/2021 21:59

@Flowers24 If he owns his own home, how do you expect him to be moved?

And report what and to who, exactly?

Flowers24 · 14/03/2021 22:00

Dont know but any sign of trouble , report it

RoseRedRoseBlue · 14/03/2021 22:00

@Gobbycop

Why have you titled this thread in this way, for the drama?

There's a massive difference between manslaughter and murder, massive.

@Cassilis Gobbycop sums it up perfectly.
Flowers24 · 14/03/2021 22:02

Murder grabs the attention more, maybe OP said the wrong crime on purpose?

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 14/03/2021 22:02

@Cassilis she also made it sound as if the neighbour randomly gave her the info and how she was "skeptical" at first. Then she says this.

Perhaps other neighbour shouldn't have told me all of this, but it came from me asking her about him as I felt he was weird or something. Gave me a weird feeling. Turns out I was right. Something was off about him.

Also there's one manslaughter mention while the title and her name have murder. Plus repeated references to kill,killed etc.

The emotive language and attempts to manipulate opinion bother me significantly.

RoseRedRoseBlue · 14/03/2021 22:04

@Flowers24 if that has happened, it is both childish and disingenuous.

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