To feed my 1 year old outside

[Dandylioness1]

My son is 13 months old.

I met my friend for a walk in the park this morning.

Her daughter is 2 years old.

We’d been walking a while and my son started to become unsettled and was asking for “boob boob”

I told my friend I’d stop at the next bench and let him have some milk.

She seemed mortified by this idea. She asked me if I could give him some water instead and that he was too old for me to be feeding him in public.

I told her I would be discreet about it but she said it was just about being discreet and that it’s also an issue that he’s 13 months and doesn’t need breastmilk, she said I should offer him water or a snack instead.

I ignored what she said I found a place to sit and let my son have some milk.

It’s made me feel pretty bad now and as a first time mum (who’s spent my sons first year in a global pandemic and lockdowns) i feel like I’m doing it all wrong. 🙁

AIBU to feed him on demand at this age?

[quote Goldengladrags]@FloconDeNeige What is it you think OP did? Why do you feel so strongly about it either way?

Even if OP did start it (and I really don't believe she did) with bad intentions why are you continuing to engage with the thread at all if you don't buy a word that is being said?[/quote]
Because I don’t know if it has escaped your attention but you can post on threads to disagree in AIBU, as well as to agree.

The WHO recommends breast milk until two. Nothing wrong with what you are doing or the age of your child breast feeding. Ignore your friend sounds like your doing a brilliant job.

[quote Goldengladrags]@Wondermule Pretty much every post you put on here.

And you've repeated yourself for nearly 28 pages, despite saying right at the beginning that you were leaving the thread.

It's the equivalent to storming off and slamming the door, then storming back in 20 plus times.

Are you an attention seeker in real life too?[/quote]
Yes very much so. Probably why I’m so bored in lockdown!

@Goldengladrags

What business is it of yours? Don’t you understand how public fora work?

@Wondermule oh. Hello again - I see you are also Flocons spokesperson, as well as the leading expert in breastfeeding benefits and passive agressive put downs of women.

[quote Goldengladrags]@Wondermule oh. Hello again - I see you are also Flocons spokesperson, as well as the leading expert in breastfeeding benefits and passive agressive put downs of women.[/quote]
Crikey. A lot of project going on here.

projection*

However- these threads often turn into a BF/FF debate which is a shame. I think people feel so strongly about baby feeding that its easy for people to get upset either way.

It Is shame, the thing is I’ve been open on my post that formula was a part of our breastfeeding journey for 3 months, that should surely show other posters that I’m not here to bash formula
or gloat about breastfeeding.

My issue was about being made to feel bad for giving my son milk, when he asked for it, in public.

If my son was 8 months old, the responses would’ve been different.

The amount of urgh’ / 🤢 / 🙄 all because he’s 4 weeks past the “milk before food” age.

Well I said YANBU to feed in the park but YABU to use the term ‘breastfeeding journey’ so many times 😂

If my son was 8 months old, the responses would’ve been different.

The amount of urgh’ / 🤢 / 🙄 all because he’s 4 weeks past the “milk before food” age.

Well now you know. You asked for opinions and you got them. They didn’t all agree with yours, but hey, that’s part of the rich tapestry of life isn’t it?

@Wondermule

Well I said YANBU to feed in the park but YABU to use the term ‘breastfeeding journey’ so many times 😂

www.medela.co.uk/breastfeeding/mums-journey

What’s this? If you mutter ‘breastfeeding journey’ every five minutes there is a health benefit to that as well?

@FloconDeNeige I'm just curious why you're so angry about it yet continue to engage with someone who you have said has come on here with bad intentions.

Just a bit weird really, especially when you presumably got a feel for what the thread was about from the first page but yes you're right, your intentions are none of my business (even though OPs are apparently very much so yours)

@Wondermule

What’s this? If you mutter ‘breastfeeding journey’ every five minutes there is a health benefit to that as well?

Oh, but you’re not being unpleasant! And you say OP’s the one doing the wide eyed innocent act.

You are right. She is wrong.

Your baby is lucky to have you as a Mummy.

Don't change for other people.

[quote Goldengladrags]@FloconDeNeige I'm just curious why you're so angry about it yet continue to engage with someone who you have said has come on here with bad intentions.

Just a bit weird really, especially when you presumably got a feel for what the thread was about from the first page but yes you're right, your intentions are none of my business (even though OPs are apparently very much so yours)[/quote]
Spot on. Bizarre behaviour.

@Goldengladrags

So you’re bothered about why you think I’m bothered about the OPs intentions? Righto.

@12345ct

Your friend was right he didn't need milk that urgent that you had to stop on a bench.

how do you know?

He was hungry.
I assume that Op didn't have packed lunch with her.

Oh wait, she didn't need to - she had her boobs!

Bread, just trying to lighten the atmosphere with a joke! Some humour bypasses going on here...

How awful! I haven’t read the whole thread OP but my 19 month old often has milk on our walks.
I think, often, people who haven’t breastfed see it as a just a hunger thing but it’s not at all is it! Reassurance, closeness etc and yeah sometimes a nice warm drink!
I wouldn’t pay any mind, you carry on and if it helps my 19 month old is in 2-3 or 3-4 clothing so looks like he’s well past the milk stage...

@Wondermule

Bread, just trying to lighten the atmosphere with a joke! Some humour bypasses going on here...

@Wondermule

Lighten the atmosphere, you mean the one the one that you have created.

You have posted more times than any other poster, none of your posts are helpful or even factual.

Devil’s Advocate. 100%

@Wondermule

Bread, just trying to lighten the atmosphere with a joke! Some humour bypasses going on here...

You didn’t think that was humorous, you were just being horrible (again). Like the six year olds who usually use this line.

@FloconDeNeige Not particularly, I just asked you what it was you thought OP had done.

Good for you.
It's not just the risk to the child of not being breastfed that is recognised in the WHO guidelines to continue to 2 years and beyond, they also state how many women have died from illnesses such as breast and ovarian cancer because they didn't breastfeed their children.

@Dandylioness1 helpful or even factual?! I’m the one encouraging people to use actual proper statistics rather than vaguely alluding to overstated benefits to claim superiority. Motherhood isn’t a competition, nobody will be waiting for your with a trophy. There are no prizes, and hardly anyone cares what you do.

I will bow out as I have clearly ruined the ‘narrative’ of your thread being an innocent plea for bfing support and will leave you in the company of other who are also expecting breast milk immortality.

You take care OP and enjoy the baby clubs when things open back up xx