Why do people need to show off gifts on Facebook?

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I don’t get it. Lovely seeing photos of people with Mums, messages etc. But why brag ‘I’ve been spoilt with my many presents’ then post photos of them? It just screams ‘Look at me!’ which I know Facebook is all about that but come on, it’s so needy!

YABU-people should put photos of their presents
YANBU-there’s no need to post photos of your presents

Why do people get so bothered about what other people post on social media?

If it's something home made, I love seeing them. Flashy jewellery not so much, as I feel it's a bit bad taste.

It's their wall, not a democracy.

Why do people complain about social media users using social media for the purpose it was invented for?

Mother's Day is a difficult day for so many people for so many different reasons. Everyone knows this and many people share posts about it being tough. I think the gushing Mother's Day posts can be really insensitive (and pointless when the person isn't even on Facebook). I know many don't agree with me but I think you should do it all in person. Give them a call and tell them or thank them in person. Saves the risk of causing upset for others.

I have people like you. It is their page and they can post whatever they want. I was bullied at work and she used things I’d posted on Facebook ‘you don’t need to post what the weather says we all have windows and our own apps! It’s just fucking sad!’ Since then I post whatever the hell I want and if you don’t like it you don’t have to read the post or follow that person.

Why does it bother you so much. EIther scroll past or if they annoyyou so much pergaps have a rethink about whether you want them on your social media. I can never understand people that seem to have lots of social media friends that they don't like and have nothing in common with.

Because they’re insecure and seeking validation.

@NerrSnerr it’s a hard day for me as I can’t have children but I wouldn’t tell people what to put in their page. I like seeing people being happy.

I'm very, very middle aged and the one thing being post 50 I've learned is, just don't get het up about what others post on FB unless it's inflammatory or illegal.

Just scroll on by.

Just use Facebook for groups. It’s much better!

Because that's what Facebook is for.

It's Facebook, SM is always like that. Just scroll past.

It's interesting to read different perspectives. Our neighbours have been trying for a baby for a couple of years now. They're absolutely desperate for a child and I always felt almost embarrassed that I have four children, our youngest born in lockdown last year. We're quite close with them and had a conversation about their struggle and they said to me they actually love to see people celebrating their children. They love to see achievements posted on Facebook and "gushy" statuses on Mother's day or birthdays because they love to see children loved and appreciated and shown off! What they find really hard to deal with is the "my kids are arseholes, let's all drink gin" narrative.
I know that's not the same for everyone but it was a really interesting perspective for me.

@TheGumption as someone desperate for children who can’t have them I agree with them. Please give your kids an extra hug from me.

I don't get worked up about it but I do consider those people to be insensitive. I think it leads to unreasonable expectations and unnecessary upset for some people too.

All of your comments are much appreciated thank you. I find it interesting reading different perspectives. To be honest, I think less of people who do such blatant showing off ‘look at my pile of presents’, just like I would if do if they did it in real life.

People can put whatever they want on their walls.

However, the ones that do this that I see on mine I know don't have good relationships with their kids. Or their partners when they do it then too, like saying 'happy birthday' or 'happy anniversary' to them on FB.

There will be some who do, but I think the majority just sadly don't.

Because they’re happy and maybe want to spread their joy rather than the misery, negativity and nastiness thats usually on social media.

@BashfulClam

I have people like you. It is their page and they can post whatever they want. I was bullied at work and she used things I’d posted on Facebook ‘you don’t need to post what the weather says we all have windows and our own apps! It’s just fucking sad!’ Since then I post whatever the hell I want and if you don’t like it you don’t have to read the post or follow that person.

I feel sorry for you, to read one post and ‘hate’ ‘people like me’ just because I don’t like show offs. I don’t comment on weather, plates of food, pets, children etc as it’s their page and if I do it’s to say something positive. Desperate photos of ‘look how much I’ve got’ is completely different.

My question would be, why is anyone on Facebook at all?

But each to their own. OP, you could always block people whose content annoys you.

Yanbu.

I don’t really understand why folks should not post pics of their gifts. Why not? Is it envy? I don’t understand.

I think it’s lovely if my friends kids spoil them. Why does it need to be kept secret and not shown off, in case someone didn’t get gifts and is envious and pissed off?

My husband is usually shit. We've had a shit year. The kids were utterly delighted by the things they had got me so asked me to take a photo with the bits and them. Luckily I don't really care about the judgement of others, usually says more about them than me.

@piglet81

Because they’re insecure and seeking validation.

I doubt it. If they’ve loads of gifts, they are all ready being validated.

They are just showing the lovely things their kids did for them to their friends, why not.

If you find yourself upset they got gifts and have shown them, then unfriend, mute, scroll on by during special days.