Why do people need to show off gifts on Facebook?

[1AngelicFruitCake]

I don’t get it. Lovely seeing photos of people with Mums, messages etc. But why brag ‘I’ve been spoilt with my many presents’ then post photos of them? It just screams ‘Look at me!’ which I know Facebook is all about that but come on, it’s so needy!

YABU-people should put photos of their presents
YANBU-there’s no need to post photos of your presents

@LApprentiSorcier

My question would be, why is anyone on Facebook at all?

But each to their own. OP, you could always block people whose content annoys you.

Agree! I need to come off! Gorgeous handmade card photo - cute. Pile of presents - attention seeking. I just find it weird, it would be weird to me if someone at work said ‘look at this massive pile of presents I got’ and showed me a photo.

In an age of nothing being special or an event unless it’s on social media, it’s a bit sad.

People like boasting and showing off and some posts on SM are clearly because of these. However I would cut them some slack in the current circumstances. How else they could engage with family and friends? SM is the only way. We should be grateful that they exist and help us to connect somehow. My family doesn’t use FB so I don’t post anything like this but I understand that it’s different for others.

I posted a picture of a thoughtful practical gift my DH bought me from the children with a funny comment. Anyone who truly knows me will laugh as it’s a genius gift for my scatter brain at the moment.

Should I not post something funny.

Is the key question op why are you so pissed off seeing what your friends got for Mother’s Day?

I’ve seen loads of photos on my Facebook, I think it’s lovely. No I didn’t put any images of my gifts, but I’m not a major poster. And my daughter is 23.

I just can’t imagine being upset seeing someone else’s gifts and taking issue with it, unless I was in some way bitter or resentful about my own position?

@BashfulClam I wouldn't tell people not to post stuff. Just think it can be insensitive.

Not everywhere can be like mumsnet where nothing really positive is generally allowed and everything above destitution is unclassy boasting

I just find it weird, it would be weird to me if someone at work said ‘look at this massive pile of presents I got’ and showed me a photo

But that would be weird. Who walks about their work showing random colleagues pics of their presents

A thank you to you child on social media, with an image of rhe lovely gifts they got, is very different.

YANBU. It annoys me too! Attention-seeking and needy!

@CornishTiger

I posted a picture of a thoughtful practical gift my DH bought me from the children with a funny comment. Anyone who truly knows me will laugh as it’s a genius gift for my scatter brain at the moment.

Should I not post something funny.

You see, I would find that funny. That’s completely different.

This thread comes up every Mother's Day, Christmas, Valentine's Day and Easter.

It's not for me but I can't get fussed about what others post.

I'd much rather see photos of gifts than photos of people's kids, as I see that as an invasion of their privacy.

I've put a picture up of my gifts with links to all the producers/shops/owners in the hope it makes other people support these businesses. I like seeing what other people get as it gives me ideas for others.
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@SchrodingersImmigrant

Not everywhere can be like mumsnet where nothing really positive is generally allowed and everything above destitution is unclassy boasting

So true 😂😂

What are you seeking by posting this thread?

Attention.

There’s nothing wrong with it. Everybody needs attention. It’s the one that seek it by trying to pull others down that are the problem.

Op, I mean this gently, would it not be better to talk about what’s causing you to react so negatively? As the saying goes, you can’t change others behaviour, but you can change your reaction to it

I don’t think it’s likely your negative feelings are coming from something positive. So somethings driving your upset at seeing that.

Is maybe that not the issue to resolve? 💐

Well if you’re Facebook friends with my mum she bought that gift for herself because the one we sent her last year didn’t get enough likes and that’s her priority so....possibly a lot of very unhappy people posting those photos.

@Bluntness100

Is the key question op why are you so pissed off seeing what your friends got for Mother’s Day?

I’ve seen loads of photos on my Facebook, I think it’s lovely. No I didn’t put any images of my gifts, but I’m not a major poster. And my daughter is 23.

I just can’t imagine being upset seeing someone else’s gifts and taking issue with it, unless I was in some way bitter or resentful about my own position?

I’m not upset, just find it baffling. I tend to assume my friends are being treated (not necessarily materially) on Mother’s Day and don’t see why they need to thank their partner on Facebook

Thank you for asking I’ve had lovely cards, few gifts but, most importantly to me but I can see not everyone would agree, I’ve had time to read, have a long shower, go for a cold walk and just have time together. I don’t have the perfect life but I have a content life. I could make a Facebook post about my day but I don’t need to. I don’t need that validation from people I know.

Just out for different viewpoints but I’m happy to be cast as a resentful, bitter poster. 😄

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Not everywhere can be like mumsnet where nothing really positive is generally allowed and everything above destitution is unclassy boasting

This is so true!

Their wall, their business. You can either ignore or come off Facebook.

I agree OP. Some things don't need to be shared with the world, the worst IMO is when people post huge piles of Christmas presents. I can't see a reason for this other than to show off which i find insensitive. I would recommend a SM break.

Could be to show gratitude to the people who’ve given them gifts.

I've posted a picture of my lovely flowers on FB and tagged my kids so that they can see what was delivered.

I haven't seen either of them for over a year.

Hope that's OK with you OP?

@Bluntness100

Op, I mean this gently, would it not be better to talk about what’s causing you to react so negatively? As the saying goes, you can’t change others behaviour, but you can change your reaction to it

I don’t think it’s likely your negative feelings are coming from something positive. So somethings driving your upset at seeing that.

Is maybe that not the issue to resolve? 💐

That’s very kind thank you. I don’t like people publicly showing off and like people doing the same as me. Unreasonable, yes but honest! Let’s face it, we all have little niggles and this is mine. I’m really not ‘upset’ just find it annoying 😄 For the record i love reading families together, seeing a photo of flowers that have been sent to someone in need of them etc. I specifically find the ‘look at my pile of presents’ annoying. Anyway, that’s it but thank you 😊

@Advic3Pl3as3

What are you seeking by posting this thread?

Attention.

There’s nothing wrong with it. Everybody needs attention. It’s the one that seek it by trying to pull others down that are the problem.

Waving...yes you’ve seen me! Thank you! Phew I’ve had my attention fix for the day!

I don't mind what others post, I quite like seeing them happy and showing off their gifts their proud / happy with it makes me feel happy for them.

@FoonySpucker

I've posted a picture of my lovely flowers on FB and tagged my kids so that they can see what was delivered.

I haven't seen either of them for over a year.

Hope that's OK with you OP?

That’s not the same as a ‘pile of presents’ as I said but thank you 😊

I don’t “do” Facebook etc largely because I don’t have a whole lot of interest in the minutiae of other peoples lives. I don’t understand people who sign up to something that has millions of users and then whine that some of those users post things that you personally are not interested in or wouldn’t choose to share. So what ?

As to it being insensitive because others may be having a difficult time well, I think we all need to take some responsibility for ourselves around our use of social media. Mother’s Day occurs every year so if a person knows seeing other people celebrating or receiving gifts is going to upset them, it’s for that person to decide whether or not to look at this stuff. The insistence that the possible feelz of every randomer must be considered before anyone can put up what are objectively pretty innocuous posts gets pretty tiresome imo.