Why do people need to show off gifts on Facebook?

[1AngelicFruitCake]

I don’t get it. Lovely seeing photos of people with Mums, messages etc. But why brag ‘I’ve been spoilt with my many presents’ then post photos of them? It just screams ‘Look at me!’ which I know Facebook is all about that but come on, it’s so needy!

YABU-people should put photos of their presents
YANBU-there’s no need to post photos of your presents

Meh. I don’t do it myself but I do enjoy seeing what others got. It doesn’t annoy me but then I am nosey

@Hellodarknessmyoldpal

I agree OP. Some things don't need to be shared with the world, the worst IMO is when people post huge piles of Christmas presents. I can't see a reason for this other than to show off which i find insensitive. I would recommend a SM break.

Thanks!😊 Huge pile of presents I’m just at!

So many people seem to think if they don’t show off on social media then it doesn’t mean as much.

When I see my friends posting about good things in their lives, be that piles of presents, lovely holidays, promotions or super days out, I feel happy that nice things are happening for them, because they are my friends, and I want them to be happy.

If I was feeling anything else, I'd be digging deep inside myself to try to understand what was wrong in my life that made me think so unkindly of others, or why I would not wish good things for my friends.

What you're clearly doing here OP, is having a dig at a lot of Mumsnetters (under the guise of "But..but..but I don't understand?") because you know some will very likely have posted their gifts and flowers on Facebook today.

In that sense I agree with Bluntless, in that you should probably examine why trying to piss on their chips brings you pleasure.

@mrsm43s

When I see my friends posting about good things in their lives, be that piles of presents, lovely holidays, promotions or super days out, I feel happy that nice things are happening for them, because they are my friends, and I want them to be happy.

If I was feeling anything else, I'd be digging deep inside myself to try to understand what was wrong in my life that made me think so unkindly of others, or why I would not wish good things for my friends.

I love holiday, celebration photos etc I just find the piles of presents photos just cringey. I promise I’ll have a look at myself today to see what else is going on 🤔 Seriously, I find ‘look at my presents’ annoying! I wish I was deeper than that but I’m not! 😄

None of the 20 or so people I am friended with on Facebook have done this. You must be friended to the wrong people if you don't like what they post. I wonder what they think of what you post. What do you post? I think of Facebook as a photographic diary of my life that I choose to share with a few select people. That's it's point isn't it?

@WorraLiberty

What you're clearly doing here OP, is having a dig at a lot of Mumsnetters (under the guise of "But..but..but I don't understand?") because you know some will very likely have posted their gifts and flowers on Facebook today.

In that sense I agree with Bluntless, in that you should probably examine why trying to piss on their chips brings you pleasure.

You’ve been on Mumsnet for years so I’m quite excited you’ve posted! It’s a bit like people are saying to me...if they don’t want to read this thread, then scroll on by! I’m not after making anyone miserable. Either you dont show off and agree with me, don’t do it but would if you had the chance or you do post photos so presumably don’t care. I’m sure a thread by a completely unknown poster isn’t going to spoil someone showing off their presents on Facebook and if it does then maybe they need to look at what that says about them, as many posters have said I should do!

Either you dont show off and agree with me, don’t do it but would if you had the chance or you do post photos so presumably don’t care.

How about none of the above?

I obviously have the chance, as I have a phone that's capable of taking photos and a Facebook account. Yet believe it or not I still disagree with you.

You've been called out on passive aggressively trying to piss on some mum's chips, on a public forum on Mother's Day.

So yes, I really think you should be asking yourself why that brings you pleasure.

Because they want external validation I guess.

I just scroll on by. You should too, if it bothers you.

Good lord we have this tripe of post after every celebration.

Who cares. Turn it off, unfollow, scroll on by, ignore, like or don't. The problem is yours not theirs.

Tripe = type but actually tripe fits rather well

I tend to avoid fb on special occasions as I can't stand the gushing and showing off. It really shouldn't bug me but I just don't like attention seekers.

@BashfulClam

I love holiday, celebration photos etc I just find the piles of presents photos just cringey. I promise I’ll have a look at myself today to see what else is going on 🤔 Seriously, I find ‘look at my presents’ annoying! I wish I was deeper than that but I’m not!

But why? Why do you find your friends posting pictures of stuff that makes them proud and happy "cringey" or annoying? Surely you can see that the normal reaction from a happy, well adjusted person would be delighted to see your friends happy? What is it that is stopping you from being happy for your friends? What's eating away inside of you to make you react like this?

I like a bit of attention now and again. I've posted 4 pictures of my daughter on facebook- she is 1. One from when we took her home from hospital, Father's Day, Christmas, and today.

I posted a photo of her with the flowers from DH and the card that nursery helped her make.

Some people post photos of their kids daily. Some people post photos of their breakfast or their morning run. Each to their own. I think it's nice to get a bit of positive attention on a nice day.

I haven't seen any photos with piles of presents. I've seen a few of a breakfast tray/home made cards/flowers, or posts of people with their mother thanking them for being a lovely mother. I think it's sweet.

I don't think people posting pictures of piles of presents is a very common thing, or an issue.

YABU to be so bothered about what other people are doing. It's not harming anyone. If you don't like it, unfollow them.

I put my sons card up on Facebook days ago I was proud 🤷‍♀️ the child who cannot write much at all managed a legible card with a picture of me and him lots of kisses and he didn't have to trace any of it!

I think it’s sweet. You sound a bit jealous and insecure @1AngelicFruitCake

I long ago stopped caring what others think about what I post and stopped caring about what most people post, there are some exceptions. 😆

I posted a plate of toast my 11 year old made me this morning. He has learning disabilities and I'm super proud.

I can never understand why some people get worked up about how others use their own FB account. If you don't like it, then hide the posts.

@BigPaperBag

I think it’s sweet. You sound a bit jealous and insecure *@1AngelicFruitCake*

Thank you!

It makes regifting impossible!

@WorraLiberty

Either you dont show off and agree with me, don’t do it but would if you had the chance or you do post photos so presumably don’t care.

How about none of the above?

I obviously have the chance, as I have a phone that's capable of taking photos and a Facebook account. Yet believe it or not I still disagree with you.

You've been called out on passive aggressively trying to piss on some mum's chips, on a public forum on Mother's Day.

So yes, I really think you should be asking yourself why that brings you pleasure.

I find it interesting to hear other people say why they do it. I’ve not shouted anyone down or argued. Why start a thread? Why not? Clearly you have as much time as I do to reply to me! Call me jealous, bitter etc that’s fine. I think what I think and you disagree. Ask yourself, why has my posted bothered you? Just like I didn’t have to start this thread, you didn’t have to reply!

@inkysplatter

It makes regifting impossible!

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